{"id":13232,"date":"2023-12-29T15:51:00","date_gmt":"2023-12-29T15:51:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/?p=13232"},"modified":"2023-12-29T15:51:00","modified_gmt":"2023-12-29T15:51:00","slug":"20-termes-rencontre-que-vous-ne-connaissez-pas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/en\/seduction-en\/20-termes-rencontre-que-vous-ne-connaissez-pas\/","title":{"rendered":"20 dating terms you don’t know if you’re over 40.."},"content":{"rendered":"

In the dating world, new terms are appearing regularly. Ghosting. Breadcrumbing. Orbiting<\/b><\/em>\u2026Chances are you\u2019ve heard these terms and others like them. There\u2019s also a good chance you have absolutely no idea what they mean \u2013 if you\u2019re 40, or more. Discover the new glossary of modern romance.<\/b><\/p>\n

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Yes, for people of a \u00ab\u00a0certain age\u00a0\u00bb, having conversations about modern romance can seem a bit like wading through semantic obscurity; it\u2019s like children speaking a different language. So read on and explore the world with your new knowledge.<\/p>\n

1. Ghosting<\/h2>\n

You meet someone, you go on a date, you have a good time. You keep talking. Then, one day, you send a text without receiving a reply. You wait a few days. You think she\u2019s probably just busy. Then weeks go by and you realize that everything you\u2019ve had is over. It\u2019s bad enough that people do this after appointments. But it\u2019s even worse when you\u2019ve shared things with the person. You see someone for months, then one day, she disappears into thin air. No returns, no answers, no explanations. Just silence.<\/p>\n

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It takes much longer to get over this type of break-up than the traditional process because of the agonizing period when you\u2019re wondering if you\u2019re still in a relationship. These days, people treat Ghosting as if it\u2019s just a funny dating quirk in the digital age, but it\u2019s not. It\u2019s unbearable for the victim and creates a real problem of trust and intimacy for her. It\u2019s time to call it what it is, which is severe emotional abuse.<\/p>\n

2. Breadcrumbing<\/h2>\n

Ah, Breadcrumbing. The coward\u2019s way out of what is already a coward\u2019s way out. Unlike ghosts, who will cease communication altogether, the person will send messages but not trivial ones, such as \u00ab\u00a0Hey, what\u2019s going on?\u00a0\u00bb without ever making the effort to move on to the dating stage. This could go on for months or even years. For the person, it\u2019s an easy way to keep the door open in case he\/she decides to pursue something after all, or to make you so desperate that you consent to a call now and then. Sometimes he\/she disappears for weeks, only to resurface and throw another mystery your way, causing you to tear your hair out wondering if he\/she\u2019s interested or not.<\/p>\n

3. Orbiting<\/h2>\n

This is a terrible new trend in dating. In orbit, someone ghosts you, but continues to stalk your social media. You wouldn\u2019t know it from Facebook or Twitter, but Instagram and Snapchat stories tell you which users have viewed your content. If your ghost appears, it means you\u2019re in orbit. This, too, can lead to psychological anguish for the victim, who wonders whether this means the ghost regrets their decision to abandon you or simply stays in your orbit, so as not to forget them completely \u2013 maybe they feel like hanging up again. Of course, you\u2019ll never know which is which, as they don\u2019t have the courtesy to simply tell you how they feel. The alternative term for this breakdown of basic courtesy is \u00ab\u00a0obsessive\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\n

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4. Benching<\/h2>\n

Similar to curving, \u00ab\u00a0benching\u00a0\u00bb involves trading with someone just enough to keep you as an option. The crueler way because the victim doesn\u2019t know if you\u2019re a bit flaky or just not interested. With benching, it\u2019s more obvious that the person is looking for alternatives and is just benching you in case one of their key players gets called off the field.<\/p>\n

5. Cushioning<\/h2>\n

When you meet someone you really like, she\u2019s already in a relationship. The way she flirts with you through text gives the impression she\u2019s interested, but there\u2019s nothing to say she\u2019s planning to leave her current partner. It\u2019s cushioning \u2013 keeping the seat warm in case she wants to use it somewhere in the future.<\/p>\n

6. Stashing<\/h2>\n

You\u2019re dating someone and you feel that things are going well. But you notice that she\u2019s not introducing you to her circle or on her social media, nor is she turning away from the messages you post. It\u2019s the modern version of getting weird when you ask to meet your partner\u2019s parents. The person you\u2019re with loves you, but isn\u2019t sure they want to close the door on other possibilities, and so \u00ab\u00a0hide\u00a0\u00bb you like you would a basket of dirty laundry, in the closet.<\/p>\n

7. Cuffing Season<\/h2>\n

An extremely insulting and slightly sexist term (it\u2019s almost always used by men to refer to women) for the period between early autumn and late winter, when people are more likely to date someone regularly just to have a warm body nearby. Because God knows, being in an intimate relationship with regular sexual activity is akin to being chained to the floor.<\/p>\n

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8. Curving<\/h2>\n

Curving is a little easier to take than complete rejection. It\u2019s when someone refuses your advances but doesn\u2019t do it directly. A good example is when Drake tried to kiss Rihanna on stage at the 2016 VMA Awards and she literally curved her cheek. While curving is a bit more enjoyable than many of the other items on this list, it\u2019s still used as a way to keep an option open even if you\u2019re not really interested. Notice a trend here\u2026?<\/p>\n

9. Firedooring<\/h2>\n

It\u2019s when one person has all the power in an exchange. Someone who will text you but won\u2019t respond when you text them back. Someone who will never plan to see you but expects you to drop everything so she can come over when she has a free afternoon. As the name suggests, this isn\u2019t a two-way street. It\u2019s a Firedoor. You can get out, but you can\u2019t get in. In short, not the kind of meeting you\u2019re looking for!<\/p>\n

10. Incel<\/h2>\n

This means \u00ab\u00a0involuntary celibate\u00a0\u00bb and is generally used as an identity term by people who feel entitled to sex but can\u2019t get it. These people absorb everything and, more often than not, are genuinely dangerous<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

11. Kittenfishing<\/h2>\n

We\u2019ve all heard of \u00ab\u00a0catfishing\u00a0\u00bb, in which someone pretends to be someone other than themselves to catch a potential partner. In \u00ab\u00a0Kittenfishing\u00a0\u00bb, however, someone doesn\u2019t lie exorbitantly in their online dating profile, they simply stretch the truth. The most basic version involves posting old or heavily altered photos, or lying about weight or height, so that the person who walks into the bar only vaguely resembles the person you\u2019ve matched up with in order to generate a date.<\/p>\n

12. Love Bombing<\/h2>\n

This involves deploying a blitzkrieg of affection at the very start of the encounter, only to lose interest completely once the prey has been hooked.<\/p>\n

13. Pansexual<\/h2>\n

If someone says they\u2019re \u00ab\u00a0pansexual\u00a0\u00bb, it means they\u2019re attracted to someone, regardless of gender. This opens up a wide range of dating possibilities.<\/p>\n

14. Polyamorous<\/h2>\n

Being \u00ab\u00a0poly\u00a0\u00bb, as the name implies, means that you can be in one relationship and still enjoy relationships with others. The key here is communication and honesty. And taking care to make sure you don\u2019t hurt or betray any of your partners. There was a form of this in ancient Rome, but it\u2019s currently enjoying a resurgence in popularity. Unlike the other terms on this list, there\u2019s nothing wrong with being pansexual or polyamorous as long as the person communicates it to you and you agree.<\/p>\n

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15. Roaching<\/h2>\n

If you discover that your partner didn\u2019t cheat on you, but was simply looking for someone on the side, passing the buck by saying she didn\u2019t realize you were monogamous won\u2019t work. As the term suggests, it\u2019s not a good thing to do.<\/p>\n

16. Sex interview<\/h2>\n

Traditionally, a date is considered a sex interview. However, more and more people are using sex to determine whether or not they want to take the trouble to get to know the person. It\u2019s a meeting for a \u00ab\u00a0sex interview\u00a0\u00bb and, while it has a certain logic, it\u2019s unromantic to say the least.<\/p>\n

17. Situationship<\/h2>\n

Going back to the fact that everyone today is insanely committed, phobic, a \u00ab\u00a0situationship\u00a0\u00bb is a sexual relationship that doesn\u2019t remain a committed relationship. You\u2019re together, but you\u2019re not together<\/em>. You\u2019re in a situation. A bit like a booty call with benefits.<\/p>\n

18. Stealthing<\/h2>\n

This is the act of removing a condom during intercourse without your partner even knowing you\u2019ve done it. As well as being emotionally traumatic, it\u2019s a direct sexual assault.<\/p>\n

19. Submarining<\/h2>\n

This is when someone breaks up with you or ghosts you, then comes back into your life after a long silence, as if nothing had happened. Just say no.<\/p>\n

20. Micro-cheating<\/h2>\n

Unlike cheating, micro-cheating involves a series of seemingly harmless gestures that would nevertheless hurt your partner if she found out, like sending a message to a pretty girl on Instagram or flirting with a hot chick in your office. For it to be micro-cheating, the key is that it\u2019s something serious enough that you can hide it from your partner. Relationship experts say that, while it may be harmless, it can also lead to real cheating, and stir up jealousy and mistrust in your couple. Be careful not to get caught out like these 17 men<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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