Having fantasies is a natural thing, dictated by the unconscious and the conscious. They are first imagined and then imagined, before arousing strong emotional impulses. The male world is full of fantasies of varying degrees of daring. For example, watching two lesbians making love makes many men fantasize. Two tight bodies caressing and kissing each other with tenderness and passion… It arouses an unparalleled level of excitement in these people.
But why do men fantasize so much about lesbian relationships? There may be several reasons. In the rest of this article, we’ll reveal the male fantasies and perceptions of female relationships, highlighting the most exciting and attractive aspects for men.
How canI get pleasure without a penis?
Many men often wonder how lesbians can have pleasure without a penis. This reasoning is evidence not only of their ignorance of the subject, but also of what they feel is a threat to their virility. Indeed, the “dominant male” atavism holds that, thanks to his sex, the man is the only one who can really give pleasure to a woman. According to some specialists, rubbing the vulva without any obligation to penetrate allows him to fantasize and project himself into the illusion that it will be he, and he alone, who penetrates them.
The art of cunnilingus
Literary and cinematographic scenes have helped to dust off the atavism of the “dominant male”. Take, for example, the work of feminist porn directors. “Erika Lust shows a story first before showing sex between women, the practice of cunnilingus is seen as an art, there are caresses all over the body that include the breasts, and this makes a change from traditional porn films,” adds sex therapist Nathalie Giraud.
Gentleness between women
It’s above all the gentleness and sensuality exuded by two women making love that appeals to men. Watching the voluptuousness and eroticism that comes from these lesbians turning each other on excites them. The torrid atmosphere, the obvious connection of these sometimes lascivious, sometimes enterprising women are the elements that awaken their desire and fantasy. Then there’s the pleasure they take in discovering each other’s erogenous zones, taking their time. It’s a real turn-on for the men.
An invitation to three-way lovemaking
The famous threesome is a sexual practice that men also fantasize about. “It’s very recurrent, because it reinforces the myth of sexual vigor and virility”. For these men, lesbians are all for a threesome. It’s one of the preconceptions most men have about these women. According to Patrick, a contributor to a dating site, watching two lesbians having sex makes him feel as if they’re inviting him to join in their lovemaking.
He adds that he feels a strong urge to join in, to give them as much pleasure as he gets from watching them. The softness and sensuality emanating from the women in action are things that get him aroused too. And it makes him want to share that overflowing libido with them. Clearly, for men, making love to two women at the same time is a source of excitement. It reinforces the idea that they are strong, masculine and virile.
Sharing pleasure
For some men, it’s the sense of sharing that lesbians convey that makes them fantasize. They find it sexy to see two women giving each other pleasure and receiving as much. For these men, when it comes to sex, lesbians are more equitable, and it’s hard to see one frustrated at the end of coitus. What they particularly appreciate is when one of the two dominates, then switches roles by submitting herself afterwards. The idea that each of them can reach orgasm allows these men to project themselves into their orgasm with them.
According to an Ifop survey, men fantasize more about lesbian couples than women themselves. Another poll conducted by the same organization between March 27 and 28, 2024, among 2001 people over the age of 18, revealed that men’s favorite fantasy is sex between women.
The mere sight of two women making love would arouse them more than sex between a man and a woman. In fact, 65% more men than women search for videos of lesbian couples on porn sites.
