English: First Date: The 20 Questions You Should Never Ask

There are usually two types of first dates: the ones that go like clockwork – where time flies by so fast that the restaurant has to remind you they’re closing – and the ones that are…well, less harmonious.

 

 

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Obviously, the first type of initial meeting is ideal, but a less than perfect first date doesn’t necessarily mean all hope is lost. In fact, if things go pretty well, a second date could be in order, which could potentially turn into something more serious.

But there’s a way to make sure this never happens again: ask the wrong questions the first time around. Here are twenty questions to avoid at all costs if you want to see that person again…

 

1 –  » Vous semblez bien, alors pourquoi êtes-vous toujours célibataire ? « 

There are so many problems with this question. For starters, it assumes that there’s something wrong with being single. Beyond that, it’s entirely possible for a person to not have met their soulmate yet and therefore not be in a relationship. If you’re on a date and realize you’re sitting across from someone who seems amazing and is still single, don’t ask them why. Let’s just be happy!

 

2 –  » Sur quelles applications de rencontres êtes-vous ? « 

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What does it really serve for? As a rule, this is just a denial session of all existing applications and sites. This adds nothing to your first date experience.

 

3 –  » Vous n’êtes pas fou, si ? « 

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You follow up with something like « I’ve been dating a lot of crazy people lately. » While this may seem cute at first, it can come across as strange to your date. After all, the person might start wondering why you’re dating so many crazy people in the first place. It’s better to focus on questions that actually get at what your date is about.

 

 

4 –  » Où voyez-vous cette relation aller ? « 

This always makes the asker sound desperate, stupid and rushed while also annoying or stressing out the person being asked. To be fair, it’s a pretty heavy question to ask someone you just met.

 

5 –  » Combien cela a-t-il coûté ? « 

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Whether it’s their apartment, watch or luxury handbag, it’s none of your business. It’s just plain rude and makes you seem shallow for caring only about money. You can compliment something without wanting to qualify it with a price tag. Even in a couple, if you have separate finances, you shouldn’t feel obligated to tell your partner the price of something you’re spending your own money on.

 

6 –  » Voyez-vous quelqu’un d’autre ? « 

This question implies a more intimate one: Are you having sex with anyone else? And the first date is just too early to ask about that. Any time you bring up the subject of sex early on in a relationship, it can be seen as intrusive or like it’s all you’re interested in from the person. The topic of sex isn’t something that should be taken lightly or broached too soon.

 

7 –  » Aimez-vous ma tenue ? « 

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Or any other question related to your appearance. These are touchy questions and the answers may not satisfy you. Another area to avoid? You certainly don’t want to put someone on the spot by asking if they have had a first date with people of your race or religion.

 

 

8 –  » Voulez-vous avoir des enfants ? « 

The first few dates should be about getting to know someone without jumping the gun. Those questions can come later. Wait until you’ve known each other a little before bringing up those topics.

 

9 –  » Quels sont vos motifs de rupture ? « 

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It may seem like asking upfront saves time, but it can backfire. This question comes across as if you’re trying to figure out what your other person likes so you can pretend to be that or decide right away if they are worth your time. Chances are if someone has real hang-ups, they will bring them up in their own way.

 

10 –  » Comment va votre relation avec vos parents ? « 

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The subject of parents can touch people and make them uncomfortable. This is especially true if they are not on good terms or if they don’t have any parents. Additionally, people automatically assume that if you don’t have a good relationship with your parents, you must have issues with mom or dad, which may not be the case.

 

11 –  » Qu’êtes-vous ? « 

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If you’re asking this question to interrogate someone about their race or ethnicity, maybe don’t. If someone wants you to know about their race or religion, they will tell you.

 

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12 –  » Que voulez-vous faire ce soir ? « 

Enjoy a date when you have plans in place. If you ask where they want to eat it often feels like you haven’t put any thought or preparation into the first date and that it doesn’t matter to you. If you’re stumped, prepare a few options and ask which one he/she prefers.

 

13 –  » Buvez-vous beaucoup ? Parce que moi oui. « 

This might be perceived as a strangely awkward comment but things can go wrong. You probably don’t drink as much as you think and discussing topics like this, even if a joke can go wrong if someone doesn’t know you yet. They don’t know you so they may not distinguish jokes from the truth. Hold off on that kind of comment for a while.

 

14 –  » Pourquoi votre dernière relation a-t-elle pris fin ? « 

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As curious as you may be, don’t ask about past relationships, especially the dynamics of a recent divorce or breakup. At this point in your relationship, it really isn’t your business to know the gory details of the breakup or how many people the person has slept with since their divorce.

 

15 –  » Que recherchez-vous dans une relation ? « 

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This is yet another topic to save for later. There’s no need to put so much pressure on the other person. Let her enjoy the first date without worrying about what comes next. If she wants a second date, you’ll know, trust me. If not, it’s better to make things as easy and gracious for her as possible. Also, when you ask this question, you may come across as hoping to know what the other person wants so that you can play your role. It’s better to let things happen authentically.

 

16 –  » Avec combien de personnes avez-vous couché ? « 

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This question is never really appropriate, but especially not on a first date. It’s none of your business. Why should it be revealed to you, a complete stranger, that they may never see again?!!

 

 

17 –  » Êtes-vous propriétaire de votre maison ? « 

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You might think you’re subtly assessing their financial situation, but you’re actually being rude… Trying to figure out how much your date has in the bank is never a good idea.

 

18 –  » Quelle est votre position sexuelle préférée ? « 

If you want to avoid having a second date, this is an excellent way to eliminate any possibility. Maybe you thought it would be funny or a great icebreaker, but no.

 

19 – “ Mangez-vous / buvez-vous toujours autant ? ”

Some people used to ask for it. The reasons they give? Wanting to know how much it would cost if everything was going well between you, or generally liking thinner partners. Whatever the reason, anyone who asks for this is a loser and it’s a red flag that screams they should be avoided at all costs. They obviously have no tact.

 

20 –  » Parlez-moi de vous « 

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Okay, so this isn’t technically a question, but the question is implied. It’s an overwhelming statement that usually causes an awkward pause. The best approach is to just ask what you want to know. Opening up first is also a good way to get into topics that interest you. So take the first step.

 

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