In a previous article, I presented the practice of CNC to you. Today we are going to talk about the benefits and risks of this practice, as well as the importance of consent. Because where there is discomfort, there is no pleasure. This is just as true with Consensual Non-Consent.

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Let us first recall what the CNC is. It is a fetishistic sexual practice, also linked to the BDSM universe , which consists of performing a sexual act where the partner is falsely non-consenting. I underline the falsely because it must be accepted by the two protagonists. It is the “no” which means “yes” because everyone is in agreement with this false submission. Without mutual consent, there can be no consensual CNC practice.

Now that the basics are remembered, we can finally address the benefits and risks of “informed consent” (or non-consensual consent for intimates). I will also talk to you about the psychological aspects and the importance of consent. That way, if you want to get started, you will know absolutely everything there is to know (or almost).

Here we go !

What benefits can you get from CNC?

You may be pleasantly surprised to learn that Consensual Non-Consent can have positive effects on your mental and emotional health. Yes, provided of course that it is carried out in a consensual and respectful way. Acting out some of your fantasies can act as a safety valve for your inner balance. Here are a few :

– Heal old traumas

CNC can have a therapeutic effect in some practitioners, particularly if they have experienced sexual or emotional trauma in the past. It’s a way to face their fears by reliving the scenes that traumatized them in a healthier and safer way. Thus, they can relive situations of power and control in a consensual way without risks. It can help heal old wounds and a little more, it can restore self-confidence.

– Explore sexual fantasies and desires

What could be more conducive to the exploration of one’s sexuality than a safe space?! This allows you to free yourself from your fears to try experiences that are often taboo or deemed unacceptable, or even outright prohibited. It’s one of the good things about the BDSM and fetish universe , it’s that respect is the basis of everything. And by sharing such intimate desires and fantasies, you strengthen the bond with your partner. And the more connected, the better the sex, right?!

– Improve self-confidence

Whether you’re dominant or submissive, nonconsensual consent can be a great confidence-building exercise. By facing your fears and sharing your unacknowledged desires, you create a cathartic effect with the healing of trauma and the release of your fears. By overcoming your inhibitions, you gain confidence and self-esteem, which can radiate into all aspects of your life, other than sex (which is a great start!).

– Explored intimacy

One of the great direct benefits of CNC is that this experience gives you greater intimacy, a deeper intimacy with your partner. You are connected emotionally, physically. You get to really know the other and therefore understand them better. This creates a great mutual trust that allows you to explore each other’s intimate fantasies, free from any fear of judgment.

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What potential risks can you encounter?

Like everything, there is good and bad. In CNC, there are also potential risks that are good to keep in mind. These can be physical or mental. It is therefore necessary to remain cautious to avoid any type of injury.

– Risk of psychological and physical injury

Like many fetish or BDSM practices, this sexual practice can lead to physical and psychological injuries. This is why it is very important that this practice be done in a respectful and consensual manner. So in physical injuries, we will of course think of bruises and bumps, but also of scratches or more serious fractures. In terms of psychology, we will highlight the risks of depression, trauma or even emotional distress. We must therefore be careful and attentive to others.

– A major challenge: physical and emotional safety

I can’t say it enough but good sex is “safe” sex. If one of the partners does not feel safe, there can be no CNC. Everyone should be comfortable and feel confident. You must be in good physical and mental health to avoid accidents and injuries. If you (or your partner) feel emotionally stable, then avoid the practice of non-consensual consent.

– Traumas and accidents

As I told you in the previous article, it is important to communicate before any sexual act to define desires, limits and safe words. The CNC attaches particular importance to the prevention of accidents and injuries. And for that, once the rules have been established, you must continue to communicate during the act to make sure that your partner is always consenting and comfortable (don’t ask him every 5 minutes either, you’ll ruin this good moment ).

CNC: the importance of consent

I remind you once again that everyone’s consent is essential for a serene practice of CNC. And for that, it is enough to address a few points, few but essential.

It is crucial to discuss the limits of each, whether psychological or physical. These limits must be respected to avoid any risk of injury. To prevent these risks, you will therefore have to communicate and set up a security word in order to signal if a limit has been crossed (or is about to be crossed). It’s like the emergency button.

And during the sexual act, remember to check from time to time that your partner is still consenting. You can do this verbally or non-verbally, whatever works for you at the time. Little more that I would add for the end, consider establishing aftercare , this famous exchange after coitus to talk about what you liked or not. We can then speak of care. Physical care (if injured) or emotional (reflect on what you felt, share it with someone, etc.).

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What about Consensual Non-Consent?

CNC is a complex practice that can be influenced by many psychological and emotional variables. So what can we say about the psychology behind this sexual act?

It is above all a game of power and submission . The dominant exercises control by having absolute trust in his or her partner. The submissive obeys without fear and in all conscience. It is important not to neglect the emotional and psychological motivations of the CNC because they can play a decisive role in the decisions that will be made and the desires realized.

Let’s also not forget the therapeutic side of non-consensual consent. It can provide a safe space to relive situations of power and control but this time in a consensual way, with the ability to stop at any time, which can help heal past hurts and build self-confidence.

In summary, the psychology behind CNC is complex and can be influenced by many variables, such as power and submission dynamics, emotional and psychological motivations, and the relationship between CNC and emotional healing.

Conclusion

If you are looking for a way to explore your sexuality and some taboos in a respectful and consensual way, the CNC is for you. If you keep in mind the well-being and safety of your partner, you too will be able to derive intense pleasure from it.

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