Many men fantasize about having a big penis. Being well mounted. Having a big package. You get the idea. Many also believe that size is everything when it comes to satisfying your partner. But having a big penis can cause problems.
Having a big penis can be a big problem. And not just during penetration. Contrary to common belief, it’s best not to be too greedy in this area. In fact, while some men show off their 25 cm-long, 5 cm-diameter dicks, that’s far from the standard size. And in porn movies, the angle plays a big part in the rendering of sex.
In any case, to give you a clearer idea of the “norm”, let’s look at the statistics, which vary from country to country. But on average, worldwide, the average penis size is 13.1 cm long and 11.66 cm in circumference. This figure was determined after a lengthy investigation by psychiatrist David Veale and his colleagues at Kings College London, in 2015, after compiling data from numerous studies on the subject. And for France, according to Statista, the average size of an erect sex is 14.47 centimeters in length. Enough to reassure some of you.
Does size really matter?
The average size of a vagina is 6 to 8 cm. Everything else is just a supplement. This makes it possible for almost any man to bring a woman to orgasm without being ridden like a donkey. The rigidity of your member will be far more important than its length. That’s all there is to it.
So, size really doesn’t matter? In the male mind, it certainly does. Is this due to the influence of pornography, which has made large genitals the ultimate symbol of virility? The fact remains that men are still just as inclined to find out “who’s got the biggest”. All the while forgetting that sometimes, big penis also means big trouble.
“I’ve lost count of the number of women who have refused to sleep with me”.
Jules bears witness to this problem. He’s one of those who regret not having a smaller penis. It’s even spoiled some nice encounters for him.
“I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve brought women home, and they’ve decided not to go any further by pulling down my pants,” he laments, claiming that the situation has always been extremely humiliating for him.
“The problem is, as a guy, you grow up with the cliché that the bigger the better. Whereas in reality, women don’t necessarily want to deal with a huge penis. My partners reproach them for ‘hurting’ them, despite my precautions. As a result, I don’t give blowjobs, I keep my intercourse short and tight… And my pleasure often goes out the window.
A problem not really shared by Sébastien, who doesn’t seem to have had too many problems with his huge erectile organ. On the other hand, his fantasy was difficult to realize because it required real preparation: sodomy.
“Most of them had nothing against the practice, or even had already tried it, but refused categorically: either when I proposed for the first time, or even before I expressed the desire to try. As a result, it’s not particularly painful or humiliating in itself… It’s just been a huge frustration for almost fifteen years. To the point where I thought I’d never be able to find a partner to fulfill what had become my biggest fantasy.
From the women’s point of view, it’s no dream either. Their answers may surprise you if you firmly believe that a big penis would enable you to make your partner cum every time.
“With my retroverted uterus, penises that are too long are dead.”
If having a big penis can be a handicap for a man, it can be a major hindrance for women. Some women can’t even try, on pain of excruciating abdominal or vaginal pain. And sex is supposed to give pleasure, not pain. Unless you’re into BDSM. So they have to find other positions or new techniques.
Delphine is one of those people who often have to find solutions to avoid pain during penetration.
“I have a retroverted uterus, which means that my vagina can’t expand as much as others. So when a penis that’s too long slams into the bottom, it slams straight into my cervix, which is extremely painful. There are only certain positions that are bearable”.
As a result, the young woman has turned to other methods: “I practice alternative penetration, such as the fist. Of course, it’s wider, but in the end, it’s much more bearable than too deep penetration”. Recently, however, she discovered the Ohnut concept: a penis buoy that “blocks” penetration to prevent it going too deep. “I haven’t tested it yet, but it intrigues me. If it’s comfortable and effective, it could really change my life”.
“He managed to dislodge my IUD”
It has to be said that, in addition to the unpleasant aspect of too deep penetration, this can cause real physical discomfort. Julie has had bitter experience of this with her partner:
“We’ve been together for ten years. Now we know the positions in which we can both take pleasure, and how to prevent his imposing sex from hurting me. But sometimes we ‘forget’ a bit in the heat of the moment. As a result, last summer I ended up with a bruised cervix, and he even managed to dislodge my IUD. Luckily we realized it very quickly, otherwise it could have been dangerous.
The men who were penetrated were not to be outdone.
Nassim confirms: “The size of my partners’ sex is a determining factor for me, as I like to be penetrated. I can’t see myself in a relationship with a man whose sex is too big, too long, and who would hurt me every time. I’ve already given it, and ended up with an anal tear”.
Today, there’s no question of him forcing himself to accept penetration if he feels his partner’s size is too great. His comfort comes first.
“I don’t understand how a woman can have pain with a penis”.
Fortunately, most men “spoiled by Nature” have their partner’s comfort in mind and are rather delicate in intimate moments. They know they can even go so far as to hurt their other half. So they’re careful. But that doesn’t stop them from feeling frustrated at not being able to let go as they’d like. This is particularly true of Pierre, who finds it hard to understand how he can hurt a woman during penetration, “even if he goes in hard”.
“Frankly, women act like sissies just because they’re scared. It’s this fear that blocks them, more than so-called pain. Under the pretext that they’re in pain, it prevents us from letting go and enjoying ourselves…”.
A somewhat macho, or shall we say phallocentric, reflection. But there’s a good reason for it, he says: “Women make whole kids come out of their vaginas, and they want us to believe that it’s a big b**ch that’s going to hurt them? A way of thinking that proves a certain ignorance of the human body…
And Nadine is deeply annoyed, reminding us that penetration is not the only way to get off.
“When I see men complaining that they can’t let go or sodomize their partner because of the size of their penis, it drives me crazy. They need to stop thinking of us as mere masturbatory aids.
So if you’re just in the “norm”, don’t worry. You’re more than capable of pleasing a woman.
