How to know if you are with the right person? It is sometimes difficult to get an answer, but there are simple ways that will help you understand whether your relationship is meant to last or not.
You have met someone who laughs at your jokes, has similar interests to yours, and always supports you. But how do you know that she is « the right person »? Deciding to spend the rest of your life (in theory) with another person is a major decision, and you want to do everything in your power to avoid messing it up. Nothing is guaranteed, but we have come up with five ways to know that she is The One.
1 – She loves you, not just your lifestyle
An essential element of any relationship is unconditional support. Of course, it’s easy for her to support you when you’re launching a lucrative new project or getting your abs in shape, but will she be by your side if you don’t get that promotion or if you decide to quit your job and pursue other interests? If the answer is an unequivocal yes, she might be your true love. « One of the biggest issues for couples is money, and more specifically, differences in spending styles and attitudes toward their budget, » said Karen Sherman, Ph.D., a couples psychologist. So make sure you’re truly on the same page.
2 – She lets you in and you do the same
Boundaries are healthy – we all have them. But if you’re wondering whether you’re ready to give the rest of your life to someone, make sure she can let you in. And we’re not talking about the day you forget your keys. You want someone who can lower her guard and comfortably share all aspects of her life. She shouldn’t only let you see her at her best. If she’s willing to tear down those walls, chances are you’ll be inclined to do the same. This will pave the way for an honest and stable marriage. Healthy communication is essential for a lasting relationship.
3 – She is not hard to please
Every woman has her vices and her standards, but you want to make sure you’ve found someone who is not impossible to satisfy. Does she always complain about wanting a bigger apartment or more extravagant gifts? If her grievances are valid, take them into consideration. But if she has unrealistic expectations and never seems satisfied, avoid taking your relationship to the next level. As cliché as it may sound, the most important aspect of your relationship should be your commitment to each other.
4 – She is faithful and has earned your trust
This one seems obvious (at least when it comes to a monogamous relationship). But we’re not just talking about loyalty without cheating. When you choose to declare your unparalleled devotion to someone, you want to be positive that she feels the same way. In other words, does she defend you when necessary? Do you trust her to have your back during disagreements with others? If the answer is yes, it seems you’ve found someone who is as devoted to you as you are to them. To keep the home fires burning, discover the mistakes to avoid!
5 – Your family and friends approve
If your family and friends are important to you, make life easier for yourself. Especially if they approve of the person you’re dating and would want to marry. If you’ve truly found the right person, they likely bring out the best in you. Your loved ones can sense this and are delighted by it. Of course, you might have a cousin or an old college friend who isn’t a fan of your partner. But if most people in your life can’t support you in your relationship, you may want to reassess the situation. If their reasons for disliking them are valid (« They’re too controlling »), step back and regroup. Perhaps at that point, you’d have every reason to be single.
