From the age of 40, some couples complain of having less sex than before. Between routine, raising children, or work stress and fatigue, libido takes a back seat. Yet sexual fulfillment isn’t that hard to maintain. Here are a few habits that will help you achieve it.
While the forties are the ideal decade for a couple, because children are no longer babies and men and women have strong sexual desires (sometimes even outside the relationship), it’s not always easy to keep libido at its peak with the routine that has long set in within the couple and the related issues that drag on in bed. Don’t let these problems hinder your relationship and intervene as soon as they arise. The most important thing is to awaken the couple’s erotic senses by adding a touch of sensuality. Because that’s often what’s missing: a little effort to make things more fascinating and keep desire alive. Here’s how to make a couple’s sex life more exciting.
Leave your problems outside
Don’t let financial problems worry you. That’s why it’s good for you to manage your finances. Monitoring and anticipating your expenses can save you a lot of trouble, especially at the end of the month. Money worries are one of the main causes of lack of sex.
Be attentive to your partner, know how to identify their needs and desires. It’s through small gestures that you’ll maintain your couple’s closeness.
If you don’t spend enough time together outside the home, come together around a shared passion, go to the movies, learn ballroom dancing, take walks in nature, travel regularly, or restore furniture. Anything is an excuse to share time together.
Watch your diet
Adopt a healthy and balanced diet. Pay attention to what you eat to avoid being overweight. At this age, slip-ups are harder to overcome.
Take vitamins! Did you know that vitamin B acts as a sexual stimulant? Vitamin B3 coordinates sex hormones, vitamin B5 produces sex hormones, and vitamin B6 regulates mood and libido by producing serotonin and dopamine. So increase your vitamin B intake now or take supplements.
Exercise. Not only is it good for maintaining the body, but it also regulates hormones and therefore mood. Fewer fights, more pleasure for two.
Season your dishes with mild spices like ginger, saffron, nutmeg, thyme, vanilla, or pepper. Wake up your taste buds before waking up your libido.
Take care of your blood circulation: beware of a sedentary lifestyle and fatty or spicy foods. And remember to stay as hydrated as possible.
Sleep well
Pay special attention to your bedding. Back pain or poor sleep can be a real blow. Being relaxed and well-rested, and not having a creaky mattress, can make all the difference.
Spend a few moments reconnecting. There’s nothing better than spending time together, like a candlelit dinner, a romantic weekend in a nice quiet house, or a relaxing moment at the spa. These little breaks from everyday life will bring you even closer together.
Say sexy things to each other, express your desires and wants, explain in detail what you want to do or have done during your next sexual encounter. Feeling it can be very exciting. And if you’re not very talkative, write little erotic messages to your partner throughout the day.
Change your habits to spend more time together
Spend less time on your cell phone, don’t turn on the TV when you get home from work in the evening, put the kids to bed earlier… You’ll find ways to make the most of this extra time.
To avoid routine, don’t forget to compliment each other. You still love your partner just as much, so even if you’ve said it a thousand times, you’ll never get enough of it.
Cuddle, be tactile, kiss and touch each other. Touch is essential for maintaining desire in a couple…
Drink aphrodisiac drinks, like watermelon juice.
Try new things. To break the routine, nothing beats novelty: seek out unusual places, new stimuli, or even practices you’ve never tried before. When it comes to sex, it’s never too late to try new things! It will multiply your desire and its effectiveness.
Finally, don’t neglect your own pleasure as a stimulant for your partner’s pleasure. It works like a virtuous circle. The more your partner sees you experiencing pleasure during sex, the more you will stimulate them to experience pleasure and give it. The secret: focus on your own pleasure.
