Texting vs. calling, hiking vs. drinking, bar vs. restaurant, you name it… Dating can be confusing for men these days. However, many of the dating tips that are effective never change.
In order to help you succeed in your encounters and close the deal, Modern Milf gives you its best advice, gathered from various experts across the continents. So no more dating sites or live cams, and get ready for the adventure. Are you ready? Yes ? Here are 21 tips for a successful first date.
1- Be friendly
“Don’t e-mail or text a woman to ask her out for the first time. These are impersonal, and dating is about getting to know the other person personally. It also sets a poor tone for the communication dynamics of the relationship.”- Erika Martinez, Psy.D. licensed psychologist.
2- Don’t act too quickly
“For most women, online dating carries a certain level of risk and anxiety. So take the time to get to know her online, by phone and by video before suggesting meeting in person to make sure she feels comfortable.” – Dr. Wyatt Fisher, clinical psychologist.
3- Take the initiative
“When talking or texting when planning a meeting, you should always have a time and place in mind. You never want to get into one of those exchanges like…” What do you want to do? Oh I don’t know, what do you want to do? – Be confident and make a recommendation.”-Radio Wright, online dating expert.
4- Meet in public
“Arrange your first meetings in public and drive separately so the woman knows her priority is to feel safe.” – Dr. Wyatt Fisher, clinical psychologist.
5- Go somewhere you feel comfortable
“You might think you’re being a gentleman by letting your date decide where you go, but women like to see that you can take control. Take the lead by arranging a meeting in familiar territory that will help you feel more at ease.”- Nicolas Aujula, relationship coach and therapist.
6- Call her to confirm
“Doctors and dentists do it. So should you. Since men don’t usually pick up the women they’re dating, it’s pretty easy to call to confirm a date and put them at ease.”- Stef Safran, friendship and dating expert
7- Look your best
“A lot of guys don’t think about their overall appearance before going out, even though women pay attention to the little details related to appearance. Make sure you look good (check your nails for dirt, put on fresh deodorant, take a shower). Second, make sure your clothes match, aren’t wrinkled and fit well.”- David Bennett, dating coach at The Popular Man.
8- Confidence is key
“The way you enter a room or share a glance is an indicator of your confidence working for you or against you. When you feel odd or awkward, people can sense this discomfort, which will equate to whether or not you’re perceived as attractive. One of the best ways to make a good impression is to show your self-confidence”- Denise Levy, professional matchmaker.
9- Remember your manners
“Women appreciate those old-fashioned good manners. They also indicate that you appreciate that she has chosen to spend her time getting to know you.”-Erika Martinez, Psy.D. licensed psychologist.
10- Turn off your phone
“There’s nothing more annoying than phones ringing while you’re trying to have a good time with someone. Turn your phone off completely. If she knows you’ve turned off your phone to focus solely on your date, she’ll understand that you’re taking the time to discover her fully.”- Nicolas Aujula, relationship coach and therapist.
11- Keep the conversation fun
“Since guys tend to be very analytical, it’s easy for them to turn conversations into a fact-sharing session. Women find conversations like these boring. It’s fine to share facts, but be sure to add humor, intrigue and saucy thrills. It’ll make her eagerly tune in to every word.”-David Bennett, dating coach at The Popular Man.
12- Avoid the “ex” conversation
“Your date won’t be interested in this topic in general and it can make things difficult if you bring it up. If your date does bring up the subject, try to keep your answers brief. Reassure her that your past is history and that you want to spend your time getting to know her better.”- Nicolas Aujula, relationship coach and therapist.
13- Do more than dinner and drinks
“Most women aren’t dying to sit down for two hours to share a boring meal with a stranger, playing a tricky game of 20 questions. Instead, plan something more fun and adventurous. (Like bowling, hiking, kayaking.) Especially on first dates when impressions count most. Make it a date they’ll remember.”-David Bennett, dating coach at The Popular Man.
14- Compliment her
“People go out of their way to get ready for a date, so take the time to compliment your guest! Not just, “I love your dress” but “I love the way your dress brings out the color in your eyes.” Always look for the best in others and it will bring out the best in you!”- Denise Levy, Professional Matchmaker.
15- Keep your conversation light
“Try to keep your conversation light. On your first date, you don’t want to get into a deep discussion about why you don’t like your job or other issues. Avoid talking about religion, politics or controversial current events. Women want a guy who can make them laugh. Yes, sometimes you have to be serious, but have fun right from the start of romantic encounters.”- Nicolas Aujula, relationship coach and therapist.
16- Stay in the moment
“This is usually done out of a lack of confidence, hoping the girl will want to see you in the future. Women will feel this need. Simply enjoy the moment and, if all goes well, prepare for the next topics when you talk on the phone afterwards.”- Radio Wright, online dating expert.
17- Leave a little mystery when dating
“When you meet someone, you don’t want to lay all your cards on the table or tell your whole life story. The sense of mystery keeps them coming back and creates a certain chemistry that will set you apart from the rest.”- Denise Levy, Professional Matchmaker.
18- Make sure she comes home
“Make sure she gets into her car, cab, etc. safely. Women’s safety is important, it shows her that you love her and are a gentleman.”- Stef Safran, friendship and dating expert.
19- Let her take the first step towards intimacy
“This will help her feel that you love her, not just her body, but also feel safe and in control of the step you take without pressure.” – Dr. Wyatt Fisher, clinical psychologist.
20- Be honest
“Women can handle rejection. More and more people are complaining about superficiality or false appearances. If you’re not interested, don’t lead her on. After all, you never know if the next woman you date knows the tricks.”- Stef Safran, friendship and dating expert.
21- Don’t play games
We understand that you don’t want to appear needy, clingy, desperate or overzealous. But if you want to see her again, let her know. “You can include her in the conversation at the end of the first date (for example,” it was a great evening. What do you say we see each other again soon? “) If she says “yes,” say, “Great. I’ll call you on ___ and set something up. Then follow up and call whenever you like. “- Erika Martinez, Psy.D. Registered Psychologist.
And there you have it: if you follow these tips, there’s no reason you can’t get your way. In fact, if you pay close attention, you might even spot those little signs that she’s got a crush on you !
