Here is a translation in English: Pleasure Mapping: Maximize Your Orgasms

Translation in English as listed:
Want to feel maximum pleasure during your sexual encounters? Try the Pleasure Mapping technique. Sensuality and excitement guaranteed!

 

 

It is well known that women have more difficulty reaching orgasm than men. And then the latter is not an obligation during every sexual intercourse. However, there are techniques that ensure maximum pleasure for both partners during a session of « jambes en l’air ». Because even if we do not enjoy every time, we can still have top pleasure. So initiate yourself to the joys of « pleasure mapping », which promises to make you climb to the 7th heaven like never before.

The idea is simple in itself. It pushes you to explore your body as much as that of your partner. You thus set out to search for each other’s different strong>erogenous zones, especially the most sensitive ones, to vibrate intensely. From the nape of the neck to the nipples, via the armpits or the inside of the thighs, it is not just the intimate parts that need to be stimulated.

 

Pleasure Mapping : mode d’emploi

Translation in English:
If the technique may remind one of slow sex or tantrism, it has a small difference. In fact, here, one seeks the most sensitive point(s) to optimize pleasure.

So, let go completely on sensual caresses, whether it’s with a partner or solo. Play with different levels of pressure. Imagine the other person’s body as a map of pleasure to explore. Slide from area to area, taking your time with tenderness, delicacy or a hint of wildness according to your preferences. Add some sexy and languorous kisses, as well as little corners that you titillate with your tongue. Let your hands wander to where each can achieve extasy.

Translation in English:

Pleasure mapping is a new approach to tame sex, like an erotic massage. Sex isn’t necessarily an end but it offers a new intimate way of communicating. And that’s exciting. Very exciting.

 

 

Pourquoi il est difficile d’identifier vos plaisirs ? 

There are many reasons why people struggle to name what feels good for them. We live in a culture that is both sex-obsessed and sex-negative. If the things that feel good to you don’t match up with what you think they’re supposed to be, or if you worry they won’t match up with what you think your partner thinks they’re supposed to be, it’s easy to get stuck in a cycle of shame and avoid asking for what you want.

But even more than that, a lot of people don’t really know how to describe what makes them feel good. Telling a partner something like « I love light circles on my clitoris » or « it feels great when you surround my glans with your tongue » requires a level of specificity that a lot of people can’t put into words. In some ways, it’s harder for people with vulvas — much of the sexy action is hard or impossible to see. People with penises can look down and get a good idea of what’s going on, at least for certain activities.

 

 

Il y a quelques stratégies différentes que les gens disent avoir essayées…

Some people will comment on a partner with words or sounds or body language to let them know when they are doing something that feels good for them. While this can be helpful in the moment, it doesn’t make future requests easier. The best you can do is ask them to « do what you did just now. » This might work, but only if they remember exactly what it was. Also, it doesn’t transfer from one partner to another.

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Another way is to try and be patient while your partner tries to guess what you’d like, while hoping for the best. It can be a bit like trying to throw a dart at the board with your eyes closed – it takes more luck than you might think. And if your partner unknowingly does something that doesn’t feel good to you, you may end up with some uncomfortable touching. By the time they switch to something else, your excitement has worn off and resentment has set in.

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Sometimes people try to force themselves to enjoy everything their partner does. But that’s about as effective as trying to get you to like food or music you don’t like. Whether it’s a sex act you never find enjoyable, or something you could love another time…But not tonight…There’s no way to force yourself to appreciate something when it’s just not the right thing, at the right time, in the right situation.

 

Prévoyez un temps d’expérimentation

Translation in English as listed:
The purpose of a Pleasure Mapping session is not to have an amazing orgasm, although that’s certainly not a problem if it happens along the way. Instead, the goal is to get information about what feels good to your body. Think of it like wine tasting. You’re going to try a lot of different things, just exploring what they feel like.

Translation in English as listed:
If you try a dozen different types of sexual stimulation and discover three that are amazing, that’s a win. It doesn’t matter if there are nine others you don’t like. All that matters is figuring out the three (or six or one) that work for you.

Plan for at least an hour for this. The more time you can take, the more you can relax and follow your body’s messages. Just like with wine tasting, you will get the most out of the experience if you don’t rush it.

 

Faites preuve de créativité

Translation in English as listed:
The whole point of Pleasure Mapping is to try lots of different things. If you’re not sure what that looks like, get a book or a movie. Just make sure you don’t put any lube or bodily fluids on your keyboard or remote control!

 

Chauffez-vous un peu

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Sexual arousal changes how we process sensations, which is why getting bitten on the neck during a fun sexual experience is different from getting bitten on the neck while writing an email. If you build up some erotic charge before moving onto mapping out pleasure, it will be easier to have a clear idea of what each technique might feel like in a sexual situation.

 

Comment donner un feedback

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Now that you’re warmed up, you can start with pleasure mapping. Try one of the techniques and focus on tracking her pleasure. There are several ways to do this.

Some people like to rate it on a scale of one to ten, where 10 means « never stop doing that! » and 1 is « maybe we should put this on Netflix. » Other people have trouble using numbers or words because it takes them out of their body and into their head. If that’s you, you can give your partner a thumbs up, squeeze their arm or leg, or just say « yes. » It’s also helpful to have a nonverbal signal for « stop doing that. »

 

Comment recevoir des commentaires

The most important thing to remember when receiving feedback during a Pleasure Mapping session is that your partner is evaluating the technique, not your skill as a lover. After all, you may be an amazing chef, but if I hate the taste of coriander, I’m not going to love your ceviche.

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While it’s good for everyone to keep this in mind, I find it even more valuable for men. We often wrap our ego around our sexual skills because of the idea « Act like a man ». And we often take it personally if a lover tells us they don’t appreciate something we do. A good way to avoid getting caught up in that cycle of shame is to remind yourself your partner is talking about technique, not you as a person or as a lover.

I find there are two easy steps you can take to do this. First, once you’ve been doing a particular move for a little while, ask your partner to tell you how they evaluate it. This makes you an active participant in pleasure mapping and reminds both of you that the intention is to gather data. Secondly, whatever their response, thank them for sharing it with you. It’s a great way to stop yourself from getting too caught up in your ego, and it helps them give better feedback because they know it’s welcome.

 

Utilisez les commentaires

When your partner rates something a 6 or higher (or when they squeeze your arm or say « yes »), mentally note that movement because it’s a keeper. If you have trouble remembering, you can even write it down. After the Pleasure Mapping session (or during if it doesn’t kill the mood), describe what you were doing. Try to put it into words, but if that doesn’t work, you can also demonstrate it. For example, if your partner likes their clitoris sucked, show them with your fingers. Show them how much pressure they like on their G-spot or prostate with your fingers on the back of their hand. Or if you were using a film to guide you, go back to that technique so they can watch along.

This is probably the most important step as this is how they learn to describe what they want. « Make firm circles on my prostate  » is much easier to understand than « do this thing with your finger ».

You can also use their feedback to look for patterns in their sexual response. For example, you could tell them that they like light touch on the head of their penis and firm pressure on their testicles. Or circles on their clitoris and « come here » on their G-spot. Or light touch at first, with more intensity later. Whatever the patterns or combinations, you’ll be giving them the amazing gift of knowing more about their sexual response and how to share that information for asking during sex.

 

 

Essayez autre chose

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Once you have tried a technique and rated it, move on to something different. If you find a movement that feels amazing (like a 9 or a 10), feel free to stick with it for a bit, but don’t lose sight of the main goal of Pleasure Mapping. You can always come back to this movement later.

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As well as trying different techniques, you can vary them by changing the tempo or intensity. You might find that adding more speed or pressure makes you feel better, or you might find it becomes less enjoyable. You may even find there’s a ‘sweet spot’ where it’s just right. Each time you change what you’re doing, give yourself a few seconds to get into it and then ask them how they rate it.

 

Et ensuite ?

You can make your Pleasure Mapping session as long or short as you like. You can conclude when you feel that you have obtained enough information, or you can transition to a more erotic experience. Also, you can switch roles and try the other side. It might be fun to do it in sequence, or you may want to do it another time. There is no right or wrong way to proceed, except what works for both of you.

Translation in English as shown:
The most important thing is that you both learn more about your sexual pleasures and responses, and have new ways of asking for what you want. If that’s where things end up, it’s a big win!

 

Quelques conseils utiles pour le Pleasure Mapping

1 – Étant donné que l’excitation peut modifier la façon dont le système nerveux traite les sensations, vous constaterez peut-être qu’une technique qui ne donne qu’un 2 au début peut être un 7 plus tard.

It’s worth trying some of these moves later to see if anything has changed. (Though if something gets a big no or negative number you probably don’t need to give it another shot.)

 

2 – L’une des erreurs les plus courantes que les gens commettent est de penser que le meilleur sexe se produit lorsque vous ajoutez de plus en plus de sensations.

Unfortunately, this can lead to overstimulation which makes the body numb. You will have a lot more fun if you take into account the rise and fall of excitement. In some ways it’s like eating spicy food. There is usually something that cools your mouth such as chutney, whipped cream, raita or yogurt sauce. Moving from hot to cold to hot allows you to enjoy the flavors much more than adding more heat with each bite.

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This connects to Pleasure Mapping because a technique that rates a 3 is an excellent way to cool things down and give your lover a chance to catch their breath. Then you can do this move rated a 9 and bring them back up. They will actually feel more pleasure than if you stayed with the 9 the whole time. It’s much easier to do when you have the information from a Pleasure Mapping session.

 

3 – Étant donné que les corps changent avec le temps, nous découvrons souvent que nos goûts et nos dégoûts changent aussi.

After all, most of us don’t eat the same food at 20 as we do at 40, so why should the sex we enjoy stay the same? Mapping pleasure is an excellent way to explore how your sexuality may have changed. It can be particularly helpful after pregnancy and childbirth, as well as during or after menopause, as these experiences can alter the sexual response. Some people find that starting or stopping hormonal contraception can make a difference, as can a hysterectomy or prostatectomy. Many medications can also alter your sexual response. But even if none of these types of medical events have occurred, if sex just doesn’t feel the same as it used to, Pleasure Mapping can help you get back on track.

 

4 – Le redémarrage n’est pas seulement pour faire face à un événement clairement défini comme un problème médical.

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It’s easy for long-term couples to fall into sexual routines where they do what they’ve always done. Mapping out pleasure is a helpful way to bring a beginner’s mindset to your sex life and get a fresh perspective. If your relationship feels good, but your sexual connection seems stale, try mapping out pleasure and see if it helps you discover new ways to have fun together.

 

5 – Vous pouvez utiliser Pleasure Mapping tout en explorant le BDSM.

Translation in English as listed:
It works for all sorts of activities, like spanking, role-playing, flogging, bondage or almost anything you might want to try. And you can use it to explore touch anywhere on the body. It’s not just for sex.

 

6 – Le Pleasure Mapping peut aussi se faire en solo.

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It’s a great way to experiment with your pleasure response without the pressure of a partner’s expectations or if you don’t have anyone to try it with.

 

7 – Enfin, vous pourriez trouver utile d’essayer la cartographie du plaisir avec un éducateur sexuel somatique.

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These are people who offer somatic erotic exploration in a safe container and strong ethical code so that you can learn more about your sexual patterns, acquire skills for embodiment and self-regulated erotic energy, and create new behavioral patterns to facilitate creating the sex connections you desire.

 

 

You’ll get different information by working with a practitioner than you will by exploring with a partner because they have a broader perspective. They occupy a different space from partners and don’t have the same emotional attachment to your process or outcome. Working with a practitioner can be especially helpful if you’re back on the dating scene for the first time in a long while, as you can get new tools and ideas to facilitate sexual communication. It’s also useful if you’re on a healing path, particularly around sexual trauma.

Whatever way you decide to use Pleasure Mapping, it’s a simple and effective tool for figuring out what you like, finding better ways to ask for what you want, and even discovering things you didn’t know would be wonderful. And it goes a long way in helping you create an amazing sex life.