It is undeniable that having charisma allows you to attract attention. It makes life easier, whether in professional or personal life. It is also a major asset in seduction. If you are not naturally charismatic, you can learn to become so. Here are some explanations.
When you meet someone charismatic, you remember them. It is the kind of person who attracts all the eyes and to whom we want to offer everything, or that he becomes our friend. However, simply talking about charisma is reductive. Indeed, it is necessary to differentiate between professional and personal charisma, which are two very distinct and even opposite things.
To put it simply, when we talk about professional charisma, we are talking about imposing one’s ideas or values. We will take for example politicians, who are champions in this field. Indeed, whatever their audience and the medium on which they communicate, their only goal is to convince us and rally us to their ideas, while crushing those of the opponent.
Even if you admire some of them, you might not want to spend your vacation with them. There is no charisma here, we are in the personal domain. Did you understand the example? So it’s important to understand that professional charisma does not necessarily engender affection. This is the case, in reverse, for personal charisma.
So here, we will see together what are the rules to follow to become charismatic and turn all heads. We will talk about the “3 A’s” theory.
The 3 A’s
A for acceptance
This means accepting yourself but also accepting the other person as he or she is. Everyone is different and you should not want to model your partner according to your wishes, otherwise you will quickly clash. It is thus necessary to accept the other with its defects and its qualities. If certain small manias seem to you annoying, ask yourselves the following questions: he has the right to believe that he is well, I will not try to change him so that he pleases me! Anyway, if he doesn’t have the same ideas as me, what does it matter? Why contradict him? It is often impossible to show, in private life, that the person you are talking to is wrong.
And then, you have to consider the fact that it is perhaps you who are in error and who have bad habits. Questioning and taking a step back are good ways to gain a little humility and better accept the other person’s faults. This attitude will make you gain points in charisma.
A is for approval
Acceptance and approval are not the same thing. Approval is a kind of validation of the other person’s behavior. Show him that you approve of his qualities and look for his assets, big and small. This will also put you in a positive vision of things and it will only be more beneficial to become a little more charismatic.
