The festive season, whether it’s Christmas or New Year’s Day, can be a wonderful time for the whole family. Or not. One thing’s for sure: it’s a good time for cheaters and a tricky time for new couples.

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If December is more of a family month, you may be surprised to find that January is off to a different start. After the doubts of new couples on the attitude to adopt for this intimate moment, the new resolutions of unfaithful seem far removed from such considerations. In fact, for those who like to flutter about, the start of the new year seems to increase the desire for adultery tenfold. But who can blame them? New year, new encounter, logic. We reassure ourselves as best we can..

A month of coitus in January

For some, the start of the year is synonymous with sales, or Dry January following January 1st resolutions. For others, it’s a time to seize new erotic opportunities. And some days are better than others.

Favourite day for cheaters? The second Monday back from the Christmas vacations

Once again, we’d like to thank Gleeden for sharing its statistics and survey results with us, because we’re always learning more about each other. Personally, I love it, especially if it goes my way. I’m not saying that’s the case here, but sometimes I recognize myself in certain answers. Don’t you? Anyway…

Thanks to their 9 million subscribers and 12 years of existence, the platform was able to highlight this surprising point. In fact, it has seen significant peaks in activity at the beginning of January. And every year. Could it be a need to evacuate the family closeness of Christmas and New Year? In any case, this second Monday is the day when lovers and mistresses get together.

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Figures that speak for themselves

To give you a better idea, on Monday January 9, 2019, Gleeden saw a 430% boom in registrations. The following year, on January 11, 2020, they rose to 480%. On Monday, January 11, 2021, there was a slight drop, but the increase was still 220%. Let’s not forget the Covid period, which certainly played a part, so this result remains impressive. We don’t have the figures for 2022 or 2023, but it will be interesting to watch this Monday, January 8, 2024, to see what happens.

And based on the 18,782 responses given to the survey by Gleeden members in December 2021, 91% said they would connect more in January. Many justify this desire by the need to evacuate stress and regain their freedom after a month devoted to the family (51%), while others simply want something new (34%). Perhaps the most surprising reason is that the festive season makes men more open to new experiences (28%).

So if you’re looking to broaden your horizons, you now know which day is the best time to meet new people. But perhaps you already knew and had even anticipated this period by giving your lover a Christmas present. Always prepare the ground… By the way, do you know which gift cheating men give most at this time of year?

What cheating men like to give their mistresses

It doesn’t get any more original than that, let me tell you. And those who know will see you coming a thousand miles away. But it’s true that it’s always a pleasure. It’s true that at Christmas, unfaithful people have the burden of the double gift. One for their wives and one for their mistresses . And at least one of them will be entitled to a bit of sex. In addition to the gift, don’t go overboard. Even if you’re a god in bed, it’s not enough.

So to please your lover, you’ll have to reach into your pocket. But what could you offer? According to another study by the Gleeden platform, 81% of cheating men want to give their lover a Christmas present. Good for them. And 68% of them are prepared to spend more than they would on their wife’s present (as long as she never finds out!). I have to admit, after such figures, that the mistress’s position is more comfortable and offers more advantages than that of the wife. Something to think about.

To be more factual, note that over half of respondents (51%) plan to spend more than €200 on their partner’s naughty moments, and 28% expect to spend between €100 and €200. On the other hand, only a third would spend more than 200€. I’m thinking that 5 à 7s must be really good to be spoiled like that!

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The most popular gift is ..

Yes, I’ll give you the answer! Don’t be so impatient! Unfaithful men aren’t very original and always go for jewelry, accessories, lingerie, … Always appreciated, that said, but a bit of novelty in the ideas would also be welcome. As for their wives, they’re more interested in books, skincare products, household appliances, etc. In short, nothing very fun. If you want to rekindle the flame, you might want to dust it off a bit!

So why jewelry for the woman in the shadows? Because it’s symbolic. Jewelry represents a noble mark of attention that lasts over time and tangibly represents the relationship, even if it’s not official. It’s also a mark of commitment and recognition. In the case of lingerie and accessories, there’s a selfish side to it, as it allows them to enjoy it too. So you’ll note the difference in intent behind the gift between that of the mistress and that of the wife… Lingerie VS Book, it’s not the same battle! Okay, I’ll stop teasing.

There’s one last point I’d like to address, and that’s the question of new couples in the holiday season. Should they give each other a gift or not?

The dilemma of new couples

Christmas is supposed to be a pleasant, intimate, dreamlike time. But for new couples, it can quickly turn dramatic, with the main questions being: should we or shouldn’t we give a gift when the relationship is new? And if so, what? And if so, what? I’ve known people to break up at this time of year to avoid the anguish, and then get back together again at the start of the new year. Perhaps New Year’s resolutions are more helpful than the festive season in getting a relationship off to a good start!

Envy and communication

What’s more, if you’re planning to give your new partner nothing, but she’s thought of you, you’re in trouble. So you might as well talk it over openly and find out what you both want. It’ll save you an awkward moment.

Alternatively, you can rely on a study by Meetic which states that over 80% of singles would be delighted to receive a Christmas present from their new relationship (i.e. less than 6 months old). It doesn’t have to be a huge gift. It’s the thought that counts. After that, the real question to ask yourself is: do you want to give her something? This will guide you in your choice.

How to choose the right gift?

You’ve made up your mind and taken the plunge. Okay. But what to give? Think pleasure and fun / or well-being. If the dating platform is to be believed, 57% of those questioned would opt for an experience for two (shows, weekends, restaurants, treatments, etc.). For 30% of those polled, a symbolic gift would suffice, as a nod to their relationship. More surprisingly, 23% would like a customized present, such as a personalized product, and 22% would prefer an intimate gift (lingerie, beauty, skincare, etc.). If you want to be more original, like a parachute jump or a dog, only 10% will be satisfied!

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Final word

So, depending on whether you’ve been a couple for a long time or not, your festive season can be radically different. Or not. It’s up to you to make the most of these good times as you see fit and enjoy them, whatever you do.

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