{"id":10865,"date":"2023-12-28T15:29:00","date_gmt":"2023-12-28T15:29:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/?p=10865"},"modified":"2023-12-28T15:29:00","modified_gmt":"2023-12-28T15:29:00","slug":"cest-le-seul-moyen-de-vraiment-oublier-votre-ex-selon-les-experts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.xlovecam.com\/blog\/en\/psychology\/cest-le-seul-moyen-de-vraiment-oublier-votre-ex-selon-les-experts\/","title":{"rendered":"It’s the only way to really get over your ex, say the experts"},"content":{"rendered":"

You finally had the courage to break up with someone who wasn\u2019t right for you, and you thought you\u2019d broken your heart forever. It\u2019s hard to let go of someone who was once deeply rooted in your life. So how do you get over your ex? <\/strong><\/p>\n

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Even if you tell yourself you\u2019re over each other once the relationship is over, it can be hard to really let go. The good news is that there\u2019s a foolproof way to help you get over your ex sooner.<\/p>\n

The \u00ab\u00a0no-contact rule\u00a0\u00bb is the most effective way to get over your ex<\/b><\/h2>\n

The \u00ab\u00a0no-contact rule\u00a0\u00bb is exactly what it sounds like. Cut off all contact with your ex. While this can be difficult, if not impossible, for people who\u2019d had a more committed relationship that involved marriage, a shared home or children, it\u2019s the only way to really move on.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re getting divorced, let your lawyer handle the legal issues<\/strong><\/span><\/a>. If you have children, you\u2019ll need to have contact, but keep it to a minimum and stay professional. Otherwise, no calling, e-mailing, texting, instant messaging or stalking your ex on social networks. And certainly no personal contact.<\/p>\n

Continuing to talk to your ex or scroll through his or her social media feeds the grief you\u2019ll inevitably feel after the loss. You need time to grieve and reflect, and you can\u2019t do that by stalking your ex\u2019s Facebook<\/strong><\/span><\/a> page.<\/p>\n

Talking to an ex too soon can set you back<\/b><\/h2>\n

The urge to reconnect is perfectly natural after a break-up. Having no contact gives you the time and space you need to adjust and move on. Talking to an ex-partner too soon can actually delay you in the grieving process by reinforcing the attachment. It\u2019s important to understand that texting and calling work against you and can damage your self-esteem.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re still talking to your ex, it\u2019s probably because you\u2019re not giving yourself a fair chance to detox. At first, you might find it hard to stay away, especially if you were co-dependent in the relationship. This kind of craving is like an addiction, and no contact means \u00ab\u00a0playing dead\u00a0\u00bb, which gives your emotional system a chance to adjust \u2026 Once you\u2019ve grieved a bit, you\u2019ll feel much better, and be able to put things in perspective.<\/p>\n

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It\u2019s important to remember why you broke up in the first place<\/b><\/h2>\n

Yes, exes can be friends, but not immediately after the breakup when there\u2019s grieving and healing to be done. When you feel hesitant in your resolve not to reach out to your ex, remind yourself why you\u2019re no longer together. Remember, contacting them now won\u2019t change that reason.<\/p>\n

Resolution and closure come from within you \u2013 not by talking to your ex. Use this time to heal and focus on you. And what you want in a relationship next time.<\/p>\n

Missing your ex is no reason to be together<\/b><\/h2>\n

It\u2019s easy to interpret certain feelings as a sign of something bigger, but that\u2019s not always the case. Everyone should know that missing your ex is not a sign that you\u2019re supposed to be together.<\/p>\n

Sadness and a desire to communicate are common after a break-up, but they\u2019re not a reason to reconcile. Feeling sad about an ending isn\u2019t a sign that the breakup was a bad idea.<\/p>\n

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It\u2019s essential to put your things away and keep yourself busy to respect the no-contact rule<\/b><\/h2>\n

To help you stay on track, avoid all reminders of your ex. Bury all mementos, gifts, photos and other reminders of the relationship. Close the box, and put it away somewhere until you\u2019re past the worst of the breakup. Then you can decide what you want to keep.<\/p>\n

Occupy your days so you have less time to think about contacting your ex. It\u2019s common to find ourselves with a lot more free time when we\u2019re no longer in a relationship. If you don\u2019t fill that time with more productive things, your idle mind, left to its own devices, can sometimes choose to linger on your ex. And make you wonder how things could have gone differently. This can make you more vulnerable and cause you to give in and contact your ex.<\/p>\n

Instead, find other ways to use this newfound free time so your mind has less opportunity to obsess and fixate on your ex. Try to socialize even if you probably don\u2019t feel like it.<\/p>\n

For example, go out for coffee with friends, take a little road trip or start something new like learning a new language, reading a classic novel or organizing that closet. This will help you forget your ex.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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