{"id":50139,"date":"2022-04-12T05:57:57","date_gmt":"2022-04-12T03:57:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/sexo\/english-first-date-the-20-questions-you-should-never-ask\/"},"modified":"2026-07-03T22:20:41","modified_gmt":"2026-07-03T20:20:41","slug":"first-date-the-20-questions-you-should-never-ask","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/en\/seduction-en\/first-date-the-20-questions-you-should-never-ask\/","title":{"rendered":"English:\nFirst Date: The 20 Questions You Should Never Ask"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <b>There are usually two types of first dates: the ones that go like clockwork \u2013 where time flies by so fast that the restaurant has to remind you they\u2019re closing \u2013 and the ones that are\u2026well, less harmonious.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p> <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-415 size-full\" title=\"20 questions to not ask on a first date for 40 and over couple at the table\" src=\"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/20-questions-a-ne-pas-posera-un-premier-rendez-vous-40-et-plus-couple-a-table.jpg\" alt=\"20 questions to not ask on a first date for 40 and over couple at the table\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p> Here is the requested translation in English:<br \/>\nObviously, the first type of initial meeting is ideal, but a less than perfect first date doesn\u2019t necessarily mean all hope is lost. In fact, if things go pretty well, a second date could be in order, which could potentially turn into something more serious.<\/p>\n<div>\n<h2>The Best of the Web<\/h2>\n<p>Here are some of the best articles from around the web:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.bbc.co.uk\/news\">BBC News<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/\">The New York Times<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.washingtonpost.com\/\">Washington Post<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.cnn.com\/\">CNN<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<p> But there\u2019s a way to make sure this <em>never<\/em> happens again: ask the wrong questions the first time around. Here are twenty questions to avoid at all costs if you want to see that person again\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>1 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Vous semblez bien, alors pourquoi \u00eates-vous toujours c\u00e9libataire ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> There are so many problems with this question. For starters, it assumes that there\u2019s something wrong with being single. Beyond that, it\u2019s entirely possible for a person to not have met their soulmate yet and therefore not be in a relationship. If you\u2019re on a date and realize you\u2019re sitting across from someone who seems amazing and is still single, don\u2019t ask them why. Let\u2019s just be happy!<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>2 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Sur quelles applications de rencontres \u00eates-vous ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> Here is the requested translation in English:<br \/>\nWhat does it really serve for? As a rule, this is just a denial session of all existing applications and sites. This adds nothing to your first date experience.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>3 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Vous n\u2019\u00eates pas fou, si ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> Translate the following French text to English. Preserve HTML tags and formatting exactly. Do not translate URLs, class names, or tag attributes. Only translate visible text content:<\/p>\n<p>You follow up with something like \u00ab\u00a0I\u2019ve been dating a lot of crazy people lately.\u00a0\u00bb While this may seem cute at first, it can come across as strange to your date. After all, the person might start wondering why you\u2019re dating so many crazy people in the first place. It\u2019s better to focus on questions that actually get at what your date is about.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p> <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-416 size-full\" title=\"20 questions to not ask on a first date for 40+ couple at table caf\u00e9\" src=\"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/20-questions-a-ne-pas-poser-a-un-premier-rendez-vous-40-et-plus-couple-a-table-cafe.jpg\" alt=\"20 questions to not ask on a first date for 40+ couple at table caf\u00e9\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>4 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb O\u00f9 voyez-vous cette relation aller ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> This always makes the asker sound desperate, stupid and rushed while also annoying or stressing out the person being asked. To be fair, it\u2019s a pretty heavy question to ask someone you just met.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>5 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Combien cela a-t-il co\u00fbt\u00e9 ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> Translate the following French text to English. Preserve HTML tags and formatting exactly. Do not translate URLs, class names, or tag attributes. Only translate visible text content:<\/p>\n<p>Whether it\u2019s their apartment, watch or luxury handbag, it\u2019s none of your business. It\u2019s just plain rude and makes you seem shallow for caring only about money. You can compliment something without wanting to qualify it with a price tag. Even in a couple, if you have separate finances, you shouldn\u2019t feel obligated to tell your partner the price of something you\u2019re spending your own money on.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>6 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Voyez-vous quelqu\u2019un d\u2019autre ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p><p>This question implies a more intimate one: Are you having sex with anyone else? And the first date is just too early to ask about that. Any time you bring up the subject of sex early on in a relationship, it can be seen as intrusive or like it\u2019s all you\u2019re interested in from the person. The topic of sex isn\u2019t something that should be taken lightly or broached too soon.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>7 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Aimez-vous ma tenue ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> Here is the requested translation in English:<br \/>\nOr any other question related to your appearance. These are <a href=\"http:\/\/www.womendatingafter40.com\/\"><strong>touchy<\/strong><\/a> questions and the answers may not <a href=\"http:\/\/www.womendatingafter40.com\/\"><strong>satisfy<\/strong><\/a> you. Another area to avoid? You certainly don\u2019t want to put someone on the spot by asking if they have had a first date with people of your race or religion.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p> <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-417 size-full\" title=\"40-and-over couple at table caf\u00e9 lounge\" src=\"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/20-questions-a-not-to-ask-on-a-first-date-40-and-over couple at table caf\u00e9 lounge.jpg\" alt=\"40-and-over couple at table caf\u00e9 lounge\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>8 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Voulez-vous avoir des enfants ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> The first few dates should be about getting to know someone without jumping the gun. Those questions can come later. Wait until you\u2019ve known each other a little before bringing up those topics.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>9 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Quels sont vos motifs de rupture ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> Here is the requested translation in English:<br \/>\nIt may seem like asking upfront saves time, but it can backfire. This question comes across as if you\u2019re trying to figure out what your other person likes so you can pretend to be that or decide right away if they are worth your time. Chances are if someone has real hang-ups, they will bring them up in their own way.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>10 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Comment va votre relation avec vos parents ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> Here is the requested translation in English:<\/p>\n<p>The subject of parents can touch people and make them uncomfortable. This is especially true if they are not on good terms or if they don\u2019t have any parents. Additionally, people automatically assume that if you don\u2019t have a good relationship with your parents, you must have issues with mom or dad, which may not be the case.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>11 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Qu\u2019\u00eates-vous ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> Translation in English as shown:<br \/>\nIf you\u2019re asking this question to interrogate someone about their race or ethnicity, maybe don\u2019t. If someone wants you to know about their race or religion, they will tell you.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p> Here is the requested translation in English:<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-418 size-full\" title=\"20 Questions Not to Ask on a First Date for Couples Over 40 Street\" src=\"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/20-questions-a-ne-pas-poser-a-un-premier-rendez-vous-40-et-plus-couple-rue.jpg\" alt=\"20 Questions Not to Ask on a First Date for Couples Over 40 Street\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>12 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Que voulez-vous faire ce soir ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> Enjoy a date when you have plans in place. If you ask where they want to eat it often feels like you haven\u2019t put any thought or preparation into the first date and that it doesn\u2019t matter to you. If you\u2019re stumped, prepare a few options and ask which one he\/she prefers.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>13 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Buvez-vous beaucoup ?\u00a0Parce que moi oui. \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> This might be perceived as a strangely awkward comment but things can go wrong. You probably don\u2019t drink as much as you think and discussing topics like this, even if a joke can go wrong if someone doesn\u2019t know you yet. They don\u2019t know you so they may not distinguish jokes from the truth. Hold off on that kind of comment for a while.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>14 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Pourquoi votre derni\u00e8re relation a-t-elle pris fin ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> Here is the requested translation in English:<br \/>\nAs curious as you may be, don\u2019t ask about past relationships, especially the dynamics of a recent divorce or breakup. At this point in your relationship, it really isn\u2019t your business to know the gory details of the breakup or how many people the person has slept with since their divorce.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>15 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Que recherchez-vous dans une relation ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> Translation in English as listed:<br \/>\nThis is yet another topic to save for later. There\u2019s no need to put so much pressure on the other person. Let her enjoy the first date without worrying about what comes next. If she wants a second date, you\u2019ll know, trust me. If not, it\u2019s better to make things as easy and gracious for her as possible. Also, when you ask this question, you may come across as hoping to know what the other person wants so that you can play your role. It\u2019s better to let things happen authentically.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>16 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Avec combien de personnes avez-vous couch\u00e9 ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> Translation in English as shown:<br \/>\nThis question is never really appropriate, but especially not on a first date. It\u2019s none of your business. Why should it be revealed to you, a complete stranger, that they may never see again?!!<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p> <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-419 size-full\" title=\"20-questions-a-ne-pas-poser-rencontre-amoureuse-40-et-plus-couple-inquisition\" src=\"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/20-questions-a-ne-pas-poser-a-un-premier-rendez-vous-40-et-plus-couple-inquisition.jpg\" alt=\"20-questions-a-ne-pas-poser-rencontre-amoureuse-40-et-plus-couple-inquisition\" width=\"1024\" height=\"684\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>17 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb \u00cates-vous propri\u00e9taire de votre maison ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> Translation in English as shown:<br \/>\nYou might think you\u2019re subtly assessing their financial situation, but you\u2019re actually being rude\u2026 Trying to figure out how much your date has in the bank is never a good idea.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>18 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Quelle est votre position sexuelle pr\u00e9f\u00e9r\u00e9e ? \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> If you want to avoid having a second date, this is an excellent way to eliminate any possibility. Maybe you thought it would be funny or a great icebreaker, but no.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>19 \u2013 \u201c Mangez-vous \/ buvez-vous toujours autant ? \u201d<\/h2>\n<p> Some people used to ask for it. The reasons they give? Wanting to know how much it would cost if everything was going well between you, or generally liking thinner partners. Whatever the reason, anyone who asks for this is a loser and it\u2019s a red flag that screams they should be avoided at all costs. They obviously have no tact.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>20 \u2013 \u00a0\u00bb Parlez-moi de vous \u00ab\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p> Translation in English as listed:<br \/>\nOkay, so this isn\u2019t technically a question, but the question is implied. It\u2019s an overwhelming statement that usually causes an awkward pause. The best approach is to just ask what you want to know. Opening up first is also a good way to get into topics that interest you. So take the first step.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p> And if, despite all this advice, you\u2019re not sure about this new relationship, here are <a href=\"https:\/\/40-et-plus.fr\/20-signes-precurseurs-de-relations-perdues-davance\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">20 signs that show it won\u2019t work.<\/span><\/a>..<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There are usually two types of first dates: the ones that go like clockwork \u2013 where time flies by so fast that the restaurant has to remind you they\u2019re &#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":19,"featured_media":4831,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","_seopress_robots_follow":"","_seopress_robots_imageindex":"","_seopress_robots_snippet":"","_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_robots_breadcrumbs":"","_seopress_robots_freeze_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_custom_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_canonical":"","_seopress_social_fb_title":"","_seopress_social_fb_desc":"","_seopress_social_fb_img":"","_seopress_social_fb_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_height":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_title":"","_seopress_social_twitter_desc":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_height":0,"_seopress_redirections_value":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled_regex":"","_seopress_redirections_logged_status":"","_seopress_redirections_param":"","_seopress_redirections_type":0,"_seopress_analysis_target_kw":"","_seopress_news_disabled":"","_seopress_video_disabled":"","_seopress_video":[],"_seopress_pro_schemas_manual":[],"_seopress_pro_rich_snippets_disable_all":"","_seopress_pro_rich_snippets_disable":[],"_seopress_pro_schemas":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[12120],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-50139","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-seduction-en"],"lang":"en","translations":{"en":50139,"fr":4824,"it":50181,"nl":50253,"pt":50296,"es":50340,"de":50399},"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/20-questions-a-ne-pas-poser-a-un-premier-rendez-vous-40-et-plus-couple-premier-baiser.jpg","pll_sync_post":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50139","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/19"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=50139"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50139\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":51573,"href":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50139\/revisions\/51573"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4831"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=50139"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=50139"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=50139"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}