Cougars have always attracted young men. More mature, more experienced, more assertive in what they want and what they like, they are one of the most common male fantasies .
A cougar can be designated as such from her forties onwards. She often mixes with milf (Mother i like to fuck) but will pull on the years above. But a few extra years are an asset for the cougar, not a hindrance. Far from the desperate predator or the stuck-at-home mom who pounces on her son’s boyfriends, they’re more self-assured, often have successful careers and don’t hesitate to make the first move. These are women of power. Be careful not to confuse power women with dominatrix, by the way.
However, this may make young men shy and doubtful if they want to try a moment of seduction. Will she be open to it? Won’t she laugh at him? Will she say yes or no to go further? Here are a few tips to help you answer these questions before you take the plunge.
Forget preconceived ideas
If you’ve got some old clichés ingrained in your brain about cougars, shake your head and clear your head. Forget everything you think you know about the subject. To seduce an older woman, you need first and foremost… Respect. She’s just like everyone else, so there’s no need to put her on a pedestal or, conversely, treat her like a nobody. If you want to develop a romantic or intimate relationship with this woman, keep it simple and natural.
The more mature woman will often want a nice exchange and to enjoy the moment, just like everyone else. So put aside your sexist ideas and treat her like a human being. That’ll be a good start.
The question of age
It’s always tricky to ask a woman her age. Politeness would dictate that you don’t ask, and if you do, that she answers in a vague way that gives you a rough idea of the date of birth in question.
Yet it’s legitimate to wonder, given that these days, with aesthetic treatments and surgeries of all kinds, it’s easy to erase the traces left by the years. Even so, there are signs that can’t be mistaken (although they’re not completely irremediable).
Look at the hair: it may be lighter, finer or even sparser. Capillaries may be duller, brittle and drier, especially if the person doesn’t pay particular attention to them. The drop in hormones that accompanies the years has an impact on hair growth in both men and women. For women, permanent make-up and extensions can hide these signs of maturity.
Some areas are also thinner, such as the lips and skin. They are often marked by fine lines or wrinkles, and veins appear more frequently. Tooth enamel can also be more eroded, and teeth paler. Here again, cosmetic surgery can work wonders, but not all cougars have the desire or the means to undergo it. Besides, it’s better to take responsibility for yourself, that’s how you seduce.
You may also notice small folds of skin and corners such as the elbows or knees that hang down a little more with age. This makes the skin a little darker and drier. But again, these are signs that can be combated with the armada of beauty products on the market or a few cosmetic operations.
A cougar doesn’t wear makeup like a young woman
Make-up is often a good clue. A mature woman won’t wear the same make-up as a 20-year-old with nothing to hide! Evolutionary psychology has shown that when assessing the desirability of women, physical attractiveness is a more important factor than it is when assessing the desirability of men. This means that less attractive men could still be considered desirable because of their intelligence, humor, income, etc., whereas women are judged primarily on their looks.
An injustice that will surely always persist, but men are starting to get on board too, so perhaps “equality” in seduction will come another way. Let’s have a few laughs. In any case, a cougar will certainly want to hide the signs of ageing with a little make-up and a good light, in order to sublimate herself as much as possible in the eyes of young men.
The older woman will probably use a little more foundation and eye shadow. As Dalida used to say, with a little more black under the eyes and a good coat of mascara, a smoother, shapelier complexion thanks to a restructuring cream, the cougar is ready for action. She can add a touch of lipstick to plump her lips, redraw her eyebrows to thicken them a little more (this gives a more youthful look) and pinken her cheeks.
Thanks to Kim Kardashian, who popularized contouring, women can do wonders with their make-up to look their best. And I promise you, you’ll be amazed.
Don’t judge her on her looks
As you can understand, it’s best to avoid judging her on her looks, as you could be wrong on many counts. And don’t look for a mature woman desperately clinging to her youth by dressing too short, too tight, too vulgar. You’ll be disappointed!
A cougar will dress according to her tastes, and they can be varied. So there’s no neat stereotype you can cling to to identify them. They can also share the same accessories as young women, without being out of place. For example, if your young neighbor next door bought her first push-up to get more bust, the cougar will love it even more for her sagging breasts.
So looks aren’t a good indicator of age when it comes to identifying your cougar.
Rely on your insurance
Women with more experience are more confident, more self-assured. A cougar is no exception. With a few extra years on their hands, they’ve also often had more partners, so they know what they like. They’ll know how to express it, because they want to have fun in this phase of seduction, and even more so afterwards. It’s this confidence that makes them attractive and shows their “availability”.
Notice her head carriage. She stands tall and straight, and this underlines her self-confidence. And yet, she’ll be relaxed. She approaches situations with ease and composure in front of you. You’ll also notice that she looks straight into your eyes. She doesn’t shy away from social interaction and is direct in what she says. That’s a sign you can trust!
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