Now you’ve got a first date with the woman who caught your eye at that bar, or with whom you’ve been chatting on the Internet. But for this first date, you need to brush up on your basics to make sure you don’t make any mistakes.
Just the thought of seeing her (again) makes you feel all excited, all frantic and your head is spinning. And yet, for this first date, you want to make a good impression and put all the chances on your side. That’s normal. You may not be putting your life on the line here (but you never know!), but it’s important that you arrive in the best possible conditions, i.e. relaxed and full of confidence. So let’s go over everything you need to think about for a successful first date.
1 – Forget your complexes
It’s possible that you’re lacking in self-confidence because you’ve got a few complexes eating away at you, and that’s all you can see. Maybe it’s your physique, with a small belly, or a waist too small, hair loss, etc. But it’s too late to do anything about it.
The best thing is to accept yourself. What’s more, tell yourself that if you’ve already met the woman who makes your heart beat, or if you’ve been honest with her if it’s on a network, she’s appreciated you for who you are, and accepted you that way. So don’t think that you won’t be able to seduce her: the fact that she said yes is already a first step on her part.
2 – For a first date, take care of your appearance
Well, for other times in real life too, because someone who takes care of themselves is always more attractive. If you don’t have a first date yet, but you’re looking for one, take the opportunity to feel better about yourself by making a few changes: wearing and changing your eating habits, working out, getting a good haircut, styling your clothes, impeccable hygiene (healthy teeth, nails trimmed, unsightly hair removed, dandruff treated, deodorant, clean clothes…).
Stay as you are, don’t change at all and show yourself as you are, you wouldn’t be comfortable. So don’t change, but improve your appearance to look more polished and natural. Women love this kind of detail, whether it’s for a first date or more.
3 – Things to avoid
If it doesn’t seem obvious, avoid running sneakers, old jogging suits, clothes with holes in them, but also hair set with a ton of gels, long and/or dirty nails, beards that are taking on a life of their own, spraying yourself with perfume, … In short, too much or too little. If you want to do well on that first date, here are a few points that may help:
- a shower, including hair
- shave or trim your beard
- clean teeth and fresh breath
- trimmed nails
- use of deodorant and a subtle touch of perfume
- clean, ironed clothes
- a look that can be both classy and casual, as long as it’s well-groomed
If this first date takes place after your day’s work, take off your tie and have something to freshen up in between.
4 – Make yourself a checklist
To make sure you don’t forget anything, make yourself a short list of things to do and think about. This list has a double purpose: it’s an exercise in personal development that makes you more productive and acts as a stress-reliever. Don’t plan everything like a maniac, getting annoyed when something doesn’t go the way you want it to, but this checklist will help you think of small details.
This organization has the added benefit of relaxing you, because you can refer to it quickly and it will relax you. Goodbye unnecessary stress! Don’t forget to cross out or tick off what you’ve done, you’ll see that this will increase the anti-stress effect.
5 – Points to include in your checklist
We’re here to help you make sure you don’t forget anything on your first date. The checklist covers everything to do with your appearance, such as brushing your teeth, showering, shaving, changing your underpants, etc. etc..
If you’re having a dinner party at your home, or if you’re planning to bring her home if all goes well, you should also think about those elements of your direct environment: a clean bathroom, impeccable toilets, washing up, vacuuming, a full fridge, etc. In short, everything you need to make her feel at ease.
Finally, there are the preparations directly linked to this first appointment, such as cleaning your car if you have one, seeing how long it will take you to get there, planning ahead for parking, dealing with any transport problems, drawing cash or taking your credit card, making a reservation if necessary, etc.
You may be thinking that there’s a lot to think about, and maybe not all of it is necessary. That’s true… if you don’t want to put all the chances on your side. But if you want to succeed in seducing her on that first date, you’ll see that the effort is well worth it. And planning ahead will give you even more relaxation and self-confidence. After that, add 13 of the sexiest things to say to a woman, and you’ll have every chance on your side.
