How do you know if you’re with the right person? Sometimes it’s hard to get an answer, but there are some simple ways to find out if your relationship is meant to last or not.
You’ve met someone who laughs at your jokes, has similar interests to you and is always supportive. But how do you know she’s “the one”? Deciding to spend the rest of your life (in theory) with another person is a major decision, and you want to do everything in your power to avoid messing it up. Nothing’s guaranteed, but we’ve put together five ways to know she’s The One.
1 – She loves you, not just your lifestyle
An essential element of any relationship is unconditional support. Sure, it’s easy for her to support you when you create a lucrative new project or give your abs a boost, but will she be by your side if you don’t get that promotion or decide to quit your job and pursue other interests? If the answer is an unequivocal yes, she could be your true love. “One of the biggest issues for couples is money, and more specifically, differences in spending styles and attitudes toward their budgets,” says Karen Sherman, Ph.D., a couples psychologist. So make sure you’re really on the same page.
2 – She lets you in and you do the same thing
Limits are healthy – we all have them. But if you’re wondering if you’re ready to give the rest of your life to someone, make sure she can let you in. And we’re not talking about the day you forget your keys. You want someone who can let her guard down and comfortably share every aspect of her life. She shouldn’t just let you see the best of her. If she’s willing to break down those walls, chances are you’ll be inclined to do the same. This will pave the way for an honest and stable marriage. Healthy communication is the key to a lasting relationship.
3 – It’s not difficult to satisfy
Every woman has her vices and standards, but you want to make sure you’ve found someone who isn ‘t impossible to please. Does she always complain about wanting a bigger apartment or more extravagant gifts? If her grievances are valid, take them into consideration. But if she has unrealistic expectations and never seems satisfied, avoid pushing your relationship to the next level. As cliché as it may sound, the most important aspect of your relationship should be your commitment to each other.
4 – She’s faithful and has earned your trust
This one seems obvious (at least when it comes to a monogamous relationship). But we’re not just talking about loyalty without cheating. When you choose to declare your unparalleled devotion to someone, you want to be positive she feels the same way. In other words, does she stand up for you when necessary? Do you trust her to have your back during disagreements with others? If the answer is yes, it looks like you’ve found someone who’s as devoted to you as you are. To keep the home fires burning, find out what mistakes not to make!
5 – Your family and friends approve
If your family and friends are important to you, make it easy on yourself. Especially if they approve of the person you’re dating and would like to marry. If you’ve really found the right person, chances are they’ll bring you the best. Your loved ones can sense this and are delighted. Sure, you might have a cousin or an old college friend who aren’t fans of your partner. But if most of the people in your life can’t accompany you with your love, you may want to re-evaluate the situation. If their reasons for not liking are valid (“She’s too controlling”), back off and regroup. Maybe then you’ll have every reason to be single.
