Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. Lovers are gearing up for a romantic evening, while singles may or may not be enjoying their freedom to frolic. Either way, everyone is busy making the most of this special day. And it’s sometimes hard to come up with ideas for some. As for women with a certain amount of life experience, what are their desires? What can we offer them? What will thrill them?
When you’re dating an older woman, or looking to hook up with a cougar, you need to know how to seduce her. To win her over or keep her, there are a few rules to follow, which we’ve already talked about. Confidence, make her laugh, don’t put her on a pedestal, etc… It’s proven to work. But once you’ve got the job done, you can’t let your guard down and you’ve got to keep up the effort. Especially on Valentine’s Day, when she’ll always appreciate a little gift or surprise, no matter what she says.
But what is it? What do they want? What are they thinking? How do you satisfy them, whether it’s Valentine’s Day or any other occasion? A 50-year-old woman doesn’t want the same things as a 30-year-old. So don’t take the wrong approach. And unfortunately, you can’t read their minds. Don’t worry, I’ll tell you everything.
Mature women want to have fun
Does that surprise you? Just because a woman is past fifty doesn’t mean she only wants one thing: her plaid with her cup of tea. Nope. Forget it. If you set off with this preconceived idea in mind, forget it and turn back. Like a woman in her prime, our cougar wants to have fun and enjoy life.
With a busy professional and/or personal life, and children who have already left home or are close by, our sexy mature woman wants to regain her freedom and autonomy by doing things she likes and is interested in. It’s like a new story being written for her, so there’s no question of spoiling it. It has to be exciting and involve her, as a woman.
Yes, it sounds a bit feminist when you say it like that, but it’s not. It’s just a way of getting on with life. In fact, according to an Ipsos study, in France in 2013, 47% of women aged 50 felt that the best was yet to come in their lives. Even better, 94% of women aged 50 said they still had plenty to discover, and that’s still the case today. Life doesn’t stop at a number, on the contrary. We just experience things differently.
In any case, Valentine’s Day is a good excuse for cougars to make themselves beautiful and desirable, even more than usual. It’s even a need. They want to have fun, enjoy life and please men (the desire to please remains a major preoccupation for 68% of them. While not all of them want a younger man, and some prefer long relationships, in all cases they want to enjoy life, usually accompanied by someone else.
They want to enjoy life with a man they can live with
Contrary to what you might think, not all women over 50 want to look younger. While some chase their youth through cosmetic surgery, this is far from the majority. And that’s just as well, when you consider the excesses that many people addicted to the scalpel can indulge in.
Most older women are completely self-assured. According to the same Ipsos study, 72% of women in their fifties accept themselves as they are. A significant figure, given that it drops to 62% for women aged between 25 and 44. So they want someone who looks and feels like them, whatever their age, and whatever their physical appearance. Self-confidence really is the ultimate asset in seduction.
So get ready for that one-on-one evening by being… yourself. That is, if you’re going out in public. You don’t have to dress up, but make a little effort anyway.
Forget headaches
Mature women don’t want it anymore! They’ve already given too much. It’s a new beginning, so they want to forget old habits and things that pollute their minds. Still according to Ipsos, 83% of women aged 50 feel good about their lives. 68% of women in their fifties feel even happier than when they were 20! So they want to keep that feeling of well-being with their new relationships.
It’s all down to experience. They know what they want and what they don’t want. They know what they like. And they expect you to know it too, especially if you’ve known each other for a while. If it gets complicated, they’ll leave. Women in their 50s need a man who’s mature, confident and knows where he’s going. At the same time, they don’t want to be bored, so they also like men with a spontaneous, adventurous side.
For couples, how to celebrate Valentine’s Day?
For a long-standing couple, how you celebrate Valentine’s Day depends on the type of relationship you have with your partner. While some are still very cuddly – even enjoying a form of second youth with their retirement – others find themselves in a more platonic relationship, having become life partners rather than lovers. So, rather than asking how to celebrate Valentine’s Day in old age, we should be asking ourselves how we love our partner.
More recent unions can emphasize the exciting nature of this new relationship. So surprise your partner, one way or another. This is your chance to shower your new partner with attention and consolidate your budding relationship. It’s particularly special to relive the exciting beginnings of a love relationship when you’re mature, and thought they were a thing of the past, the preserve of teenagers and young adults. But there’s no age limit to being a young heartthrob. Why not rent a hotel room for a night, or go on a weekend getaway?
A few ideas that work for all couples
The traditional restaurant outing always works. Whether it’s a place that brings back memories or something new and original. You’ll make the right choice. But it’s a good idea to spice it up with something else, because these days, we don’t always wait for the opportunity to go out for dinner.
You can accompany it with flowers, a love letter, or a night out dancing. You could also try a little naughty gift, be it a sextoy or lingerie, for example. If you’re creative, you can create something original and personalized yourself. Make her feel unique. Again, this depends on the stage of your relationship, and your mutual desires.
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