When you reach a certain age, it’s common to think that sexuality gradually fades away. However, the reality is quite different. Seniors continue to explore their sexuality and have fulfilling experiences at every age. Embracing your eroticism at any stage of your life? It’s possible, and much easier than you might think.
In this article, we’re going to deconstruct seven preconceived ideas about the sexuality of older men and women, while highlighting the need for men, in particular, to fully embrace their eroticism. Yes, gentlemen, mature women may have more libido than you think, but it turns out… so do you.
In fact, according to a study by Ifop for the DisonDemain* dating site, carried out among 3,000 people (aged 50) in January 2023, 94% of them claim to be sexually freer today than when they were 20. 39% of them have had sexual relations in the last twelve months. 63% declare that feelings are not necessary to have a sexual relationship. While 65% of singles aged between 50 and 65 aren’t really keen on sex on the first night, 36% plan to spend the first night with their partner after the 2nd or 3rd date!** Good news!
Several factors are involved
Generally more experience in life and in their sexuality, more self-confidence, better communication about their needs and desires, and an evolution in society which is gradually breaking down taboos. In fact, it’s noticeable that singles over fifty are more willing to let go and enjoy life in all its aspects (with respect for others and the law, of course!).
So, it’s high time to deconstruct 7 myths that stick to the skin of mature men and women in order to set the record straight. Yes, that’s my annoyed lawyer side. But I preferred cam-girl ..
Menopause doesn’t interfere with a woman’s libido
Contrary to popular belief, menopause does not mean the end of a woman’s sex life. Although it marks the end of fertility, it does not affect libido. Rather, the drop in desire often observed is linked to factors such as routine and lack of stimulation. Studies have shown that menopausal women who meet new partners feel as much desire as they did at the age of 30. Hence, perhaps, the ferocious appetite of cougars… So all you have to do is explore new ways of rekindling the flame and maintaining a fulfilling sexuality.
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Men are still interested in sex
Male sexual desire does not diminish with age. Fantasies and desires remain present throughout life. Senior men still have the capacity to engage in active, fulfilling sexuality. It’s essential to understand that age is not an obstacle to sexual fulfillment, and that men can enjoy a satisfying intimate life at any time. As in the case of women, mental strain can play a part in Popol’s rising, as can routine and any source of stress. And there are always medicated solutions, supervised by your doctor, if you need a helping hand. So don’t be discouraged if this happens, just consult your doctor.
Sexuality and tenderness coexist
It’s important not to confuse tenderness with sexuality. Tenderness can perfectly well accompany a fulfilling sex life. You don’t have to be a “sexual machine” to satisfy your partner. The expression of eroticism and fantasies remains present throughout life. It is therefore possible to combine tenderness and sensuality to create a deep and satisfying intimacy. 75% say they always pay attention to their sexuality. Among women, 73% consider sex to be important in a long-term relationship. And in “sex”, we include caresses and kisses, which are signs of affection and tenderness. The more you communicate, the easier it is to guide each other to better transform your fantasies and desires into caresses.
Inner beauty takes precedence over the physical
Aging does not diminish desirability. It’s essential to free oneself from superficial standards and focus on the essence of beauty. Maturity offers an opportunity to connect with deeper aspects of attraction, such as self-confidence, emotional intelligence and life experience. Feeling desirable makes it possible to maintain a fulfilling sex life, while enjoying the pleasures it brings.
The frequency of sexual relations can change
It’s true that sexual frequency can decrease with age. However, this depends on many individual and relationship factors. Some studies indicate that the average frequency of sexual intercourse decreases with age, yet 70% of senior citizens are still sexually active.
However, it’s important to stress that each person is unique, and that sexual satisfaction doesn’t depend solely on the frequency of intercourse. Quality and shared intimacy are equally important. What’s more, senior sexuality has social, relational and emotional implications. It helps to maintain the bond with a partner, reinforcing complicity and trust within the couple. It can also play an important role in building identity and self-esteem.
In addition, mature sexuality helps maintain cardiovascular and muscular health. It also promotes the production of hormones beneficial to the body and morale, and stimulates the immune system.
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Sexuality evolves over time
It’s wrong to think that sexuality fades with age. While certain aspects may change, sexuality remains a vital aspect of life. Excitement and sexual desire continue to exist, but it’s important to take physical changes into account and adapt to them. In a healthy, fulfilling couple relationship, it’s possible to maintain an active sex life, even if penetration isn’t the only way to experience sexual pleasure.
Sexuality is not at all a taboo subject among seniors (for 91% of them). It is even less so for single seniors (97%). This feeling increases with age: it’s even truer for the over-70s. Nevertheless, 33% of them have barriers or taboos in their sexual practices. Women are the most concerned.
Character development influences sexuality
It’s true that the evolution of our character can have an impact on our sexuality. While certain characteristics, such as narcissism and perfectionism, can hinder our sexual fulfillment, it’s essential to cultivate a balanced, positive approach to our sexuality. Focusing on self-image can create frustration and extinguish desires. On the other hand, by accepting and exploring our desires, we can experience fulfilling sexuality at any age.
Conclusion
Seniors’ sexuality is a reality that deserves to be dispelled. Older men and women have just as much right to a fulfilling sex life as everyone else. By deconstructing these myths and fully embracing their eroticism, seniors can enjoy intimate and satisfying experiences throughout their lives. It’s essential to accept the natural changes associated with age, to feel desirable and to prioritize mutual pleasure in a relationship of respect and love.
*Source: According to an internal study conducted from May 5, 2020 to May 11, 2020, on a sample of 7558 DisonsDemain users aged over 50 in France.
**Source Love Connection Nov 2019 – Survey conducted by Kantar TNS for Meetic Europe among singles aged between 18 and 65.
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