From the age of 40 onwards, some couples complain of having less sex than they used to. Between the routine that sets in, children to take care of or work-related stress and fatigue, the libido is at half-mast. But sexual fulfillment isn’t all that difficult to maintain. Here are a few habits to help you do just that.
Although the forties can be the ideal decade for a couple, since children are no longer babies and men and women have strong sexual desires (sometimes even outside the couple), it’s not always easy to keep your libido at its peak with the routine that has long since settled into the couple and the ancillary problems you drag into bed. Don’t let these problems get in the way of your relationship, and take action as soon as they appear. To do this, the most important thing is to awaken the couple’s erotic senses by adding a touch of sensuality. Because that’s what’s often missing – a little effort to keep things glamorous and keep the desire alive. Here’s how to make your couple’s sex life more exciting.
Leave your problems outside
Don’t let financial problems bother you. That’s why it’s a good idea to take the lead in managing your finances. Watching and anticipating your expenses can save you a lot of worry, especially at the end of the month. Money worries are one of the main causes of lack of sexual relations.
Be attentive to your partner, know how to detect his or her needs and desires. It’s in the little attentions that you’ll maintain the couple’s complicity.
If you don’t spend enough time together outside the home, get together around a shared passion, go to the movies, learn ballroom dancing, take nature walks, travel regularly or restore furniture. Everything is an excuse to share time together.
Pay attention to your diet
Eat a healthy, balanced diet. Take care with your diet to avoid becoming overweight. At this age, deviations are harder to get over.
Take vitamins! Did you know that vitamin B acts as a sexual stimulant? Vitamin B3 coordinates sex hormones, vitamin B5 produces sex hormones and vitamin B6 regulates mood and libido by producing serotonin and dopamine. So boost your vitamin B intake now, or take supplements.
Get some exercise. Not only will this be good for maintaining your body, it will also regulate your hormones and therefore your mood. Less arguing, more fun for 2.
Spice up your dishes with subtle spices like ginger, saffron, nutmeg, thyme, vanilla or pepper. Wake up your taste buds before you wake up your libido.
Take care of your blood circulation: watch out for sedentary lifestyles and fatty or spicy foods. And remember to stay as hydrated as possible.
Sleep well
Pay particular attention to your bedding. Having a bad back or sleeping badly can be a real love killer. Being relaxed and rested, and not having a creaky mattress, can change everything.
Set aside a few moments together to reconnect. There’s nothing like spending a little time together, like a candlelit dinner or a romantic weekend in a beautiful, quiet home, or a relaxing moment at the spa. These little breaths away from the daily grind will bring you closer together.
Tell each other sexy things, verbalize your desires and desires, explain in detail what you want to do or have done to you during your next sexual encounter. Hearing this can be very exciting. And if you’re not much of a talker, write little erotic messages throughout the day to your partner.
Change your habits to spend more time together
Spend less time on your cell phone, don’t turn on the TV when you get home from work in the evening, put the kids to bed earlier… You’ll see that you’ll find ways to make the most of this extra time.
To avoid letting routine set in, always remember to compliment each other. You still like your partner just as much, so even if you’ve already said it a thousand times, you can’t get enough of it.
Cuddle, be tactile, hug and touch each other. Contact is essential to maintain a couple’s desire…
Indulge in aphrodisiac drinks, such as watermelon juice.
Try new things. To break the routine, there’s nothing like novelty: look for unusual places, new stimuli or even practices you haven’t tried before. When it comes to sex, it’s never too late to try new things! It’ll increase your desire and hers tenfold.
Finally, don’t neglect your own pleasure as a booster for the other person’s pleasure. It works like a virtuous circle. The more your partner sees you taking pleasure during intercourse, the more it will boost him or her to take pleasure as well as give it. The secret: focus on your own pleasure.
