One of the first anxieties of men in the bedroom is not being good enough in the bedroom. Being more enduring in bed is often part of men’s goals. But are pleasure and endurance necessarily linked? And how to do it ?
There are many clichés that circulate around manhood. We associate penis size, time, penetration, rigidity, etc… These preconceived ideas have a hard life and persist over time. However, sexual pleasure and duration of intercourse are not necessarily linked. Especially when we look at the averages of you gentlemen.
Indeed, the average duration of a sexual intercourse is between 10 and 20 minutes: no need to run a marathon to give or take pleasure. And above all, it all depends on the place we give to penetration in our sexuality. However, the obsession with performance remains. So how to be more enduring in bed? Sexologists give you 6 tips that can help you.
Tip #1: Anticipate
One of the first things you should do before jumping into a sexual relationship is …. Empty your bladder. Or keep it full (but not so full that you absolutely have to urinate). That’s a strange piece of advice, you might say. Well, not so much.
In fact, an empty or full bladder will allow you to better contract your abdominal belt, or cause tension in your perineum (for a full bladder). Because yes, gentlemen, you too have a perineum. And you should also know that it is these pelvic muscles that help with male ejaculation! So, some men have more control over their erections when they come, and thus have better control over their erections. Others prefer to have an empty bladder for better concentration.
Everyone should find what suits them: full or empty bladder, but in any case, think about it before your sex. It will help you to be more enduring in bed.
Tip #2: Start small
Learn that power does not necessarily mean strength. Penetrating your partner like a brute won’t make you the best fuck of his life, and will make you even less enduring in bed. In fact, sexologists recommend gentle penetration at the beginning of sex. It’s the sensation of this progression that will make the excitement rise. So do it slowly, savoring every millimeter. Learn to enjoy the journey rather than going straight for the goal.
How does it work? Slow movement will have several benefits. First, it allows the penis (and especially the glans) to get used to its new “environment”. A warmer, wetter and tighter place tends to excite it, so there is no need to overdo it. In fact, think of your glans, that little hypersensitive being that reacts to the slightest stimulus. So, take it easy and give it time to adapt.
That’s why many men start penetration slowly in order to adapt to these changes, until the excitement is well established. If your penis and glans are well accustomed, you’ll notice that you may not need to slow down in the middle of intercourse to avoid ejaculation.
And if you’re still too excited, get out. Avoid penetration when you’re ultra-sensitive. Let the pressure go down (think of your mother? Too violent an image?) while remaining erect to resume smoothly. The goal is to stay in control.
Tip #3: Lubricate, lubricate, lubricate
Using lubricants to be more enduring in bed is a good idea. Why? Because the lubricant will provide a greasy layer inside the vagina and on the glans, which will reduce the sensation of friction, decrease the intensity of physical arousal and therefore reduce somewhat the sensitivity of the penis. The best part is that you have a choice in the type of products. But water-based gels are the most recommended.
Also, think about the sensations they produce. Remember that lubricants that heat or cool, for example, tend to increase arousal. So, be greedy but not too greedy.
Tip #4: A little strength training for your perineum
Now that you know you have one, well, you should know that it can be worked, just like the women’s. This large muscle that runs from the tip of your anus to the root of your penis can be stimulated, muscled, contracted, etc… And having better control of this muscle is sure to help you be more enduring in bed.
To do this, easy. Do it when you go to pee, in order to identify the sphincters of the perineum muscles, those little muscles responsible for your ejaculation. So, sit on the toilet with your back straight. And once you feel ready, relax so that the urine drains naturally (without forcing or putting pressure on the bladder balloon).
Here, you wait for the pee to go down, you don’t go for it. This way, you teach your perineum to contract or relax. These two movements help you perform better in the bedroom. Again, this is about control.
Tip #5: Avoid tea, coffee, sodas, certain peppers and spices
It will come as no surprise that our sexologists have made the connection between sexual stamina, diet and lifestyle. There are foods, like those mentioned, that are irritating to the genitals. So don’t panic, we’re not telling you to cut out all pleasures drastically but reducing them as much as possible is a good recommendation.
In fact, some foods can cause small contractions in your lower abdomen. This may naturally accelerate ejaculation due to the tense state that these foods cause in the pelvic area.
Moreover, all these foods are known to make you feel the need to urinate frequently or to cause more difficulty in controlling the urinary sphincter.
Tip #6: Work out to be more enduring in bed
Yes, it may sound cliché, but it’s true. But not just any sport (unless it’s cardio that matters to you). It is often recommended to practice yoga and pilates. These sports activities are based on breathing and strengthening the abdominal belt and perineum, ideal for being more enduring in bed. They bring a very good muscular tonus at this level and we can easily transpose with the sexual lovemaking.
And they have the double advantage to relax and unwind. We forget the stress, and it is an undeniable plus to concentrate and keep a better control during sex. Don’t forget that stress and anxiety can lead to premature ejaculation. After that, in general, it’s good to do any sport to keep yourself fit and clear your mind.
Now that you have some tips, it’s up to you to put them into practice!
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