Sexual relations are too often summed up as penetration. But there are a thousand ways to give pleasure. Discover new sensations and explore your partner’s body in a new way with non-penetrative sex.
Let’s stop thinking of penetration as the ultimate goal of the sexual relationship (with the man’s orgasm marking the end). Penetration is not an end in itself, there are many other opportunities to reach orgasm, especially as a woman is unlikely to achieve it through penetration alone. It’s time to discover other ways of giving yourself pleasure, here are 8 ideas for you.
A vast world to explore
There are many erogenous zones, and if we never dwell on them, we miss out on spectacular sensations. So let’s get back to the body and explore every part: neck, knees, forearms, calves, back, lower abdomen…. The whole body can vibrate. Especially as it’s the intention that makes the moment more sexual. Caressing, licking, nibbling, tickling, massaging, kissing… there are so many ways to do it, the possibilities are endless. It’s enough to make you feel like an explorer.
Do you like my breasts?
Nipples are all too often forgotten. It’s a real pity to be content with roughly kneading the breasts without spending a little more time on them. Because the nipple is a very sensitive area, some women even reach orgasm simply by stimulating it. Here again, there are a number of methods to choose from: sucking, pinching, nibbling, stroking with the fingertips… there are even vibrating sextoys or sextoys that reproduce a suction mechanism, which are highly effective on the nipple. And last but not least, think about your own.
A good lick
We’ve got to stop thinking of fellatio or cunnilingus as foreplay to prepare us for what’s to come: penetration. If we instead considered these acts as sexual intercourse in their own right, we’d probably take more time to build up desire and look for different techniques to help our partner reach orgasm (rather than rushing the whole thing to get to the next part more quickly).
Tell yourself stories
Stories (in this case, naughty stories) have a real power over the imagination, and can even make you achieve unsuspected pleasure. How about masturbating to each other while one of you tells sexual stories about the other. Just imagining the scene and following the story, eagerly trying to find out what’s going to happen next, coupled with mutual caresses, will make you forget all about penetration, which will no longer be necessary.
Try dry humping
This tactic involves rubbing your partner without removing your clothes. You can feel each other’s sex without being able to reach it other than through your clothes. Prefer thin clothes for this practice (it’s hard to feel much through jeans) and rediscover new sensations. Also ideal for making love in public places without the risk of being caught out. For an even softer sensation, do it in underwear or satin pyjamas, which will make the fabric slide more easily. For the position, you can be as inventive as you like: straddling your partner, standing with one leg around his or her waist..
Try hotdogging
If the name sounds funny, hotdogging actually lives up to its name. It involves placing the man’s sex between his partner’s buttocks and going back and forth without penetration, simply staying on top. See the hot dog reference now? It’s a variation on the famous notary tie (where the man’s sex is placed between his partner’s breasts). Admittedly, this works best with a large chest. For a final variation, consider intercrural coitus (yes, another weird name). This involves placing your partner’s penis between her thighs. By acting on the closure of the thighs, you get different sensations. And for pleasure for two, get as close as possible to your partner’s sex while remaining firmly between her thighs, without giving in to the call of penetration.
Initiate yourself to tantric massage
Soften the mood and discover tactile sensations by massaging your partner’s whole body. Gradually build up desire, explore new places and sensations, let yourself go, but don’t give in to penetration. When the Tantric massage technique is mastered, you can make the pleasure last for hours without reaching orgasm.
Switch to virtual sex
When your partner is on the move or away from you, you can also explore long-distance or virtual sex. With little naughty messages, you can build up the desire. You’ve got a whole range of digital tools for this, from text messaging to video chat to put your money where your mouth is. So you can enjoy even long-distance evenings together.
