{"id":41014,"date":"2021-08-22T14:40:14","date_gmt":"2021-08-22T12:40:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/?p=41014"},"modified":"2025-12-26T14:42:34","modified_gmt":"2025-12-26T13:42:34","slug":"female-masturbation-needs-a-helping-hand","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/en\/sex-en\/female-masturbation-needs-a-helping-hand\/","title":{"rendered":"Female masturbation needs a helping hand!"},"content":{"rendered":"

While masturbation is very common among men, the same is not necessarily true of women. 26% of women say they don\u2019t practice onanism at all (versus 5% of men). Why such a difference? Why is female masturbation restricted?<\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

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Sexuality may be talked about more freely these days, but talking about it and doing it are two different things. And while the clitoris remains a mystery to many men, some women are no more familiar with it and don\u2019t know how to please themselves. And yet, masturbation is known to bring many benefits to the body and the brain. Could it be that women are just as unequal as men?<\/p>\n

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Female masturbation, a subject that\u2019s becoming more democratic\u2026 a little bit!<\/b><\/h2>\n

If talking about female masturbation was still a bit nebulous not so long ago, more and more sites and media are talking about it in order to liberate women about their sexuality. Articles, social networks, reports, podcasts\u2026 it\u2019s everywhere. One account that provides a lot of technical information for men and women in a friendly way is Jouissance Club<\/b><\/span><\/a>. This profile is a real success, as it deals with sexuality and pleasure for both men and women, with real practical advice.<\/p>\n

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If you didn\u2019t know anything about female orgasm, here you\u2019ll know it all. Women can find something to satisfy their partner, but also something to pleasure themselves solo, and practice unashamedly feminine masturbation. Until recently, the role of the clitoris in female pleasure was downplayed, and it was thought that very few women had clitoral orgasms. A serious mistake.<\/p>\n

And yet, while female masturbation is becoming more democratic, we still have some way to go before all the taboos are lifted. According to an Ifop poll<\/b><\/a> for the website Le Plaisir f\u00e9minin, conducted in June 2017, 26% of French women don\u2019t masturbate. And for 45%, it remains a difficult subject to broach. By way of comparison, the same survey tells us that only 5% of men don\u2019t masturbate, and that autosexuality is far more occasional among women (\u00ab\u00a014% of women say they masturbate at least once a week, compared with 50% of men\u00a0\u00bb).<\/i><\/p>\n

What are the reasons for this discrepancy? <\/b><\/h2>\n

Many heterosexual women say they don\u2019t need to come every time they have sex. Or to pleasure themselves alone, whether through caressing or penetration. Some even confess to having no desire to do so\u2026 Not knowing how it works and not wanting to masturbate. It\u2019s true that while we know all about male masturbation, we talk far less about \u00ab\u00a0techniques\u00a0\u00bb for women. What\u2019s more, every woman is different. And that what leads to orgasm varies according to a number of factors.<\/p>\n

\"\" For sex journalist Ma\u00efa Mazaurette<\/b><\/a>, author of Sortir du trou. Lever la t\u00eate<\/b><\/a>,<\/b> some women confuse internal and external sexual impulses \u2013 what the Association fran\u00e7aise d\u2019urologie calls \u00ab\u00a0spontaneous\u00a0\u00bb sexual desire and \u00ab\u00a0reactive\u00a0\u00bb sexual desire<\/b><\/a>. \u00ab\u00a0I\u2019ve met women who expect desire to come from inside the body, whereas it can be provoked by something external. An element that can give desire: a film, an idea, a man, a woman\u2026\u00a0\u00bb According to Ma\u00efa Mazaurette, in these women, the sexual imagination is blocked, and \u00ab\u00a0the masturbation space is disinvested\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\n

Knowing how to do it <\/b><\/h2>\n

One of the major obstacles to female masturbation is a lack of knowledge about this little organ of pleasure. For some, it takes time to find the right technique and master the path to orgasm. What\u2019s more, it\u2019s important to be able to \u00ab\u00a0get in the mood\u00a0\u00bb to relax and find the golden path to orgasm. You also have to do it for yourself, and not just to be like everyone else. You have to want it and desire it. Otherwise it won\u2019t work.<\/p>\n

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It\u2019s also worth remembering that, by nature, women are often less sensitive to external arousal than men. This is shown by the excitability studies on which Ma\u00efa Mazaurette bases her work. In these studies, researchers show pornographic films to men and women,\u00a0\u00bb explains the author. To measure the latter\u2019s arousal, an inflatable balloon is placed in their vagina.<\/p>\n

As a result, their vaginas became engorged with blood, and pressure was applied to the balloon. The result is that women are just as excitable as men, if not more so. However, when asked about their experiences, they don\u2019t always realize they\u2019ve been aroused. One element regularly comes up to explain this self-censorship: shame. \u00ab\u00a0As soon as I get wet, I find it disgusting\u00a0\u00bb, laments one young woman.<\/p>\n

Beware of preconceptions<\/b><\/h2>\n

Preconceived ideas are the death of solitary pleasure. If you start out with preconceived ideas, you\u2019re not approaching female masturbation in the right way. And you may have a long way to go before you reach your goal. But sometimes this is beyond a person\u2019s control. Because conservative ideas are often indoctrinated in us in spite of ourselves, and have been for a very long time (education, society, \u2026). And embarrassment sets in, hindering pleasure: \u00ab\u00a0In men, sexuality is naturally compulsive. In women, it\u2019s totally controlled.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s this idea that, when you\u2019re a woman, you can\u2019t admit to indulging your impulses alone. It would break the restraint associated with the general imagination\u00a0\u00bb, explains researcher Fran\u00e7ois Kraus, in charge of the \u00ab\u00a0Gender, sexuality and sexual health\u00a0\u00bb expertise at Ifop<\/b><\/a>. \u00c9lise, a young woman interviewed on the subject, agrees: \u00ab\u00a0I had it in my head that masturbation was for men, and men alone.\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n

Well no, women too have the right to pleasure and onanism.<\/p>\n

Is pleasure possible without a partner and without penetration? <\/b><\/h2>\n

For some women who have difficulty with female masturbation, pleasure is inseparable from these two points. They are therefore \u00ab\u00a0obliged\u00a0\u00bb to wait for their partner to experience pleasure and reach orgasm.<\/p>\n

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\u00ab\u00a0With the little hindsight I have, I think I see sexual practice as an activity to be shared. And that\u2019s what holds me back, both psychologically and physically,\u00a0\u00bb realizes \u00c9lise. \u00ab\u00a0The women concerned are often imbued with a vision of female sexuality closely linked to conjugality and penetration. For them, legitimate female sexuality only exists within a conjugal or relational framework. Admitting to solitary sexual activity is tantamount to admitting that you\u2019re incapable of seducing someone capable of giving you that pleasure,\u00a0\u00bb continues Fran\u00e7ois Kraus.<\/p>\n

Is female masturbation essential to a fulfilled sexuality? <\/b><\/h2>\n

For Ma\u00efa Mazaurette, this conception of sexuality is \u00ab\u00a0double or nothing\u00a0\u00bb. \u00ab\u00a0Either women\u2019s libido is dormant\u2026 And there\u2019s no exploring to awaken desire and reach orgasm. Or, on the contrary, the relationship to sexuality is based on a fairytale model. The heterosexual woman waits for the man to come. And then there are fireworks with the partner.<\/p>\n

Dr. Tourmente is reassuring, however. Not masturbating doesn\u2019t necessarily mean a sex life devoid of pleasure. \u00ab\u00a0Discovering one\u2019s body is sometimes done with a partner. And masturbation shouldn\u2019t be an obligation or yet another sexual injunction\u00a0\u00bb, moderates the sexologist. \u00ab\u00a0My darling controls my pleasure very well. And I don\u2019t feel marginalized at all,\u00a0\u00bb confirms one young woman.<\/p>\n

Women can be active in their sexuality<\/b><\/h2>\n

One thing\u2019s for sure, whether we masturbate or not, the more we talk about it, the easier it becomes. And the more \u00ab\u00a0free\u00a0\u00bb women will be to indulge. Things are changing. Society is evolving and our media (social networks, cinema, TV, etc.) are giving more and more space to female pleasure. Roles are changing and taboos are gradually being broken. It\u2019s up to our generations to educate the young women of tomorrow about female masturbation and the right to pleasure, whether alone or with a partner. And for the rest of us, there are many ways to have good sex after 40\u2026<\/strong><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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