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Conventional wisdom says that lying is bad, lying to a friend is worse, and lying to a <\/b>lover is direct hell. Integrity, courtesy and, above all<\/b>,honesty<\/strong> are the foundations of a healthy relationship. Break any part of that foundation and the whole world collapses. Discover the 13 secrets you should always keep from your partner.<\/b><\/p>\n

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But let\u2019s face it: life isn\u2019t always that simple, and we\u2019re not all Boy Scouts. But does she really need to know that you hate her friends? Would it really help things if she found out how you felt about her Beef Stroganoff? In both cases, the answer is no<\/em>, and that\u2019s just being honest. So learn when you should hold your tongue. And when you\u2019re done, be sure to learn the 30 things you should tell your partner on a regular basis.<\/b><\/a>So here are 13 secrets you should always keep from your partner<\/p>\n

1 \u2013 Your sexual history<\/h2>\n

While this can sometimes come up in conversation, relationship experts say that, aside from your medical concerns (whether you\u2019re both up to date on STD testing, for example), discussing your sexual history with your current partner has pretty much zero benefits. The number of sexual partners is a recurring problem<\/strong> in couples therapy. Don\u2019t ask or tell anyone about it. Some people like the juvenile idea of a virgin bride, others really want a seasoned partner and most people fall somewhere in between. But more often than not, it\u2019s a subject that should remain off-limits, even if you think you can predict the outcome. For more great relationship advice, there are some secret tips for building the best relationships<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n

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2 \u2013 Your secret solitary behavior<\/h2>\n

Look, everyone does strange things when they\u2019re alone; it\u2019s perfectly normal. If you indulge in strange behavior while you\u2019re alone, like eating cake while excessively watching TV in your favorite underwear, or if you go chatting with young women online<\/strong><\/span><\/a>, keep that to yourself. This information won\u2019t be of any use to your partner, so she doesn\u2019t need to know.<\/p>\n

3 \u2013 Your minor doubts<\/h2>\n

There are times in both new and long-term relationships when you may wonder whether you want the relationship to continue. If you\u2019re experiencing these feelings for the first time, don\u2019t share them with your partner. These initial thoughts are not helpful to share because they will create insecurity and hurt feelings. And very often, they\u2019ll resolve themselves. Deal with them yourself. Share them with your partner if the feelings persist and grow stronger over time. But otherwise, keep your secrets.<\/p>\n

4 \u2013 That you want her to be more successful<\/h2>\n

Let\u2019s say your partner has a job she\u2019s passionate about, but it\u2019s not the ultimate either. Or maybe you can\u2019t understand why she doesn\u2019t try just a little harder to climb the ladder. If you share this frustration, your comments will come across as minimally hurtful to your partner. In the end, it\u2019s probably best to keep these thoughts to yourself. This is especially true if your other half has had to deal with self-confidence issues in the past.<\/p>\n

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5 \u2013 You don\u2019t like one of his family members<\/h2>\n

This is one of the hardest secrets to keep, but one of the most important. You certainly don\u2019t have to say you love them, but sowing hatred will only backfire. And if their mother, sister, brother, uncle or whoever is really terrible, this problem will eventually be revealed and you\u2019ll have a supportive role.<\/p>\n

6 \u2013 That you don\u2019t love something she can\u2019t change<\/h2>\n

Another time when it\u2019s best to keep quiet? When your partner can\u2019t do anything about your complaint. It\u2019s much kinder to feed little worthless lies about your partner\u2019s haircut, hair color, meatloaf recipe and dance moves. If you love someone, sacrifice the truth in these situations. Tell them you want meatloaf tips, ask them to dance and compliment their haircut. In return, their smile will let you know you\u2019ve done the right thing.<\/p>\n

7 \u2013 You think one of his friends is hot<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re attracted to one of her close friends, keep it a secret. Of course, this is only true if you never plan to act on it. If you do, the situation is totally different and a conversation should be started. But if it\u2019s simply that you\u2019re a little attracted to one of her friends, it\u2019s no big deal. Besides, you\u2019d make everything immediately awkward if you told your partner that you think her friend is hot.<\/p>\n

8 \u2013 What you spend your personal money on<\/h2>\n

You\u2019ve probably heard this advice before: even if you have joint finances as a couple, each of you should also have your own bank account. There are several reasons for this, but one of them is that it\u2019s really convenient to spend money on little things that your partner doesn\u2019t know about. There are times when you spend money just on yourself. Are you obsessed with an expensive pair of sneakers that you know your other half wouldn\u2019t approve of? No problem. But if these expenses have an impact on your finances together, you\u2019ll need to talk about it.<\/p>\n

9 \u2013 Anything negative your friends or family talk about<\/h2>\n

It\u2019s best if you don\u2019t share your loved ones\u2019 initial negative reactions to your partner. Keep a few secrets. These comments can be very hurtful and difficult to recover from. If you reveal them, your partner will always remember what was said and may later use it as proof that your family or friends never loved them all along. Besides, what do they gain from knowing? That\u2019s right, nothing.<\/p>\n

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10 \u2013 You\u2019ve had better sex<\/h2>\n

So maybe you had a better sex time with one of your past passionate loves. But that\u2019s not something you should share with your current lover. Your partner wants to know that she\u2019s the best lover ever. She wants you to forget about everyone else before them, so let her think so. There\u2019s no benefit to letting your partner know how great the sex was with someone from your past. In fact, it opens a can of worms, so keep it closed. Tell her she\u2019s the besta you\u2019ve ever had and watch her self-esteem blossom (an unexpected aphrodisiac). Plus, the good news is that we know how to turn your partner into a sex goddess.<\/p>\n

11 \u2013 That you weren\u2019t initially attracted to them<\/h2>\n

Attraction often grows after meeting someone. Mentioning that you took a while to be attracted to your current partner is neither amusing nor helpful to her. This information is hurtful and now irrelevant. You\u2019re with her now for a reason, so you don\u2019t need to say that attraction has finally grown.<\/p>\n

12 \u2013 You like \u00ab\u00a0X\u00a0\u00bb, better to talk about your ex<\/h2>\n

There\u2019s no point in reminding your partner what you miss about your ex or what\u2019s best about the relationship. After all, who cares? Maybe your ex was a better cook, planned better dates or shared your interest in a certain hobby, but your past relationship ended for a reason, so let it go. Better to spend time using what you\u2019ve learned and appreciated and making the most of it in this relationship. This really is one of the secrets to keep to yourself.<\/p>\n

13 \u2013 That you think they should lose weight<\/h2>\n

But you already knew that.<\/p>\n

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Now that you know the 13 secrets you should never reveal, maybe you could take some advice from our gay friends<\/strong><\/span><\/a> on how to make your relationship last. Give it a try, you might be surprised!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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