Recently, we saw how to practice good sodomy for the first time. But there are still things you need to know to be sure to nail your first time and avoid discomfort and pain. Here’s everything you still need to know about anal sex…
Let’s start with the 5 golden rules…
1 – Always use lubricant
Unlike the vagina, the small amount of mucus produced by the rectum is insufficient for anal penetration. That’s why sodomy should always be accompanied by a good dose of lubricating gel. Water-based lubricants or silicone-based gels are compatible with latex condoms and are highly recommended. There is even special anal gel designed for sodomy. They are even more lubricating, and sometimes contain antibacterial agents or substances to relax the anus.
2 – Stop immediately if your partner asks you to stop
If your partner is too tense or stressed, anal sex will likely hurt them. We’re not saying to stop trying altogether, but not to force it, as that will only give them a bad experience and make them less willing to try again.
3 – Take your time
When trying sodomy for the first time, go slowly. Don’t be in a hurry, take your time, and the experience will be much better. Don’t force things. If you lubricate the anus properly, a finger or a sex toy should slide in easily. We recommend using your fingers to dilate the anus and arouse your partner.
4 – Communicate with your partner
As with any sexual activity, communication is key to enjoying sodomy. Talk about what you want to do, discuss your desires first, tell your partner what you like and don’t like. State your preferences, and be receptive to theirs; it’s the best way to have a pleasant and shared anal experience.
5 – Wanting to make sodomy pleasant is not enough
Read the other four points.
Understanding the anus and rectum
A minority of men and women have anal orgasms without stimulation of the clitoris or penis. For women, the anal orgasm is caused by the contraction of the pelvic muscles. And for a small minority, by the pure excitement of being penetrated anally. For men, the orgasm can be felt through pressure applied to the prostate and indirect stimulation of the internal base of the penis. The oral stimulation orgasm is more likely to occur when participants are completely focused on their sensations and fantasies.
The main function of the rectum is to act as a passage for stool. Stool is not normally stored in the rectum, but small amounts can remain in the rectum. This is one of the reasons why it is recommended to use condoms during anal sex.
The rectum is not straight. After the short anal canal that connects the anal opening to the rectum, the rectum curves toward the front of the body, sometimes up to 90 degrees. Then, after a few more centimeters, it curves again toward the front of the body. A person can learn more about the shape of their rectum by gently inserting a soft object, trying different angles and body positions, and focusing on what they feel. Make sure the object has a flared base so that if you lose hold of it, it doesn’t slide into the rectum.
If you insert a finger about one centimeter into the anus and press to the side, you can feel the two sphincter muscles. There is less than half a centimeter between them.
The external sphincter is controlled by the central nervous system (voluntary). This means you can stretch and relax this sphincter whenever you want. The internal sphincter is very different. This muscle is controlled by the autonomic nervous system (involuntary). The internal sphincter responds to fear and anxiety. It can close the anus automatically even if the person is trying to relax.
There is a risk of loss of sphincter tone over time due to repeated dilation during anal penetration. Incontinence can occur when anal sphincter tone decreases; this problem must be corrected surgically if it becomes chronic. This is another very good reason to take things slowly and never force sodomy. Every body adapts differently, and if anal sex remains painful (or very uncomfortable), then it’s better not to continue. There are many other ways to stimulate and enjoy the anal area besides sodomy!
It is always important to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections and AIDS by using a condom, and this is especially true during anal sex. The wall of the rectum is very thin and can tear if there is too much pressure during penetration.
Now that you know how to practice sodomy with optimal pleasure for a first time… It’s your turn!
