{"id":11331,"date":"2023-12-28T16:27:00","date_gmt":"2023-12-28T16:27:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/?p=11331"},"modified":"2023-12-28T16:27:00","modified_gmt":"2023-12-28T16:27:00","slug":"les-12-regles-a-connaitre-pour-sortir-avec-une-collegue","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/en\/milf-en\/les-12-regles-a-connaitre-pour-sortir-avec-une-collegue\/","title":{"rendered":"12 rules for dating a colleague"},"content":{"rendered":"

As we work longer and longer, one thing is inevitable: we spend more time in the office. Hard to have a social life then. But for some of us, that\u2019s not always a barrier to meeting someone. Here are 12 rules to follow to date a colleague and avoid making any blunders\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

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In fact, some studies suggest that work is the third most common way to meet someone in love. They even point out that at least a quarter of working professionals admit to having dated a colleague in the past. Surprising!<\/p>\n

However, it\u2019s a tricky business, and there are a few rules to follow if you don\u2019t want to spoil the mood in the office if it goes wrong or simply comes to an end. Here are 12 rules for dating a colleague.<\/p>\n

1 \u2013 Know the ground rules<\/h2>\n

The first rule to follow when you want to date someone at work is to find out if you really can. Some companies outright forbid such relationships in the office, while others prohibit dating between direct colleagues, such as superiors and juniors (and their teammates). You should consult your company handbook on this subject. If it\u2019s not clear, ask your human resources department directly (remember: that\u2019s what they\u2019re there for, too.) If you\u2019re not careful, flirting could get you into big trouble, or even be considered sexual harassment<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, it\u2019s even a good idea to talk about it: disclosing the relationship and following the rules can potentially protect you and\/or your partner from problems related to sexual harassment. You never know..<\/p>\n

2 \u2013 Be reasonable<\/h2>\n

If there are no obstacles to your business, the first thing to do is to determine your partner\u2019s \u00ab\u00a0status\u00a0\u00bb, not only at work but also in his or her personal life. While a ring on the finger is an obvious indicator, photos on someone\u2019s desk or workspace can also be an important clue to a person\u2019s life. Ditto if you follow the person on social networks, you should find plenty of clues. If you don\u2019t, you\u2019ll need to exercise restraint.<\/p>\n

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During these first steps, you should also try to get her<\/em> attention.<\/p>\n

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3 \u2013 Enter the \u00ab\u00a0Friend Zone\u00a0\u00bb first<\/h2>\n

Don\u2019t ask your colleagues about their marital status \u2013 you might embarrass some of them. This is generally inappropriate behavior. Start by simply talking to the person while you\u2019re waiting for coffee, when you pass each other in the corridors or at the start of meetings.<\/p>\n

Then take the conversation a step further by asking what films the person has seen recently, how long it takes them to get to the office, etc etc\u2026 Small, innocuous things that will tell you something about their personal status. Build on this budding friendship: if it\u2019s someone at work, you need to start from a distance before the relationship becomes romantic.<\/p>\n

4 \u2013 Don\u2019t date the intern if you\u2019re an executive. And vice versa.<\/h2>\n

Your safest choice for a partner is a peer \u2013 someone at your own organizational level. And while dating someone above you on the corporate ladder is often against the rules, it bears repeating: don\u2019t date the boss. Employees who date their organizational superiors incur the most negative reactions from colleagues. They are more likely to be betrayed by them, and to be the focus of gossip.<\/p>\n

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5 \u2013 Define \u00ab\u00a0single\u00a0\u00bb<\/h2>\n

Is it crazy because the person of your dreams told you they\u2019re single? Not so fast: you need to understand what that means. They could be single but not divorced; maybe they\u2019re separated but not sharing that information with you? Maybe that\u2019s okay with you. But here\u2019s the thing: it\u2019s important to fully understand the other person\u2019s situation in order to avoid any blunders that could have consequences for your professional life later on.<\/p>\n

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6 \u2013 Think about the disadvantages, as they can be numerous<\/h2>\n

Before you make a move, give yourself time to think seriously about whether it\u2019s going to work. This extra psychic work is insurance: in an ideal world, everything goes well, but even if it does, you need to see this person every day and act professionally. Every behavior you have to adopt has to be motivated at the end. You can\u2019t just walk away and never see this person again. So think beyond the immediate pleasure, because dating a colleague can change your work atmosphere, for better\u2026 or worse!<\/p>\n

7 \u2013 Try your luck at lunchtime<\/h2>\n

Ready to try your luck? Then opt for lunchtime. Plan it for the next day or a few days later and do it at a sit-down restaurant (not between two sandwiches at the bakery, no no). That way, it feels like a date without being too intense.<\/p>\n

A good lunch allows you to discuss what you like and discover your common tastes and your next free moments to reiterate. Drinks, on the other hand, can put you in a vulnerable situation where the relationship could evolve\u2026 well\u2026 too quickly. So don\u2019t drink too much. Besides, anyone who drinks too much, especially on a first date, isn\u2019t attractive.<\/p>\n

8 \u2013 Practice restraint<\/h2>\n

Committing too quickly \u2013 physically and emotionally \u2013 can be one route to a messy office breakup. So, just as you shouldn\u2019t start the relationship by heading for the bedroom, neither should you get ahead of yourself by planning your retirement together. If you\u2019re both willing to explore the possibility of a relationship, think in slow motion. Dating a colleague is something to think about!<\/p>\n

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9 \u2013 Have a script<\/h2>\n

Depending on your company\u2019s dating rules, keeping your relationship a secret may or may not vary. But if you don\u2019t have to say it publicly, it might be a good idea to keep things secret for a month or so. Just to be sure..<\/p>\n

You can talk to your partner about it like this: \u00ab\u00a0I feel there\u2019s potential between us and I want to explore this, but can we keep it between the two of us for now so we know where it\u2019s going?\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\n

After all, letting your love life become a desk job isn\u2019t good for anyone. Once you\u2019re committed, talk about it if you want.<\/p>\n

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10 \u2013 Keep the relationship out of the office<\/h2>\n

Repeat after me: only flirt outside the office \u2013 period. And yes, that means you need to be on your best behavior during regular work hours, group lunches and coffee breaks. Don\u2019t make anyone feel uncomfortable about your private life.<\/p>\n

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11 \u2013 Beware of your colleagues<\/h2>\n

You may be the only one on cloud nine talking about your new romance. Even if you think your colleagues aren\u2019t embarrassed, they may be. Be prepared for them to be less open and honest with you, to trust you less and perhaps to think you\u2019re interested in your relationship simply to move up the hierarchy.<\/p>\n

Deflect their emotions by never showing favoritism towards your partner and not accepting favoritism from them either. Perceptions of unfairness lead to betrayal by colleagues and other negative reactions. Therefore, trying to avoid the appearance of preferential treatment can avoid a lot of problems. Yes, dating a colleague is no picnic.<\/p>\n

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12 \u2013 Be a good colleague<\/h2>\n

Now that you\u2019re an item, here\u2019s another big problem: keep your romantic quarrels and drama out of the workplace. Research shows that one of the most common complaints employees have about dating colleagues is that arguments spill over into the office, disrupting work. So leave your problems at the door and keep it professional!<\/p>\n

Now that you\u2019ve got all the tips you need to avoid blunders, before you go out with a colleague, think twice! Even if she looks like Monica Bellucci<\/strong><\/span><\/a>, our Italian milf who\u2019d have you shouting \u00ab\u00a0mama mia!\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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