Simple tips on how to reconnect as a couple and give your relationship a boost… While romantic gestures are no problem, a surprise trip to the Turks and Caicos Islands requires far more time, money and effort than a few of the things you can do this very evening that will make her feel special, respected, considered and loved.
Here are eleven things you can do to (re)boost your relationship. Try them out tonight and reap a myriad of rewards for an improved and renewed connection with your other half. Then combine these tactics with the words and phrases every woman wants to hear, and she’ll be feeling like a princess in no time.
1 – Don’t forget the compliments
Don’t hesitate to tell her how good she looks and smells. Remember when your relationship was fresh and compliments were coming out of your mouth, fast and loud? Try to tap into the zany thoughts and feelings that generate all those sweet nothings, even if years, even decades, have passed since then. We all want to be wanted and to recapture the sensations of the beginning of a relationship. There’s nothing like hearing that from a partner. Especially at the beginning or end of the day. A meaningful, verbal gesture like this can be a form of foreplay for both men and women. Knowing that your partner is thinking about you throughout the day, until you meet up again, is certainly a source of motivation.
2 – Leave surprise notes
Leave random love notes for her. Having a phone in our pockets allows us to send our partners reminders of what we’re thinking and feeling about them in a variety of ways. In fact, it’s so easy to send texts, audio files, videos, cartoon avatars, etc…. What’s surprising? Putting pen to paper.
Everyone wants to feel loved and appreciated. Random notes remind her how special she is to you. Imagine her surprise when she finds a carefully composed note hidden in her pants pocket, underwear drawer or any other incongruous nook. What a pleasant feeling!
3 – Shake things up a bit
Break your routine. It’s easy to fall into a routine over the years. While routine has its uses, it breeds feelings of boredom. Turn the script on its head and change it up from time to time. Try a new restaurant, learn something new together or go on vacation… Anything is a good way to regain sensations. This break from the same daily routine will show her that you prioritize her and that she’s in the relationship and you’re not content with routine. Follow our 5 tips to boost yourlibido.
4 – Take note of the little things
Remember the names of her friends and colleagues. Experts recommend that you pay attention to what’s going on in her world and what’s important to her. The best way to do this? Keep track of who she’s close to. “When my husband and I were young, I kept a note with the names of his clients and projects hidden in a drawer,” she says. “I’d be a pick to refresh my memory and keep the data in my head before he came home at night”. The point? Remembering the details shows we care.
5 – Be open and honest
Share your feelings. If you think this means focusing exclusively on her thoughts and feelings while putting your own on the back burner, reconsider. “At the end of the day, sharing how we feel is the bond that holds two people together,” says Lilla. “Sharing your feelings shows that you know how to be vulnerable and that you trust her.”.
Men have a reputation for keeping their feelings inside. Play against stereotypes and let her know what thoughts occupy your mind every day. She might be able to help, and chances are she’ll feel good about venting her grief. You need to share your feelings together.
6 – Reaffirm your partnership
Act as partners in all areas of your life. “A see a partnership is about helping each other and working as a team,” Lilla reminds us. “You can’t choose when to be part of your partner’s team, because then it’s not really a partnership. This doesn’t mean that you have to agree on everything, but that you have to respect and validate differences of opinion and find ways to compromise, together.” If you’re short of ideas, you can always dip into 10 ways to keep your wife happy.
7 – Talk about your goals
Set relationship goals. Maybe you’ve thought about where you want to be in five years. And maybe she has too. Where you’d like to live, where you’d like to travel, the kinds of things you’d like to accomplish in your career – that sort of thing. Now, take some time to think about where you want your relationship to be in four, five or ten years. Set aside some time to relax and invite your partner to outline what she wants from your relationship in the years ahead. This will demonstrate a willingness to be on the same page as your girlfriend wife and chart a course for the future together.
8 – Keep in touch
Send her messages. We’ve already mentioned how leaving random notes for your partner is a great way to let her know you’re thinking about her, valuing her and loving her. But all sorts of things happen when you’re apart. And texting is a fantastic way to show her you’re thinking about her in real time.
9 – Open your ears
Apparently, men aren’t very good listeners. We’re more interested in finding a solution to a problem than in listening to our partner’s thoughts. Show her that you’re interested in her and what she has to say. Give her the feeling that you’re listening to her. Remember that listening is more than just giving her your ear. Engage in active listening. This requires the listener to concentrate fully, understand, respond and remember what is being said.
10 – Call her back in public
Kiss her in public. Public displays of affection aren’t everyone’s cure-all. But many of the women we spoke to told us that they liked others to see that their loved ones loved them. Women want to feel special. They need to be adored more than anyone else. It’s that kind of feeling that makes them tick. Kissing her in public sends that message.
11 – Release the tension
Give her a no-strings-attached massage. In the context of a relationship, a massage is often seen as a preamble to something else. And it’s easy to see why: it brings out pleasant sensations. Massages are sensual, soothing, relaxing and effective in reducing anxiety and deepening bonds between people. But you can show her that you like her by letting her know that you’d like to give her a massage for herself.
