As you know, seduction is an art. Seduction takes practice to master perfectly. In the meantime, you can start by learning this lesson. If you want to have any chance of closing the deal, avoid these 5 approach phrases.
You’re hot tonight, ready to hit on any woman you fancy. You’re feeling like a seducer and you’re determined not to end the evening alone. It’s all possible. As long as you respect certain rules of seduction and avoid certain approach phrases that will scare women away faster than their own shadow.
If you don’t want to end up alone, there are certain approach phrases you should avoid at all costs. Which ones? Which ones? Because you’ve heard them 1,000 times already, and they’re often heavy-handed or vulgar, inappropriate, clumsy, even insulting… In short, you really should forget them. Above all, if you want to attract a woman’s attention, you have to understand that every approach has to be personalized, contextualized or circumstantial. So if you want to be credible in your approach, here are 5 approach phrases to avoid at all costs when you want to seduce.
1 – “Your father is a thief. He took all the stars in the sky and put them in your eyes”
Unless you really want to make people laugh through the absurd by pretending you’re heavy when you’re not, and she obviously knows it… Forget it. And even then, forget it. It may be the best-known pick-up line, but it’s no less ridiculous. With it, you’re sure to miss out on any originality and head straight for the wall. So, if you want to have a chance, you’ll have to be a little more creative. Or simply tell her she has beautiful eyes. That works too.
2 – “Excuse me… Are your parents terrorists? Because you’re such a hottie!”
So yes, I can assure you that some men do come out with this kind of phrase. And if you were one of them, shame on you! You can’t get any heavier, clumsier or more off the mark than with this approach phrase. Associating terrorism with a moment of seduction is a bit twisted, don’t you think? If it makes you laugh, it probably won’t make the woman in front of you laugh. Maybe she’ll go for it if she’s 15 and you’re a horny teenager, but no chance otherwise.
Instead, tell her that you can’t take your eyes off her because you think she’s so pretty. It’s simple, but it’s got the merit of being clear. And at least it’s coming from you.
3 – “Hi, my name is Prince and I’m charming. Someone told me you were looking for me.”
If you like looking like a nerd, go for it! It’s as pathetic as it gets. And what’s more, you come across as pretentious. The whole package. If you want to generate indifference, contempt or pity, you’re well on your way. But you’ll be alone and your story won’t end like a fairy tale.
Opt instead for the surprise effect, by asking her to buy you a drink. It’s simple, surprising and might just work. So surprising and quirky (but neither macho nor pretentious) that you may even succeed in piquing her curiosity if she has a sense of humor and likes funny approaches!
4 – “You must be tired. You’ve been running around in my head all day.”
Seduction doesn’t have to rhyme with ridicule, otherwise you’ve missed the whole point. You can feel the desire for an original approach, but this is one of the 5 approach phrases to avoid. Really. To avoid making a fool of yourself, keep it simple and tell her you’ve been thinking about her. I assure you that many women prefer simplicity and frankness to heavy-handed, awkward flirting.
5 – “You know what I’d really like to see on you? Me.”
And this one hits the nail on the head. Apart from the fact that it adds a dimension to your vulgarity, it’s also insulting to the woman. You’re treating her like a sex object. It’s total disrespect. It could even be considered borderline sexual harassment. If you’re planning to hit on one of your colleagues, think again! It’s one of those approach phrases that’s neither funny nor respectful, and could land you a well-deserved slap in the face.
BONUS Phrase
“Excuse me, you dropped this” – And give your number
It may sound like a bit of a mouthful, but it can work. Surprising as it may be. There are a few conditions that must be met. You need to choose the right moment, and do it with a personalized approach. You also need to be careful not to give the impression that you’ve got a little piece of paper with your number on it in your pocket, so you can flirt all you like.
