{"id":11421,"date":"2023-12-28T16:36:58","date_gmt":"2023-12-28T16:36:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/?p=11421"},"modified":"2023-12-28T16:36:58","modified_gmt":"2023-12-28T16:36:58","slug":"6-femmes-revelent-les-plus-grandes-erreurs-de-sexe-oral-faites-par-les-hommes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/en\/sex-en\/6-femmes-revelent-les-plus-grandes-erreurs-de-sexe-oral-faites-par-les-hommes\/","title":{"rendered":"6 women reveal the biggest oral sex mistakes made by men"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00ab\u00a0Read unconvincingly for about 45 seconds, then demand praise \u2026 Super lame.\u00a0\u00bb You can do better with oral sex\u2026 <\/strong><\/p>\n

\"6-femmes-r\u00e9v\u00e8lent-les-plus-grandes-erreurs-de-sexe-oral-faites-par-les-hommes-40-ans-et-plus-1\"<\/p>\n

If you love licking your partner, you\u2019re in luck \u2013 and more importantly, so is she \u2013 because lack of enthusiasm for cunnilingus is the main obstacle to overcome if you want to exercise it convincingly and satisfyingly. And we should all want to be good at it, because, if done right, it\u2019s more likely to end in a toe-curling orgasm than vaginal intercourse. According to a meta-study, only 25% of women are consistently orgasmic during intercourse<\/strong>. That\u2019s why oral sex is so important\u2026<\/p>\n

The fact is, many women complain that linguists make a lot of common mistakes. We know because we asked them and compiled some of their most common responses below. So read on to make sure you\u2019re not a neophyte in the fine art of pleasing her in the most intimate way possible. Improve your oral sex!<\/p>\n

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1. Assume that all women like the same things.<\/h2>\n

\u00ab\u00a0One time a guy attacked me and started saying, \u2018My ex told me I had the best tongue\u2026\u2019. \u00ab\u00a0\u2013 A, Vancouver, BC.<\/em><\/p>\n

You\u2019ve had a past lover who praised your passion for her. Your ability to make her feel good has made you feel good, and that\u2019s great. But that doesn\u2019t change the fact that every new partner comes complete with their own set of likes and dislikes. So, thinking back to glowing reviews is manna for your ego, telling your partner isn\u2019t in your best interests. Instead, absorb her verbal and non-verbal signals like a sponge. While it\u2019s advantageous to have a cache of proven techniques, the only way to get her where she wants to go is to adapt yourself to what works for her.<\/p>\n

2. Think of cunnilingus as foreplay.<\/h2>\n

\u00ab\u00a0Lap half-heartedly for about 45 seconds, then demanding praise\u2026 super lame.\u00a0\u00bb \u2013 J, Brooklyn, NY.<\/em><\/p>\n

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Dr. Ian Kerner , author of Elle vient avant: The thinking man\u2019s guide to pleasing a woman<\/span><\/strong><\/a>, <\/em> encourages you to think of cunnilingus not as foreplay, but as coreplay, the centerpiece of a complete act that culminates in her orgasm. \u00ab\u00a0Many men approach cunnilingus as an optional appetizer,\u00a0\u00bb he says. What a mistake to neglect oral sex. \u00ab\u00a0However, this approach doesn\u2019t give a woman the time she needs to be aroused and ready for direct clitoral contact, any more than a few licks here and there provide the persistent, constant clitoral stimulation that intensifies arousal.\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n

3. Being lackadaisical.<\/h2>\n

\u00ab\u00a0We know when a man is faking it. If you hate licking on a girl, just say so. We can\u2019t guarantee it won\u2019t be a love-killer (because, \u2018let\u2019s go now\u2019) but nothing\u2019s worse than a guy who gives you a quick lick with a facial expression akin to a kid who hates broccoli and then runs away thinking he\u2019s done his guy duty. Uh, no, man. We can read the time. \u00ab\u00a0\u2013 E, Seattle, WA.<\/em><\/p>\n

Pamela Madsen, sex educator and author, explains that many women feel shame in front of their vulvas and worry about how they look and smell. \u00ab\u00a0The best orgasms happen when women know their partner loves their pussy,\u00a0\u00bb she explains, adding that partners would do well to verbalize their arousal and excitement when approaching a woman\u2019s vulva. It\u2019s a sentiment echoed by Dr. Kerner. \u00ab\u00a0Cunnilingus is an extremely vulnerable act and many women feel a lack of genital self-esteem,\u00a0\u00bb he says. \u00ab\u00a0Be sure to reassure her that you\u2019re attracted to her smell and taste, and that you enjoy being there and there\u2019s no rush. She\u2019s got all the time in the world.\u00a0\u00bb. And oral sex paves the way for pleasure.<\/p>\n

Kerner\u2019s final point: it\u2019s important not to be too goal-oriented. You run the risk of screwing things up. And anyway, you should be enthusiastic. Getting off is one of the surest ways to prolong sex (a lot)<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

4. The tongue hits the clitoris at full speed.<\/h2>\n

\u00ab\u00a0Don\u2019t check to make sure he\u2019s got the pressure right. Cunnilingus is like a massage\u2026 it\u2019s important to get the pressure right so it\u2019s satisfying but not overwhelming.\u00a0\u00bb- B, London, UK.<\/em><\/p>\n

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Of course, everyone is different, but many women interviewed mentioned that too much direct pressure on the clitoris can be too intense to be pleasurable. \u00ab\u00a0The head of the clitoris is homologous to the head of the penis, which means they come from the same embryonic tissue,\u00a0\u00bb explains clinical sexologist Dr. Lindsey Doe. Dr. Lindsey Doe.\u00a0\u00bb In the same way you probably don\u2019t want me to suck, pat and rub the head of your dick, it\u2019s the same with my clitoris.<\/p>\n

Run your tongue along the clitoral shaft. Use the clitoral hood or foreskin to massage it without direct stimulation. And for God\u2019s sake, pay attention to the body\u2019s signals, because I might want less, more or something quite different. We each have our own preference when it comes to pressure.\u00a0\u00bb The clitoris is full of nerves \u2013 more nerve endings than the whole penis \u2013 and while some women like a firm touch, for others it\u2019s too sensitive. Take note of her verbal and non-verbal signals.<\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t use your fingers or use them as a proxy for your penis.<\/h2>\n

\u00ab\u00a0Fingered straight, instead of curling the fingers forward of the pelvis to touch the g-spot, it feels like a small penis. It doesn\u2019t do much.\u00a0\u00bb- B, London. UNITED KINGDOM.<\/em><\/p>\n

Not all women liked their cunnilingus accompanied by fingering, but many women I spoke to said that having a mouth rub over and around their vulva made for a more powerful and reliable orgasm, especially rubbing the spongy area of the front wall of their vagina. \u00ab\u00a0Don\u2019t think of your fingers as a proxy for your penis; it\u2019s not about the thrust; it\u2019s more about penetration and pressure,\u00a0\u00bb explains Dr. Kerner. \u00ab\u00a0The vagina contracts naturally, so insert one or two fingers into the vagina; press upwards against the G-spot, let its vaginal muscles nestle and squeeze against your fingers.<\/p>\n

6. Pay no attention to clues.<\/h2>\n

\u00ab\u00a0When you say, \u2018Mmm, this is so good, I love it,\u2019 and they immediately turn it on. If something sounds amazing, please, oh, please, keep doing it that way. \u00ab\u00a0\u2013 L, Brooklyn, NY.<\/em><\/p>\n

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While her thighs may be on your ears from time to time, listening to the verbal and non-verbal signals she gives you is going to be a key element in knowing whether she\u2019s looking forward to it or frustrated by the oral you\u2019re giving her. Generally, \u00ab\u00a0yes\u00a0\u00bb and \u00ab\u00a0oh my god\u00a0\u00bb mean \u00ab\u00a0keep doing exactly what you\u2019re doing\u00a0\u00bb although, according to many women, they\u2019re often interpreted as requests for change. Another witness, J from Brooklyn, put it this way, \u00ab\u00a0Let\u2019s go back to foreplay-type movements. I\u2019m trying to focus on an orgasm! \u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n

Prolonged silences, on the other hand, force you to open up other channels of communication. Don\u2019t be afraid to ask what she likes. And while you\u2019re having these conversations, make sure you don\u2019t utter any of the phrases you should never say to a naked woman<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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