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It may not be for everyone, but it\u2019s totally doable. The blessed open marriage\u2026 You\u2019ve probably heard of it. But like flying cars, sub-two hour marathons and unicorns, open weddings don\u2019t really exist, do they? <\/strong><\/p>\n

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Is it really possible to find a happy couple together while maintaining a healthy sex life outside one\u2019s own bed?<\/p>\n

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Turns out you can. It\u2019s becoming increasingly apparent that today\u2019s couples are opening up their bedrooms to other sexual partners and finding their relationships stronger<\/em> for it. So we\u2019ve enlisted the help of several relationship experts to establish a truly successful open relationship \u2013 or open marriage. And for more ways to make sure your marriage is strong, here are 5 ways to know if it\u2019s the right person<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

1 \u2013 Make sure both really want an open marriage<\/h2>\n

For an open marriage or relationship to succeed, it\u2019s absolutely essential that both main partners accept it 100%. Often, one partner may want it much more than the other, increasing the risk of future conflict and resentment.<\/p>\n

2 \u2013 Prioritize communication<\/h2>\n

Clear, direct and frequent communication will make or break an open relationship. Communication topics change a lot depending on the open phase you\u2019re in. In general, she advises you to be clear about how open<\/em> you want your relationship to be,<\/em>what the structure will look like and how much you want to know about your spouse\u2019s other partners. It\u2019s also a good idea to set up regular \u00ab\u00a0check-ins\u00a0\u00bb to talk about your love affairs and make sure you\u2019re both feeling good. And speaking of communication, here are the sexiest things you can say to a woman on a first date<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

3 \u2013 Do your research on open marriages<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re wondering, you\u2019ll want to do some research. Just as you do a ton of research before choosing which car, camera or computer to buy, it\u2019s best not to participate in an open marriage or open relationship without knowing what you\u2019re getting into. Talk to other people who have done it and read up a bit on the subject.<\/p>\n

4 \u2013 Set the ground rules for your open marriage<\/h2>\n

It\u2019s all about boundaries. Negotiating and discussing them is really the key before opening your marriage. Throughout these conversations, you can identify landmines, sensitivities and areas that need extra support. While you can\u2019t assuage every worry, fear or uncertainty, you can offer strategies to help your partner feel heard, supported and empowered throughout the opening process.<\/p>\n

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5 \u2013 Make sure you\u2019re really comfortable with an open marriage<\/h2>\n

Often, a partner will want to have an open relationship so they can have relationships with other people, but won\u2019t be prepared when their partner starts to form relationships with others. So it\u2019s best to think carefully about how you feel about your partner having romantic relationships with others before rushing into it. It\u2019s a double standard that can cause a lot of jealousy and can eventually end a marriage.<\/p>\n

6 \u2013 Talk about how you feel about marriage in general<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re already married, it\u2019s likely that the concept of marriage is gaining in value (thankfully!), But many people have differing ideas about what marriage is \u00ab\u00a0supposed\u00a0\u00bb to be. You need to examine both partners\u2019 assumptions about what marriage defines in your minds. Understanding what each spouse wants from marriage and having a clear idea of each other\u2019s point of view makes the process of creating an open marriage, understanding why it happens and maintaining it much easier.<\/p>\n

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7 \u2013 Never make an open marriage part of an ultimatum<\/h2>\n

One way to make sure your open marriage doesn\u2019t work out? Do the alternative divorce. It\u2019s not right for you to say, \u00ab\u00a0If we want to stay together, you have to give me some sexual freedom\u00a0\u00bb. Don\u2019t do that.<\/p>\n

8 \u2013 Discuss safety issues beforehand<\/h2>\n

Better safe than sorry, right? STD protection, where each partner plans to meet new partners, and other safety issues need to be discussed and agreed beforehand. While it may not be the most fun thing to talk about, it\u2019s important to make sure that each partner handles their non-primary relationships in a way that doesn\u2019t put either party at risk.<\/p>\n

9 \u2013 Prepare for the unexpected<\/h2>\n

Just because you expect your open marriage to be a certain way doesn\u2019t mean it will be \u2013 for better or for worse. Be open to the fact that things are different in reality from what they are in theory. Sometimes that means you were afraid something would happen and now that you\u2019re in the thick of it, it\u2019s not such a big deal. Sometimes it\u2019s the other way around. You can have problems you never anticipated. This is one of those times when you\u2019re going to have to go with the flow. Also, check out these 11 secrets to a harder erection<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

10 \u2013 Consult a therapist before starting your open marriage<\/h2>\n

Although not necessary, it can ease the transition from closed to open. Seeing a therapist can facilitate the creation of a solid set of rules and boundaries, the free expression of their concerns and the understanding of potential conflicts that may arise. A therapist can also gently invite a couple to ask themselves if both parties are really on board. This is essential to the success of the open marriage.<\/p>\n

11 \u2013 Develop a strategy to counter the bumps in the road<\/h2>\n

Another useful tip for a successful open marriage. It involves discussing the protocol to follow if a boundary is crossed by one or both of the primary partners. For example, you may have set the rule that you don\u2019t want to meet your spouse\u2019s other partners. But that you can meet them by chance. What should you do? It can be beneficial to discuss this in advance. This way, both partners can be proactive and be prepared to deal with potential crossings.<\/p>\n

12 -Networking with other open couples<\/h2>\n

Having friends in the same boat can make all the difference. Join online forums or find people to meet. Get to know these people. They\u2019re good social support. And you can learn a lot from watching other people tackle similar problems.<\/p>\n

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13 \u2013 Make your check-ins fun<\/h2>\n

If you look forward to having \u00ab\u00a0points\u00a0\u00bb with your spouse, they\u2019ll be easier to manage. And much more likely to happen, too. Check-ins don\u2019t have to be catastrophic. Many couples have had success by linking it to something they enjoy: treating the relationship to dinner or drinks, or combined with a visit to the zoo or on a nature walk. Something that\u2019s a treat for you. That way, you\u2019ll be happy to have these conversations instead of dreading them.<\/p>\n

14 \u2013 Don\u2019t sweep negative emotions under the carpet<\/h2>\n

It may seem preferable to keep any bad impressions you have about the opening. But they could potentially snowball and cause major problems. Communicate about feelings related to jealousy, abandonment or envy. Talk about what works and what doesn\u2019t and why. Be prepared to see the pros and cons of being open. After all, no situation is perfect. But seeing and discussing both the pros and cons of your relationship will strengthen your bond with your partner.<\/p>\n

15 \u2013 Decide if and when you\u2019re going to get married<\/h2>\n

Not all open marriages or relationships stay open forever. The possibility of this should be thoroughly discussed during the establishment of rules and boundaries, before the marriage is opened. That way, if one of you wants to close the open marriage, you already have a plan in place for how to do it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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