From the age of 40 onwards, some couples complain of having less sex than they used to. Between routine, raising children or the stress and fatigue of work, the libido takes a back seat. Yet sexual fulfillment is not so difficult to maintain. Here are a few habits to help you do just that.
While midlife is the ideal decade for a couple, because children are no longer babies and men and women have strong sexual desires (sometimes even outside the couple), it’s not always easy to keep the libido at its peak with the routine that has long since settled into the couple and the ancillary problems that drag on in bed. Don’t let these problems get in the way of your relationship, and intervene as soon as they arise. The most important thing is to awaken the couple’s erotic senses by adding a touch of sensuality. Because that’s what’s often missing: a little effort to make things more fascinating and keep the desire alive. Here’s how to make a couple’s sex life more exciting.
Leave your problems outside
Don’t let financial problems worry you. That’s why it’s a good idea to manage your finances. Watching and anticipating your expenses can save you a lot of worry, especially at the end of the month. Money worries are one of the main causes of lack of sex.
Be attentive to your partner’s needs and desires. It’s in the little attentions that you’ll maintain the complicity of your couple.
If you don’t spend enough time together outside the home, get together around a shared passion, go to the movies, learn ballroom dancing, take nature walks, travel regularly or restore furniture. Everything is an excuse to share time together.
Watch your diet
Adopt a healthy, balanced diet. Watch what you eat to avoid becoming overweight. At this age, deviations are harder to overcome.
Take vitamins! Did you know that vitamin B acts as a sexual stimulant? Vitamin B3 coordinates sex hormones, vitamin B5 produces sex hormones and vitamin B6 regulates mood and libido by producing serotonin and dopamine. So increase your vitamin B intake now, or take supplements.
Get some exercise. Not only is it good for body maintenance, it also regulates hormones and therefore mood. Less fighting, more fun for 2.
Season your dishes with mild spices such as ginger, saffron, nutmeg, thyme, vanilla or pepper. Wake up your taste buds before you wake up your libido.
Take care of your blood circulation: watch out for sedentary lifestyles and fatty or spicy foods. And remember to hydrate as much as possible.
Sleep well
Pay particular attention to your bedding. Back pain or poor sleep can be a real blow. Being relaxed and rested, and not having a creaky mattress, can change everything.
Take a few moments to reconnect. There’s nothing better than spending time together, like a candlelit dinner, a romantic weekend in a beautiful, quiet house or a relaxing moment at the spa. These little breaths away from everyday life will bring you even closer together.
Say sexy things to each other, express your desires and desires, explain in detail what you want to do or have done during your next sexual encounter. Feeling it can be very exciting. And if you’re not very talkative, write little erotic messages to your partner throughout the day.
Change your habits to spend more time together
Spend less time on your cell phone, don’t turn on the TV when you get home from work in the evening, put the kids to bed earlier… You’ll find ways to make the most of this extra time.
To avoid routine, don’t forget to compliment each other. You still love your partner just as much, so even if you’ve said it a thousand times, you can’t get enough.
Cuddle, be tactile, kiss and touch each other. Touch is essential to maintaining desire in a couple…
Drink aphrodisiac drinks, like watermelon juice.
Try new things. To break the routine, there’s nothing like novelty: look for unusual places, new stimuli or even practices you’ve never tried before. When it comes to sex, it’s never too late to try new things! It will increase your desire and its effectiveness tenfold.
Finally, don’t neglect your own pleasure as a stimulus for the other person’s pleasure. It works like a virtuous circle. The more your partner sees you enjoying sex, the more you’ll stimulate him or her to enjoy and give pleasure. The secret: focus on your own pleasure.
