If you were feeling alone on the fence, you should know that this is not the case. Indeed, sexuality is subject to many clichés and prejudices. And what is expected of a man in this area is no exception. The proof is in this latest study which shows that many men are stressed during their sexual encounters. They would be 68% to feel a pressure in front of their sexual performances.
On October 18, 2022, a study entitled 4 preconceived notions about male sexuality appeared on the Internet. This study was aimed at men, in order to collect their points of view and their feelings in these sensitive moments. Especially regarding their sexual performance.
This survey was conducted by the digital clinic Charles.co, as identified by Santé Magazine, with more than 1000 men throughout France. This allowed to identify their habits and concerns about their sexual relationships. And this is how we discover that 68% of men feel pressure during sex.
So it is legitimate to wonder about the origins of this pressure. Where can this stress come from when it is supposed to be a moment of relaxation and pleasure? By analyzing the answers, the first cause would be the fear of disappointing. Many men would want to make their partners come and make sure they reach orgasm. The “success” of their sexual relations is therefore important to them. This brings us back to an obsession with performance, not with a real moment of shared pleasure. The thought that penetration is the only way to “succeed in sexual performance” is still well anchored in people’s minds. A thought often influenced by pornographic videos. But this is a very simplistic view of sexuality
Why are men stressed in bed?
It is not a myth that pornography plays a major role in the development of male sexuality. In fact, 46% of you would agree that these videos have an impact on your sex life. And yet, it’s common knowledge that what happens in these movies does not reflect reality. And that the sexual performances seen are not the norm. Indeed, not all women are fans of facial cumming, sodomy or even orgies with the neighbors and the plumber.
That said, we can’t blame pornography for everything, let’s be honest. Psychological well-being also has a huge impact on our sexuality, men and women. You might think that it would be more the prerogative of women on this point, but no, you are also concerned gentlemen. Your mental health can be a pest or your best ally when it comes to your naughty moments. Indeed, the study reveals that mental health plays a role at 62%, work and studies at 61% and screens at 50%. As for foreplay, it would be important for 97% of respondents. As we often reproach men for their lack of romanticism or attentions, it would seem that this is not true. Good news for the ladies. This figure puts an end to preconceived ideas.
Are english speaking people satisfied in bed?
We can legitimately wonder if this obsession with performance does not prevent everyone from enjoying themselves in bed. And we can also wonder if couples are more fulfilled than singles in bed, or the opposite. And finally, why some people don’t enjoy their sex under the comforter. These questions are answered by a Durex survey. The British condom brand has shared the results of this survey, on the occasion of the launch of the Nude Show, an online improvisation show that frees up speech around intimate pleasure (to be discovered on the Sex Happiness platform). The verdict is that a third of respondents love their sex life… but 45% feel that it could be improved.
A third of men are very satisfied with their sexuality
And even consider it great! This gives hope to those for whom this is not the case. Thus, 36% of them appreciate the fact of sharing these moments of pleasure with their partners. However, let’s not get carried away too quickly, because behind this average there are many differences (marital status, sexual orientation, gender of respondents, etc.).
The couple, a place of sexual fulfillment
A surprise for you or not? Thanks to this study, we discover that 49% of respondents in a couple admit to being very satisfied with their intimate life. On the other hand, only 15% of singles say the same thing. It would seem that knowing your partner for a long time helps you to discover and develop your sexuality. More confidence? Less fear of disappointing or missing out? In any case, being two helps.
Homo and bi more fulfilled than straight people
This should make some people jealous… Although sexual orientation has less impact than marital status, it still matters when it comes to sexual well-being. While 41% of homosexuals and bisexuals find their sexual life great, the percentage drops to 34% among heterosexuals. Here again, it would be interesting to know the causes of this, but perhaps that will be for another time, so let’s not waste time.
More satisfaction among women than among men
Yes, don’t be sad, but it seems that women find more satisfaction than you under the sheets. This is a good point since there is a lot of talk about female pleasure in recent years. So they are making progress on this point. So much so that 39% of women enjoy sex, compared to 32% of men. Could this be due to the male desire to do things right? In any case, it works for some women.
How to improve your sexuality?
This is the last question asked by the French in this survey. It would seem that you need to know how to manage your frustrations and reduce your mental load. Indeed, generally speaking, only 22% of the people surveyed consider their sexual relations to be perfect. The others mention, at the top of their frustrations, too little sexual activity (18%), monotonous sex (17%) and attitudes that they don’t like (12%), such as neglecting the other person’s pleasure or having sex for too short a time.
And then there are many who would like new sources of pleasure, such as physical pain (7%), lack of foreplay and tenderness (3%), lack of communication (3%), or … The impossibility of having sex with partners other than one’s own (2%).
In short, now you know what you have to do. Forget about sexual performance and think pleasure.
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