each practice and the latter has its own universe.

Seeing your partner being fucked doggy style by another or sucking another man with fervor can be very exciting for fans of candaulism. Being a spectator also allows you to have a good handjob while your partner gets his ass fucked. His cries of pleasure make your excitement rise and seeing his sexual desire being satisfied by another is the best pleasure you could hope for.

But if you haven’t yet dared to take the plunge, you may be asking yourself the following questions: with this practice, are you considered a voyeur? And therefore your partner as an exhibitionist? Or is it something else? And how to test? Is this dangerous for my relationship? And so many others… I will therefore try to answer the majority of them to enlighten you.

History of candaulism

For the cultural note – yes, it takes a bit all the same, we love sex and culture! – we can go back to the 8th century BC to discover the writings of Herodotus on the subject. Everything takes root with King Candaule, captivated by the charms of his companion. Very proud of the latter, he invited his guard to come and watch them having fun. The latter, pressed insistently, agrees to observe the bedtime of the queen, who realizes it. Out of revenge, she forces the guard to kill the king and then become her husband, the new sovereign on the throne.

So, without the bloody side, this defined candaulism.

What are the differences between candaulism, voyeurism and exhibitionism?

Understand, these are three different things. For exhibitionism , the exciting idea of ​​this practice is showing one’s genitals in public. It’s a personal pleasure, without the consent of the spectators. For voyeurism , conversely, the individual will observe erotic scenes without showing themselves. The people being observed are not aware of being observed.

These two practices are considered sexual deviance, unlike candaulism, considered a sexual practice. A practice which is done with respect for each individual present, and therefore with their consent. Generally, candaulists are aroused and get pleasure from watching their spouse have sex with someone else. It’s this vision that’s exciting. Finally, this is generally practiced in a private sphere, and not in public.

Nor should candaulism be confused with swinging or libertinism.

A rather masculine fantasy

We must not hide it, candaulism is a rather masculine fantasy. The origin is often simple since there is often a question of possession and belonging to the other that comes into play.

Cuckolds feel excitement from having a desirable, sexy woman who other men crave, but who always ends up coming back to them. The man’s pride is reinforced, his ego inflated at the thought of his very beautiful wife returning and remaining his property forever. As for the sexual act between his wife and another person, he is at her service, mainly for her pleasure. It’s up to you to find the right balance so that the pleasure is shared and no one feels obligated or forgotten in their sexuality.

How to practice it?

You can indulge in it in several ways.

1 – Do it in pairs

One of the two partners has sexual relations with a third person in front of his/her partner.

2 – Go solo

One of the two partners has extramarital affairs and comes home to tell everything, sometimes with lots of photos or videos, to his/her excited partner.

3 – Try cuckolding

It’s the SM version of candaulism. One of the two partners and his or her lover dominates the remaining spouse. He insults him, humiliates him, hurts him in order to satisfy his pleasure.

How to get started?

Testing candaulism may be a good idea for a couple, or not. But sometimes it is only by trying that we get an answer to our questions. So, before you put yourself in a potentially uncomfortable situation, there are a few steps to take.

1 – Visit specialized sites

The advantage of these sites is that they often have testimonials that can tell you about the practices and experiences of each person. This allows you to discover the joys, but also the risks of candaulism. Forums allow you to discuss and ask questions if you have any. Real gold mines when you are looking for information.

2 – Find the right person

Once the decision has been made with your partner, you should find a third person who is willing to be observed having sex with a person in a relationship. There are dating sites and chats to find the third person in your trio. Some couples post ads in order to meet people.

3 – Communication and observation

When you move into practice, it is important to communicate with your partner to be attentive to their reactions. You must know each other’s limits and establish certain rules in order to preserve your relationship. The goal here is not to make the other person jealous.

Is candaulism a danger for the couple?

It must be admitted that this sexual practice is not for everyone . If your partner is very jealous, it seems logical to avoid. It’s normal. As soon as a sexual practice goes outside the box and off the beaten track it can be risky for the couple. The other person may feel in danger and this risks causing your relationship to explode.

Candaulism can also develop addictions among practitioners. It happens that the pleasure is so strong and so good for some that they can only reach orgasm this way. It then becomes complicated for a couple to find vanilla relationships and thus flourish.

How to preserve your relationship?

Cuckolding is a way like any other to open up to new sexual practices and explore one’s own pleasure, however, it is better that a sexual life for two continues to exist outside of this practice. Likewise, good communication is essential. Being able to dare to say things simply and honestly allows everyone to feel comfortable in practice.

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