{"id":18768,"date":"2022-11-28T12:00:10","date_gmt":"2022-11-28T12:00:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/?p=18768"},"modified":"2024-02-22T16:19:59","modified_gmt":"2024-02-22T16:19:59","slug":"bdsm-adoptez-laftercare-pour-pimenter-votre-sexualite","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/en\/bdsm-en\/bdsm-adoptez-laftercare-pour-pimenter-votre-sexualite\/","title":{"rendered":"BDSM: adopt aftercare to spice up your sexuality"},"content":{"rendered":"

Aftercare is a BDSM practice.This activity is indispensable during sessions between submissives and dominants, and rightly so . However, it could also be adopted for more traditional sexual relations, as it has many advantages<\/strong> .<\/p>\n

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Photo Cottonbro Studio<\/p><\/div>\n

If you\u2019re not a fan of BDSM<\/strong><\/span><\/a> (bondage, domination, submission, sado-masochism), your knowledge of the field must be confined to classic clich\u00e9s like whips, handcuffs, spanking, and fax-play, all sprinkled with leather and latex. However, there are some practices that deserve a closer look, such as aftercare.<\/p>\n

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In the BDSM<\/strong><\/span><\/a> world, aftercare refers to the time and attention given to partners after an intense sexual experience. While these experiences (or \u00ab\u00a0scenes\u00a0\u00bb, as they\u2019re called) are negotiated in advance and involve consent and the definition of a safe-word (in case someone suddenly wants to stop), this doesn\u2019t mean that participants should forget to be attentive and communicative once the experience is over.<\/p>\n

If aftercare is a real plus during the most intense moments of your lovemaking, it can also delay ejaculation. In other words, aftercare can improve your sexuality. Let me tell you more.<\/p>\n

What is <\/b>after care<\/b>?<\/b><\/h2>\n

Literally translated, aftercare is the \u00ab\u00a0care after\u00a0\u00bb coitus. More concretely, it\u2019s the cuddling and caressing that dominants and submissives lavish on each other after the sessions. The physical, psychological and emotional needs of the participants are met.<\/p>\n

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\u00ab\u00a0During this type of session, the protagonists expend a lot of energy: the submissive takes it physically and mentally, and the dominant gives a lot too,\u00a0\u00bb explains sex therapist Marjorie Cambier. \u00ab\u00a0So it\u2019s a moment of calm, of soothing, between submissive and dominant, to relax both body and mind. Most of the time, the aftercare comes at the end of the BDSM session, but can also take place during it, if the pressure is too great for example\u00a0\u00bb, she adds.<\/em><\/h6>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Let\u2019s not forget that respect and consent are two crucial points that form an integral part of a BDSM session. It\u2019s also a time for debriefing. This way, everyone can share their feelings and preferences, and improve the relationship next time. And yes, if we can have the keys to an intense orgasm every time, it would be a shame to miss out.<\/p>\n

As you can see, you can also adopt aftercare as part of your vanilla sexuality. You don\u2019t have to be a fan of BDSM.<\/p>\n

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Photo Nikolina<\/p><\/div>\n

But why <\/b>adopt <\/b>it <\/b>in all types of relation ships ? <\/b><\/h2>\n

In relationships of domination<\/strong><\/span><\/a> and submission<\/strong><\/span><\/a>, aftercare is indispensable. Especially if the sessions are intense. The body and mind need moments of respite to appreciate what comes next and transform pain into pleasure. But it\u2019s also nice to put it into practice in vanilla sex.<\/p>\n

In fact, by communicating more, you can discover more about your partner and what makes him or her come. This can only be beneficial. What\u2019s more, talking about your intimacy and sharing what you like and don\u2019t like with the other person, and vice versa, creates deeper relationships.<\/p>\n

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\u00ab\u00a0A moment of tenderness and cuddling after sex allows you to relax your body, return to normal physiology, soothe yourself both physically and emotionally, but also talk to each other, find out what was positive, what may have been less so, and give free rein to your feelings\u00a0\u00bb, explains the sex therapist. <\/em><\/h6>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Communicating and showing affection will only make sex better for everyone. You can also apply aftercare to a one-night stand. You don\u2019t have to be in a relationship to share a moment of complicity, a feeling of security, and physical and psychological soothing.<\/p>\n

What<\/b> we\u2019re <\/b>really looking for <\/b>with <\/b>this practice <\/b><\/h2>\n

When it comes to BDSM in particular, \u00ab\u00a0sub-drop\u00a0\u00bb is what we seek to alleviate during aftercare. The term \u00ab\u00a0sub-drop\u00a0\u00bb refers to the sadness a submissive partner may feel when endorphins crash and adrenaline floods their body after an intense scene (although dominant partners may also experience drops).<\/p>\n

This sadness can be found in all types of relationships, not just BDSM. Many women report feeling sad after sex. All because of those damn endorphins. Proof with a 2015 study found that nearly 46% of 230 women surveyed had experienced feelings of sadness and anxiety after sex \u2013 so-called \u00ab\u00a0postcoital dysphoria\u00a0\u00bb \u2013 at least once in their lives (and around 5% had experienced these feelings repeatedly in the four weeks prior to the study).<\/p>\n

Experts attribute this phenomenon to the hormonal changes that occur after orgasm. And it seems that women are particularly sensitive to these changes. Others link it to a feeling of neglect that the woman may have experienced during intercourse by not being totally satisfied. This is called \u00ab\u00a0orgasmic deficit\u00a0\u00bb. So we need to communicate to avoid it. Or at least limit it.<\/p>\n

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Photo Cottonbro Studio<\/p><\/div>\n

Aftercare is subject <\/b>to <\/b>many <\/b>rules<\/b><\/h2>\n

If we\u2019ve summed up what aftercare is, it can take many different forms. For example, for your booty call or one-night stand, you can simply share your feelings about the experience. Take it easy, though, as women aren\u2019t usually used to this from a man \u2013 you could scare her off!<\/p>\n

In any case, if the good feelings are shared, this can be a pretext for proposing to see the person again. People want to be reminded that they matter, even after they\u2019ve sexually gratified someone. But if it didn\u2019t go well, you should say so too.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve been a couple for a long time, that doesn\u2019t mean you shouldn\u2019t practice aftercare. With these exchanges, you may be able to suggest new things in your relationship. Or improve certain details. What\u2019s more, it can be easy for long-time partners to feel neglected. So make sure you cuddle, stroke each other\u2019s hair and savor the moment after sex so that even the most routine intercourse becomes special.<\/p>\n

And you can try it out out of bed, with a cool head. That way, you\u2019ll be able to analyze and perhaps listen better than after an orgasm. You can also communicate before sex to say what you want, and so can your partner. If you can learn from this, you\u2019re well on your way to an explosive<\/strong><\/span><\/a> next sex session<\/strong><\/span><\/a>!<\/p>\n

\u00ab\u00a0XLoveCam is not responsible for the content of the blog which is stated to be written by an external party.\u00a0\u00bb<\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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