So much is said about anal sex (especially about pain or the image of sodomy) that it is difficult to know what the main parties think.
A round of women’s testimonies about sodomy.
Sodomy – A Less and Less Taboo Subject
The practice ofanal sexIt is even slowly coming out of pornography to regain a normal character in sexual relationships (and not just in homosexual couples).
It is interesting to compare two IFOP surveys on the subject: in 1970, only 14% of women reported having tried sex at least once.sodomyWhen asked the same question in 2019, 53% of women have tested it. However, only 7% of women say that they do it regularly. So we have a right to ask why women do not engage more in anal penetration. Are they afraid of pain, of having a bad reputation or have they had a bad experience?
A Feeling Between Pleasure and Pain
This is for Claire. For example, pleasure is not the reason why she engages in sodomy, because she describes the sensation she feels as « weird », oscillating between pleasure and pain, yet she has a good memory of her first experience, which took place in an extremely caring setting with her then-lover.
In short, a context rather conducive to a successful experience but which left him with a mixed memory. He was nevertheless gentle and very patient. He started by caressing me from time to time on this side, reading me stories that talked about it… I eagerly accepted (and a little bit of apprehension and it went rather well, besides they did it again a few times at my request. But I have to say that I do not really enjoy it, if it is not that of giving it to him .
This is not an isolated case and the desire to please the other person is often cited as the main motivation for the act.
Does it hurt?
The first question that women who have not yet tried it ask themselves is that of pain, yet pain is something that is still accepted (to a certain extent) in sexual intercourse.
For example, Flore thinks it’s normal that it hurts a little bit and throws a jai just a little bit the day after . But if it hurts, it’s because it wasn’t done right. If the passage is more delicate, there are still ways to do it that allow you to take the time to dilate the sphincters so that it goes smoothly. So it’s essential to take your time and increase the excitement.
Much of the pleasure is played out in the brain. It requires a certain amount of letting go and a willingness to act, without embarrassment or guilt. Physical preparation is also necessary. It is recommended to go first with the fingers or a small sexual object to begin with.
The use of the tongue to activate the sensation of pleasure is not unnecessary either. Remember the lubricant, the anal area does not lubricate itself, so it is essential to add it. Gradually the penetration will be done. So it requires patience. Morgane uses lubricant to feel less pain: I tried several times and the first time it really hurt. The next time we used lubricant, and it went much better. So I relaxed and good, I would not say that I found it too good but my faith … .
So the issue of pain is not normal: if you’re good at it and everyone wants it, there’s no reason why it should hurt.
A New Kind of Pleasure
When all the factors are combined, anal sex is a real source of pleasure for both men and women. This is what Alexandra thinks in particular: I love sodomy even if we do it very rarely. You really have to want it both , she says. It is also important at the beginning to choose a position where we are confident, it is up to us to guide that it does not hurt , she says.
Here again, pornography is not far off in our minds, and we tend to imagine it in terms of a male dominating position and also pain for the woman under his assault, but there’s nothing to stop you from doing anal sex in other positions.
The spoon, for example, has a more romantic side when cuddling.One can also think of the andromaque which has the advantage of allowing the woman to control the rhythm, angle and depth of penetration (so as to reassure her).In short there are many ways of practicing sodomy and not everything is a matter of male domination over the woman.
And if you gentlemen are really curious about the sensation of anal penetration, why not reverse the trend and test theprostatic pleasureHow about next time?
