Sex has been scientifically proven to alleviate stress, lower blood pressure, boost the immune system and increase libido – basically, sex begets sex, triggering a never-ending cycle of pleasure. Who doesn’t want that? Here are 25 tips to turn you into a sex god.
While we’re sure your sex life is wonderful, transcendent even, as it is, there’s always room for improvement. Whether it’s whispering a few more sweet nothings or making the most subtle changes to the most basic positions, here’s a comprehensive list of tips to instantly improve your sex life. Ready to become a sex god?
1. Have more sex in the morning
We’re busier, more stressed and have taken on more directions than ever before. In crisis, things that aren’t deemed essential get pushed aside. For couples juggling work and family obligations, 15 minutes of morning sex may seem like a luxury they’d rather avoid. Not a good idea! Sex in the morning isn’t just time-efficient: you’re both in bed, in bed and out of your clothes, so it’s also a great way to start your day on a positive note. What’s more, intercourse has been proven to speed up brain oxygenation – meaning that having a first thing in the morning would set you up for a more productive day.
2. Stop smoking
If you smoke, quitting would result in harder, firmer and faster erections. Researchers used a system called a penile plethysmograph, which measures changes in girth and hardness, while men watched porn. Over the course of the 8-week study, the 31% of participants who had successfully quit smoking had a fuller erection than before. And 75% of those who quit smoking at the start of the study and were suffering from erectile dysfunction no longer had it by the end.
3. Drinking coffee
If you’re looking for a habit to replace cigarettes, choose to drink coffee to preserve your sex life. Men consuming between 85 and 170 milligrams of caffeine a day were 42% less likely to report erectile dysfunction than those who did not. Caffeine makes the muscles of the penis more relaxed, enabling increased blood circulation and, consequently, stronger erections.
4. Fill your toy box
We live in a golden age for sex toys. Not only are they more effective than ever at making their users feel good, but companies are designing beautiful sex toys and marketing them in sophisticated and discreet ways. A sex god always has little surprises hidden away somewhere…
5. Discover in the sensitive area
Women (and men) have many more erogenous zones than the handful we focus on. Stimulate one area – her brain – by encouraging her to think about what she likes. Pay equal attention to her scalp, ears, neck, wrists, fingers and feet, and make tonight’s session a 100% bodily experience.
6. Eating dark chocolate
There’s a reason why chocolate has become a pre-love gift. Cocoa increases levels of the mood-boosting hormone serotonin, which can reduce stress levels, stimulate desire and make it easier to reach orgasm. And that’s not all: cocoa also increases blood flow in the arteries and relaxes the blood vessels, sending blood to the right areas, which can increase sexual pleasure.
7. Lose a few pounds
A 2004 Italian study showed that overweight men with a BMI of 28.7 (about 195 pounds for a 5’9″ man) are 30% more likely to develop erectile dysfunction than men of normal weight. In addition, dropping fat can effectively increase the size of your penis by reducing the fat in your pubic area. A sex god has abs, not a paunch. A bigger penis you can count on in times of need? What other motivation do you need to get on the elliptical?
8. Stay slow and steady
Not all women do, but many report that a long session of kissing and groping over clothing can significantly increase their level of arousal, often indicated by the amount of vaginal lubricant they produce. While your unbridled enthusiasm will be appreciated, getting her up before your fingers stray between her legs will really pay dividends if you’re looking to make a lasting impression. If you see her squirming, rubbing her thighs, spreading her legs or simply grabbing your hand and placing it on her crotch, it’s practically in the bag.
9. Try a new position
If you’ve been together for a while, you’ve probably found some sexual positions that really work for both of you. It’s good that you know how to work it out effectively. But don’t let good be the enemy of great. Take the time to try new things. They don’t have to be acrobatic: small variations on your old favorites can make all the difference. For example: the coital alignment technique, or CAT position, is a subtle variation on the missionary, but the increased clitoral stimulation it produces for her, the pinching sensation and the back-and-forth motion demands of you can change everything.
10. Manscape
If you’re more confident about your penis, you’ll be more sure of yourself when handling it in the bedroom. One way to make it bigger and better is to trim off excess bush.
11. Share your fantasies
Sometimes we forget that a long-term relationship involves having a partner with whom you can share everything. If you’re close enough to sit in the bathroom with the door open, you should really be comfortable sharing the thoughts that turn you on. Be open about what turns you on and accept everything she says. Many fantasies will remain unfulfilled, but you’ll find that others end up on your to-do list. But whether or not this happens isn’t really the point. The point is for you and your partner to discover other aspects of your sexuality. It’s easier that way to become a sex god!
12. Do yoga
An Indian study showed that men who practiced yoga were able to triple the time spent in bed. Researchers concluded that yoga improved core strength and pelvic muscle control, which in turn extended the time until men climaxed. To really improve your sex life, discover the yoga moves that will blow your mind.
13. Sexto
Got a smartphone? Then you’ve got a photo and editing studio at your disposal. Why not use it to send tantalizing images when you’re away?! Sexting is remote foreplay, during which you can stimulate each other and anticipate the next time you’re alone.
14. Watching porn together
A great way to fulfill your fantasies is to share some of the porn videos you like, or even search for new ones together. Seeing each other’s tastes in porn is a great way to learn more about the type of stimuli you respond to. Maybe what your partner likes isn’t your cup of tea, but make it part of your sexy time together and chances are you’ll find some naughty common ground. If porn isn’t really her thing, ask her to share some erotic literature that turns her on, then take turns reading. Another idea is for the two of you to try finding a naughty, live moment with a camgirl milf, for example!
15. Talk to her
You can tell her anything, right? So don’t be anything other than direct, however gentle, about how you’d like things to change in the bedroom. It’s best to have this discussion sooner rather than later. Is she doing something you don’t particularly like? Use it as a pivot to tell her what you like. You can start this conversation by asking her to tell you what she likes about the sex you’re having and what she’s not crazy about. If you really want to turn up the heat and improve your sex life, memorize the 13 sexiest things you can say to a woman.
16. Be yourself
You are each other. If that’s what works for you, great. But that shouldn’t mean you belong to each other. If you’re always in each other’s business, things can become more difficult than if you had some semblance of an independent life. Try not to become dependent on each other and maintain or cultivate your own social life. Don’t miss out on activities you like to do, even if she doesn’t. Flirt a little. Encourage her to do the same. Even if we’re monogamous, it’s important to remind ourselves – and each other – that we still have value in the sexual marketplace.
17. Reflecting on your sex life
Stand in front of a mirror. Seriously. A large mirror leaning close to the bed offers a new perspective that will exponentially improve your sex life. It gives you all the benefits of making a sex video without the risk of it popping up when you’re presenting a PowerPoint presentation. Plus, you’ll give yourself extra motivation to stay in shape.
18. Take pride in your appearance
Having a partner can lead to a certain amount of complacency. It’s nice to be comfortable. But being too comfortable can be the first step on the road to laziness. If you and your partner have decided to give it all up, avoid regretting it. Go to the gym, update your wardrobe periodically, familiarize yourself with trends (while remaining classic) and stay on top of your personal appearance. Not only will you increase the likelihood that she’ll be excited to be on your arm, but she’ll return the favor. It’s a win-win!
19. Have a few drinks
An Australian study of 1,580 men found that drinkers reported up to 30% fewer problems in the bedroom than those who abstained from alcohol. However, the researchers were quick to mention that the men’s respective partners weren’t around to corroborate their stories.
20. Spice things up
A recent study by French researchers found that men who eat the spiciest foods tend to have higher testosterone levels than those with milder palates. The study’s authors attribute the T-stimulating effects in part to capsaicin, a compound previously associated with high testosterone levels in Chilean chillies. Severely spicy serrano peppers are also packed with quercetin, a nutrient that increases testosterone levels in the body by reducing the amount otherwise eliminated by the kidneys. Capsaicin, the compound that makes tabasco sauce spicy, releases chemicals that increase heart rate, reflect signs of arousal and unleash your libido.
21. Making out like bandits
It all started with a kiss, didn’t it? Funny, then, how the sketch disappears once you’ve plunged into the deep groove of a monogamous relationship. Don’t just think of it as something that has to lead to sex. When we kiss, our brains respond by releasing oxytocin, a feel-good chemical that helps us feel connected to our friends. It’s a vital part of staying together over the long term.
22. Getting to know the equipment
Simply put: it works with a lot of things you don’t have. Survey the Internet or crack open a book and remember which parts tend to react favorably to which stimuli. Remember, for example, that some women find direct contact with the clitoris too intense and that simulating the area around it or manipulating it through the clitoral hood is a great way to start assessing her comfort level. Find out more about how she loves rubbing an area of around two or three inches in the vagina and on the front anterior wall.
23. Eat watermelon
Watermelon is one of nature’s richest sources of L-citrulline. This is an amino acid that can help make your erection harder. Once in the body, it converts to L-arginine. This stimulates the production of nitric oxide, which increases blood flow to the penis. This strengthens your erections, which in turn improves your sex life.
24. Flip the script, slow your roll
This isn’t always the case. But women usually complain that men’s sexual response doesn’t align with their own. Nobody likes to be that famous idiot. So forget what you think you know about a sexual experience. But if you feel you’re still approaching the “point of no return” too quickly, get in the habit of withdrawing. Then get down on her, stimulate her manually. Kiss her other erogenous zones or just party until things have calmed down a bit. Use this technique for a while. You can get a better idea of your own response by gradually lengthening the duration of intercourse.
25. Exercise for sexercise
A study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that sedentary men were more likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction. While Harvard’s School of Public Health had also found that men who took part in intense physical activity for 20-30 minutes were around 50% less likely to have erectile problems than inactive men.
Now that you’ve got all the keys to being a true sex god, you won’t be committing these 7 fatal mistakes…
