Human sexuality is a vast and diverse field in which each individual has his or her own fantasies and desires. Within the transgender community, these fantasies take on a whole new dimension. Each trans person experiences his or her sexuality in a singular way, and feels his or her own fantasies. This is largely shaped by the experience and journey of transition. The next few lines highlight the stories and fantasies of trans people. They will show you how sexual exploration contributes to self-building and self-fulfillment.
Stereotypes surrounding trans fantasies
Most stereotypes surrounding trans fantasies are often based on false and sometimes reductive ideas. These clumsy thoughts feed harmful clichés about sexuality concerning the transgender community. They are sometimes dehumanizing, and relate exclusively to trans people’s transition, or even their identity, rather than accepting their diversity and complicity as individuals. This prevents us from recognizing that trans people can have many fantasies.
But please note that trans people’s sexuality should be seen as any other person’s sexuality. It’s rich and varied, and not just reduced to special fantasies or particular behaviors. And when you combat these prejudices, it fosters greater understanding, acceptance of diversity and inclusion of trans people. In this way, trans people are freed from social pressures and given a space in which to express their sexuality in peace. In addition to the above-mentioned stereotypes, we can mention the fact that trans people have fantasies described as particular (exotic or atypical). For some, they don’t correspond to gender norms. In fact, each individual, whether trans or straight, has his or her own preferences and fantasies. That said, you shouldn’t categorize the sexual desires of trans people.
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Fantasies within the trans community
The diversity of fantasies in the trans community highlights a wide range of sexual desires and explorations, just as in the rest of society. Common fantasies include practices such as BDSM, spanking and erotic experiences involving ejaculation. BDSM, for example, involves erotic role-playing in which a trans person adopts a dominant or submissive position, while being fully recognized in their gender.
Also, each fantasy can be influenced by the personal journey of transition and lived experiences, which shape the way trans people explore their sexuality. The link between gender identity and sexual exploration thus becomes central, enabling these people to express their desires while redefining their relationship to their own bodies. Fantasies can thus represent not only a form of personal fulfillment, but also a means of better understanding and accepting one’s gender identity, in line with one’s deepest desires.
Testimonials and stories from trans people about their fantasies
Fantasies are one of the things that spice up sexual life, and trans people are no exception. The testimonials and stories of trans people that follow will show you the rich diversity of trans fantasies. You’ll learn how beneficial it is to create safe spaces where everyone can express their fantasies without fear of judgment or stigmatization.
Jérémie
Jérémie is a 30-year-old trans man living in Rennes in the department of Ille-et-Vilaine (France); he shares his experience of his fantasies after his transition: “For several years, I didn’t feel comfortable in my body , and this considerably reduced my sexual desires. It was only after my transition that I really began to explore my fantasies. The first was to rediscover a tender, comforting intimacy, far removed from the hypersexualized stereotypes often associated with trans men. For my part, the importance of open communication with my partner, enabled me to discover gentle, sensual practices that really suited me.”
Alice
For Alice, a 27-year-old trans student in Brussels (Belgium), practicing BDSM has been a way of strengthening her self-affirmation:
“Before my transition, I felt a certain confusion around my fantasies of domination and submission. After my transition, these fantasies took on a new dimension. I discovered that BDSM could be a way of affirming my identity as a woman, but also of exploring power dynamics in a way that reflected my personal journey.”
“What’s more, I found forums where I could talk freely about my desires without being judged, and that helped me a lot to better understand my own fantasies and explore them with trusted partners.”
Alice’s story shows how certain fantasies can help deconstruct preconceived ideas about gender and sexuality. For her, online communities dedicated to BDSM have played a key role in her growth.
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Rosa
Rosa is a 45-year-old trans woman. She’s a waitress in a restaurant in Barcelona (Spain) who discovered solo pleasure after years of repressing her desires: “I felt disconnected from my body for a long time, especially before my transition. After a series of surgical operations, I finally began to allow myself to feel pleasure. And exploring my body with sex toys was a revelation. It was only then that I realized I could have fantasies where my body is fully desired, even by myself.”
Jordan
Jordan, a 35-year-old trans man living on the Côte d’Azur. This director of a brokerage firm shares his journey towards acceptance of his body and his desires through eroticism: “after my transition, I found it hard to reconcile myself with my body and my sexuality. I avoided intimate relationshipsfor a long time , because I didn’t trust myself. However, thanks to patient and understanding partners, I discovered an erotic side of myself that I had never explored. One of my fantasies was to be caressed and valued for my post-transition body. This enabled me to regain my lost confidence and fully develop my sexuality.”
