You want to have sex with your partner, but he’s a little reluctant for the first time, maybe he’s afraid of hurting or getting hurt, maybe he’s embarrassed by this still taboo practice, or maybe he’s afraid of not being safe.
Anal penetration is a source of pleasure for many people who have tried it. The first time is very important. If it goes well, then there is a good chance that sodomy will become a new love game between the two partners. But for this first time, in order for it to go well for both, you need to take the time to prepare well and follow these few tips.
Think about hygiene
Hygiene and cleanliness are essential to the practice of sodomy. Firstly because it’s more enjoyable for both partners. Secondly because the vagina contains bacteria that can potentially contaminate the vaginal flora. So take a shower or bath before playing anal games. Plus, these are pretty cool foreplay to start with.
A word of advice for women , once your penis orsextoyIf you try vaginal penetration after anal penetration without washing the penis or using different condoms, you risk a serious infection of the vagina.
The urge to try sodomy
Before attempting to penetrate your partner’s anus with yourpenisAll his fears are gone, and you can read in his eyes the desire to feel you in the depths of his intimacy.
To prepare your partner for the idea of sodomy, do not hesitate to stimulate his/her anus regularly during foreplay, for example by gently stroking the outer part of the anus with one finger, without penetration, by going around the orifice.vaginallyDon’t forget to use lubricant to moisten the anal area. Even if she’s reluctant to the idea of sodomy, it’s likely that she enjoys anal caresses without penetration!
The importance of good stimulation
When you feel that your partner enjoys these caresses on his anus (it can take 1 day or several weeks, and even sometimes never happens), you can try during a cunnilingus or a fellatio to come lick the anus with your tongue. The famous anulingus!
Of course the hygiene must be impeccable, this practice is very pleasant in the shower for example. These oral caresses on the anus, done all gently with a lot of saliva are a very nice preparation for sodomy. You can turn around the hole and press harder to gently penetrate the tip of the tongue into the anus.anusThis practice is not at all compulsory to enjoy sodomy, it must be done with the agreement of both partners who should feel no embarrassment in enjoying it.
Whether you’ve practiced analging or not, when your partner enjoys caresses on his/her anus, then you can incorporate this game during vaginal penetrations or masturbation or fellation. In the lotus position (the woman on the man), or in a leotard position you can come and caress the anus with a finger. Double stimulation of the vagina or penis and the anus can be an explosive pleasure! If your partner enjoys it, then you can gently penetrate his/her anus with a well-lubricated finger (with saliva or lubricating gel) while continuing the vaginal penetration with your penis.
You can feel it, you can step over!
If your partner enjoys caresses and finger-penetration, then it is time to discuss the issue of sodomy with him. It may take 1 day to several months before he agrees to be penetrated by your penis. Be patient, the pleasure should be shared for both of you.
The Practice
Before you embark on anal penetration, make sure your partner wants it and is willing to try it with you. If she refuses, don’t try to force her, it might be enough to disgust her forever. Or shut down. And that’s not what you want, is it?
As you have done before with finger or tongue caresses on the anus, the first sodomy should be long prepared with warm preliminaries. If your partner likes the anulingus, start by gently licking the anus. If she prefers caresses with her finger, stimulate her as she likes. Take your time, moisten the anus with lubricating gel and feel the relaxation as you caress. Your partner will guide you with words or gestures, to invite you to gently penetrate with a finger.
When the anus is sufficiently relaxed to allow the tip of the finger to be inserted, lubricate your index finger with a lubricating gel.
Put a gel nut at the entrance of the hole. Then gently slide your finger into the orifice with small back and forth very slowly. Do not hesitate to use your tongue to stimulate the clitoris or phallus at the same time as you insert your finger. This will increase your partner’s excitement.
When your index finger is completely inside the hole, play gently with it by making very short back and forth movements, while vibrating it gently, to relax the anus a little bit more. When you feel that the anus is well relaxed, while leaving your index finger depressed, come with your major to the entrance of the hole and let it in in turn. Gently, slide this second finger completely. When your two fingers are inside the anus, play with them to relax your partner a little more. At this point his excitement should be at its maximum … And it’s time to move on to the serious stuff…
Finally, you get to anal penetration.
When your partner’s anus is sufficiently prepared, choose a comfortable position for both.
- Iel on the back: the simplest because you can see everything that’s going on and you have easier access.
- In a spoon: sensual, it allows the partner to control the angle of penetration.
Avoid the hound, it’s not always practical or comfortable for you, the Amazon or the lotus because you can’t easily control the penetration. And of course avoid the acrobatic positions. Because the goal is that this first time goes well!
When your partner is comfortably seated, put a large amount of lubricating gel on the gland and along the length of your penis. Do not hesitate to put a little lubricant on his anus. In the chosen position, with a very vigorous erection, position your penis at the entrance of the orifice. Then do a very gentle back and forth to get it through. The gland is often wider than the penis, this is the crucial moment for successful sodomy. Keep going back and forth and once your penis is completely inside the anus, push The gentle one.
At every turn, watch your partner’s reactions, watch for any pain or discomfort he may feel, and don’t hesitate to withdraw completely.
Wait a few moments, apply lubricant, and try again. If the pain is too much, forget about it and move on, and you can try again next time.
When your penis is completely back, then you can do more vigorous back and forth. But remember to stay flexible, it’s the first time! Avoid withdrawing and then re-entering, these games are for the most seasoned. It’s easier to stay in the anus until ejaculation or when your partner asks you to stop.
You’ve got the basics for good sodomy, but there’s more.5 golden rulesTo know and remember for maximum pleasure !
