In 2020 and 2021, Covid-19 put many couples to the test. The pandemic caused numerous separations following lockdowns. But in 2022, why are people separating? Here are the 4 main causes.
We argue, we start over. We realize our opinions differ on important subjects. Infidelities are discovered. Love fades. In short, separations and divorces are still numerous in 2022 (57,437 divorces). They are often initiated by women, but are based on mutual consent. But what are the real causes? Here are 4 main causes of separation.
Causes and reasons for separation in 2022
One of the first reasons for separation might surprise you. It was undoubtedly highlighted by the coronavirus years, but not only that. Indeed, 81% of people surveyed about the reason for the breakup cite hygiene. Hand washing, neglecting showers, bad breath, and clothes lying around everywhere are part of the list. In fact, it is not pleasant to have someone with questionable hygiene who leaves lingering odors behind them every time they pass.
The second reason is… hurtful comments for 75%. Remarks that belittle, humiliate, or sting to the quick tend to be love-killers. Especially if they are repetitive. Respect is one of the fundamentals of a couple, so when it disappears, the couple falls apart.
Third cause: lack of interest in the other at 71%. Indeed, a couple is about sharing, even partnership. Especially since patriarchy is no longer in vogue. As a result, when interest is one-sided and very self-centered, the other person detaches and cuts ties. Why share a daily life with someone who doesn’t pay attention to the other? We all need recognition and to feel valued. And being valued just through professional life, for example, is not enough. We must find this interest in personal life too, especially with our partner. It is important that the other is also proud of us. Seeing their eyes light up when they look at us too.
The last of the main causes of separation: at 50%, lack of love. This does not always stem from the first causes mentioned. It can happen just like that, without warning, simply because the relationship has changed.
All these reasons are especially found in short-term couples.
Different reasons for couples together for a long time
It will be noted, however, that the main causes of separation diverge when couples have been together for many years. The first is infidelity. This accounts for a third of breakups, which corresponds to the figures observed among those who report having been unfaithful.
The second reason is the other person’s selfishness. Often, one hopes the other will change, but this behavior only strengthens over time, until it becomes unbearable. When there are two people, and even more so if there are children, one of them thinking mostly about themselves is not possible. It kills all romantic momentum.
In third place: a bad temper. This includes abusive behaviors like jealousy, to name just the “best” of them. It is said that it takes seven to nine positive things to erase one negative thing. So someone who constantly brings negativity is a one-way ticket straight to separation.
Finally, disagreements about the future, money, work, and in-laws. The latter account for about 10% of divorce causes.
What is certain is that couple life is not a calm, smooth river. Everyone must make efforts and communicate. Without communication and without concessions, life as a couple is a guaranteed failure. So meet each other halfway and do your best to make your relationship work.
