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<\/p>\nYou love <\/b>being submissive and you\u2019re looking for the perfect dominatrix to do just that. But how do you know that the one you\u2019ve just met is the right one? How<\/b>can <\/b> yoube<\/b>sure<\/b> you\u2019ve made the right choice? Here are 10 points<\/b> to prove you <\/b>\u2018ve made the right choice. <\/b><\/p>\n
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All dominatrixes were beginners at one time or another. And like every one else, your Queen questions herself, wonders who she is and how she can impose herself on you. She also seeks to understand your behavior, so she can adapt to your needs as best she can, while remaining in control of the situation. A delicate moment that your dominatrix will get through successfully thanks to experience, good intuition (or empathy, as the case may be) and exchanges with other Queens.<\/p>\n
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So, if you\u2019re already satisfied, all the better! But if you want to get closer to perfection, here are 10 points to bear in mind to see all your submission fantasies come true and turn you on like never before.<\/p>\n
One of the first essential points in BDSM is consent. Everyone\u2019s desires differ from one person to another, and what makes you hard may be different for someone else. So it\u2019s vital to communicate<\/strong><\/span><\/a> about each participant\u2019s desiderata, expectations and limits. And don\u2019t forget that any relationship built around sadomasochistic practices must be voluntary. Indeed, BDSM games are always appreciated if they are consensual and voluntary. Any practice inflicted on the other person that has not been accepted beforehand must be the object of a cessation of sessions. It\u2019s a question of self-respect and trust in the other person. voluntarism respects this balance.<\/p>\n As a submissive, it\u2019s important that you have a strong mentality and that your physical safety is preserved. The physical and mental safety of participants in sadomasochistic games and practices<\/strong><\/span><\/a> is essential. These activities can challenge both body and mind, with pain, muscular tension and\/or sexual tension potentially taxing the body, while the mind can be burdened (mentally charged) and manipulated.<\/p>\n Everyone, whether dominant or submissive, must be able to retain free will to maintain a healthy BDSM relationship. As the person in charge, your dominatrix has an obligation to carefully monitor the physical and mental safety of her submissive. She must be able to detect any signs of distress in her submissive partner. It is therefore her responsibility to ensure that the level of submission is well understood by your Queen and that the level of domination is well understood by the submissive.<\/p>\n Just because you\u2019re submissive doesn\u2019t mean you have to obey every order. You should always bear in mind that you can say \u00ab\u00a0no\u00a0\u00bb or \u00ab\u00a0stop\u00a0\u00bb if you feel you\u2019re overstepping your limits. And just because your Domina wants to impose a new game on you, you don\u2019t have to accept it if you don\u2019t like it. You have free will, and you must ask yourself whether this new proposal guarantees the health of your BDSM relationship. Each participant must remain mentally and physically capable of accessing his or her free will and expressing his or her consent and will.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re submissive, you\u2019re at the mercy of your dominatrix. She therefore has power over your sexual arousal and orgasms. It\u2019s this power that gives her control over you, allowing her to indulge your fantasies and make you docile. Faced with a dominatrix who knows how to impose herself on you, you\u2019ll be more responsive and pleasure-seeking, putting yourself in a position of expectation, servitude and reward.<\/p>\n If she\u2019s a little perverse (or simply good at her job), she can also ruin your orgasms, leaving you sexually and psychologically frustrated, and waiting for more. You\u2019re then at her mercy. She can even go further by playing with this boundary or using sex toys, even outside of face-to-face sessions. Take, for example, the chastity cage<\/strong><\/span><\/a>, a highly effective accessory often used to play at lowering and raising sexual arousal without ever reaching orgasm.<\/p>\n A good dominatrix will set her limits and already have you fantasizing with this simple gesture. She\u2019ll do this from the very first session, to avoid any \u00ab\u00a0slippage\u00a0\u00bb that might damage the trust you have in each other. And by doing so, she shows you that she\u2019s the one in control. From the very first contact, she\u2019ll position herself to make you fantasize and control you.<\/p>\n Your Queen will demand respect at all times. And watch out if you cross the line! She\u2019ll punish you accordingly. So she\u2019ll demand that you show respect in every interaction, every request, every discussion. This is not a subject on which you can make any concessions. Whatever the means of communication (verbal, written, \u2026), you have to show her your devotion or risk being strongly reframed if you don\u2019t. If you persist in disrespecting her, she\u2019ll stop the exchange. Without this, a dominant-submissive<\/strong><\/span><\/a> relationship cannot continue under normal, expected conditions.<\/p>\n As a submissive, you want to free yourself from any social, societal or everyday demands. That\u2019s what a good Queen will give you. And she\u2019ll be able to bounce back and forth creatively as the situation demands. What\u2019s more, if a certain \u00ab\u00a0routine\u00a0\u00bb sets in, she\u2019ll be able to suggest new games or practices to renew the excitement of your submission. An important point if you want to stay motivated and submit naturally.<\/p>\n Even if your dominatrix controls you, she must always listen to you. Thinking that your Domina is impervious to any negotiation or discussion is a mistake, especially in a new relationship. So, if you make a faux pas, she\u2019ll know just when to punish you, so that the punishment is effective and constructive. On the other hand, she won\u2019t forget offenses and will always decide on an appropriate correction. It all depends on your character, whether you\u2019re looking for an \u00ab\u00a0emotional reference\u00a0\u00bb or a ruthless sadist.<\/p>\n As I said earlier, a healthy BDSM relationship is based on consent and voluntarism. So it\u2019s important that your dominatrix takes your physical and psychological limits into account. Transgressing these limits and not taking your submissive\u2019s feelings into account would be a fault on your Queen\u2019s part. Trust must be a two-way street. Limits can be pushed back with pedagogy and consent. Stop words, which put an instant end to a game, must be heard and respected immediately and without negotiation. It\u2019s important to remember that everyone has a free choice. If dialogue is not possible during theaftercare<\/strong><\/span><\/a>, it\u2019s best to end the relationship.<\/p>\n If a dominatrix wants to be appreciated and respected by her submissives, it\u2019s important that she demonstrates loyalty, integrity and keeps her promises while remaining true to her principles. By adopting this attitude, she will be able to embody a stable emotional referent, which is what female submissives are looking for, as well as certain submissives who feel more feminine than masculine (feminized or femellized submissives). This will enable them to feel secure and confident, while developing a fulfilling submissive relationship. To achieve this, she\u2019ll keep a certain distance from you.<\/p>\n \u00ab\u00a0XLoveCam is not responsible for blog content that<\/i> isclaimed to<\/i>be <\/i>written by an external party.\u00a0\u00bb<\/i> <\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" You love being submissive and you\u2019re looking for the perfect dominatrix to do just that. But how do you know that the one you\u2019ve just met is the right o…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":12,"featured_media":19474,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"none","_seopress_titles_title":"10 points qui prouvent que votre Queen est une bonne dominatrice","_seopress_titles_desc":"Vous adorez \u00eatre soumis et vous cherchez la dominatrice parfaite pour cela. 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<\/p>\n3 \u2013 Consciousness and free will<\/b><\/h1>\n
4 \u2013<\/b>Controlled <\/b>orgasms and <\/b>sexuality <\/b><\/h1>\n
5 \u2013 She imposes her <\/b>preferences and demands<\/b><\/h1>\n
6 \u2013 Obligatory respect<\/b><\/h1>\n
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<\/p>\n7<\/b>\u2013<\/b>Your dominatrix will be<\/b>creative and <\/b>adapt <\/b>to <\/b>every situation<\/b><\/h1>\n
8 \u2013 <\/b>Listening and <\/b>tolerance<\/b><\/h1>\n
9 \u2013 Safe words and limits<\/b><\/h1>\n
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<\/p>\n10 \u2013<\/b>Loyalty <\/b>and moral values<\/b><\/h1>\n