Relationships can be funny things: one partner may think everything’s fine, and the other may close up like an oyster. One is certain that everything is on track, while the other wonders, “Why don’t we talk anymore?” And more often than not, it’s the women who want more communication, more intimacy, more verbal recognition to prove that men are committed to them. So to reconnect, here are the 13 sexiest things you can say to a woman.
Indeed, when it comes to communication, women are like tropical plants and men like cacti. Studies suggest that the “normal” woman says an average of 7,000 words a day. The average man whispers barely 2,000, and half of these are addressed to customers, colleagues or the hero image on their screen. And it’s this gap between our styles and our verbal needs that can turn a once hot, sex-packed relationship into a dreary winter’s morning. That’s why it’s important to always think “sexy”, and never forget it, even after years of relationship.
A mathematical formula to predict a couple’s future?
Want proof? Researchers at the University of Washington claim they can predict with 90% accuracy whether couples will divorce or stay married simply by listening to them talk for a few minutes. After examining data from over 500 couples in discussion, they developed a mathematical model for predicting the likelihood of divorce. . They call it “the Dow Jones industrial average for marital conversations”. A 5:1 ratio of positive to negative comments indicates a healthy marriage, they say. A ratio below that suggests trouble ahead.
So a simple rule is to talk more, share more and be more open with your emotions. But telling a guy to share more is like telling him to eat less meat: a simple concept, but less tasty in practice. The solution is to optimize your communication: a few simple phrases will warm his female heart and a few other intimate places. If things seem a little cold, a little distant, try talking. Here are 13 of the sexiest things you can say to a woman.
1 – “I’m so glad we ended up together.”
Every long-term relationship is a victory. The longer you’re together, the more couples you’ll know who didn’t make it. Every time a friend or neighbor divorces, it can send either of you looking for cracks in your own marriage. And it can have a dampening effect on your wife’s libido. To rekindle her desire, focus on the commitment you’re aiming for. The house, the kids, the wedding album – they’re all still there, but she needs written proof too.
2 – “I understand how important this is to you.”
Women evaluate the health of a relationship based on their understanding. And one way to communicate that understanding to your partner is not to jump into action every time she expresses concern about something, a common failing of men. Instead of saying “here’s how we solve this problem”, simply listen to her and acknowledge that you understand her concern, even if you don’t agree with her. Listening and understanding are powerful validations of your respect.
3 – “Let me tell you how my presentation went.”
When she asks how your day went, she doesn’t want to hear “well, how was yours?”. She wants details. To satisfy her, define your emotional reactions: “I was nervous when they didn’t jump at the offer, but I felt excited when they realized I was right.” She needs to hear you talk about your feelings as best you can. You’ll be amazed at what your emotions can do to strengthen your intimacy.
4 – “Let’s talk about Julie’s notes tomorrow. Tonight should just be about us. “
In bed, focus as much as possible on the other moment, whether or not it leads to sex. Don’t bring negative conversations to bed. These are some of the most important minutes of your relationship every day. Otherwise, you’ll be sleeping on the couch!
5 – “I dreamed of making you feel good.”
Did you know that when it comes to sexual fantasies, women are more selfish than men? Women focus on themselves in fantasy, because in real life, a man’s pleasure is a priority. Let’s hear it..
6 – “Mark the 14th on your calendar; I’ll take you somewhere. “
Follow your wife’s sexual calendar by timing her menstrual cycle. Then set your romantic weekend accordingly, even if the idea at first glance doesn’t sound sexy. Ovulation increases testosterone levels, making some women extremely horny on their most fertile days. Some studies have found elevated testosterone levels and an average 24% increase in sexual frequency in the 6 days leading up to each woman’s ovulation. Yes, planning ahead can be good..
7 – “I’m going to draw you a bath.”
Many women need a transition period between the stresses of work and family life, and the sexual feeling. A few minutes of foreplay aren’t usually enough to satisfy them. After a few years together, men tend to shorten foreplay, but the average woman takes 27 minutes to reach orgasm. A hot bath is a good place to start.
8 – “You deserve a long weekend with your girlfriends. I’ll babysit the kids. “
Because their time together is so precious, long-distance lovers make a real effort to set aside time for their relationship when they see each other. So a little distance would be completely beneficial to your relationship. There’s nothing sexier than a man who thinks of his partner’s well-being…
9 – “I love your freckles.”
To feel sexy, a woman must first feel beautiful. Continue by complimenting her on something unique to her, like her laugh or her freckles. This assures her that you find her attractive, as opposed to all the other women in the room, and more importantly that you’ve been watching her and know her well.
10 – “I always thought it would be fun if you didn’t use your hands.”
A recent survey of 2,000 women found that two out of three were interested in light bondage. The idea is very sexy to them. A little BDSM to spice up the couple. The key to success is to keep the adventure positive. When you say it’s something fun you want to try, it’s about having a good time, not fixing something that’s broken.
11 – “Let’s show the kids our honeymoon pictures.”
Reminding your wife of the commonalities you share – whether it’s a birth date, a passion for Japanese architecture or your favorite vacation spot – will ignite her desire for you. There’s even a scientific term for the phenomenon: “implicit egotism”. It means that we human beings are attracted to things and people that remind us of ourselves.
12 – “I’ll meet you in the bedroom after I fold the laundry.”
It would seem that men who did the more conventional household chores were more sexually attractive to their partners than husbands who never or rarely participated around the house. Again, women respond to verbal cues: it’s worth mentioning nonchalantly every time you feel the need to wash, or go to bed. A little mystery, more “sexy” in your life!
13 – “The weather’s awful. Let me pick up the kids from daycare. “
Women prefer protective, heroic mates rather than reckless risk-takers. In a study involving 52 women, researchers described fictional men who decided whether or not to climb a steep mountain, travel alone over dangerous terrain or jump into a river to save a drowning child. The majority of subjects said they admired men who took heroic risks, but were not very impressed by thrill-seeking adventurers. A woman wants a partner who will survive to continue being a provider and protector for her children and herself. Yes, there’s no such thing as too much!
