You thought you had to look super virile to please a woman and put a ring on her finger? Or keep her close to you? You were completely wrong. Indeed, there are surprising traits in a man that can lead to a long-term relationship. Want to discover them?
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The criteria we look for in a partner can often surprise us, especially when they differ from traditional gender stereotypes. For men in particular, certain qualities can be much more attractive than one might think when it comes to building a lasting relationship.
Quelles qualités rechercher ?
When looking to build a long-term relationship, certain characteristics like seriousness, kindness, attentiveness, respect, and patience are often cited at the top of the list. These qualities far outweigh physical attributes and can play a crucial role in the success of a relationship.
A recent study published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior by Thomas Felesina and Brendan Zietsch explored the impact of perceived « femininity » in men on their attractiveness in the context of romantic relationships.
Feminine traits, really?
Researchers sought to determine whether traits traditionally attributed to women, such as sociability, could make men more attractive for a long-term relationship. They recruited 152 participants to evaluate 18 male dating profiles, each presenting masculine traits, feminine traits, or a mix of both. Masculine traits included qualities like adventurousness and competitiveness, while feminine traits included sociability.
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Les résultats surprenants
During the evaluation, it appeared that profiles combining masculine and feminine traits were the most attractive to the participants, followed by feminine profiles, then masculine ones. In terms of long-term relationships, men with feminine traits were judged more attractive. For short-term relationships, all profiles had their place. This suggests that men with feminine traits have better prospects for long-term partnerships while remaining desirable in the short term.
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De meilleurs pères ?
In another experiment, the participants were asked to evaluate the paternal skills of the same profiles. Men with feminine features were perceived as better fathers than those with purely masculine features. The researchers hypothesize that these feminine qualities may make men more attractive as partners due to their perceived parenting skills, thus offering an evolutionary advantage.
Statistics on couples in France and around the world
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To provide more context, let’s look at some recent statistics on couples in France and around the world:
- In France, according to an INSEE study from 2020, about 72% of couples are in a civil union or married.
- Still in France, the divorce rate has slightly decreased, from 51% in 2010 to 44% in 2020.
- According to a 2024 Meetic study, 42% will be less picky about age, 33% will place less importance on the other’s figure, and 31% on their height.
- 46% of singles say they cannot make a concession about… the other’s smell, ahead of shared values (40%) and the upbringing that shaped their personality (31%).
- And to maximize their chances in dating, singles in France are now many (54%) choosing not to drink alcohol on a first date. The main motivation for this Dry Dating? Alcoholic drinks would not allow them to be truly themselves, according to 28% of respondents.
- Overall, a 2020 study by Stanford University revealed that couples who share household chores equally have a 40% higher chance of reporting a happy and lasting relationship.
- In the United States, about 10% of adults in a relationship met their partner on a dating site or app, a figure reaching 20% among those under 30 and 24% among LGBTQ+ adults (Pew Research Center).
- Nearly half of dating site users report having had positive experiences, with men reporting slightly more positive experiences than women (57% vs. 48%) (Pew Research Center).
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Some tips to improve your attractiveness
Whether you are looking for a short-term relationship or a lasting partnership, certain qualities can significantly enhance your attractiveness. The following tips, based on contemporary research and observations, will help you highlight character traits that are often underestimated but highly valued. By cultivating these aspects of your personality, you will increase your chances of building a fulfilling and balanced relationship.
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Develop your active listening
Take the time to truly listen to your partner, without interrupting. Show them that their words are important to you.
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Montrez de l’empathie
Try to understand and feel what your partner is experiencing. This creates a strong emotional bond.
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Soyez flexible
Couple life often requires compromises. Be ready to adapt your plans and make concessions.
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Partagez les responsabilités
Whether it’s household chores or managing finances, an equitable sharing strengthens respect and balance in the couple.
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Cultivez votre gentillesse
Small thoughtful gestures often make all the difference and show your partner that they matter to you.
By incorporating these tips, you will maximize your chances of building a lasting and satisfying relationship. After all, it is often the little things that make the big differences.
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Mot de la fin
So it seems that personality traits traditionally attributed to women, such as sociability and empathy, can play a crucial role in men’s attractiveness for long-term relationships. This is not so much a matter of femininity or masculinity, but rather of human qualities that foster respect, understanding, and collaboration within a couple. So gentlemen, do not hesitate to embrace your more empathetic and sociable sides – this could well be the key to a fulfilling and lasting relationship!
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