Today,I’m stepping out of myu sual pattern to share areal-life experience with you.Sophia, a dominatrix for many years, is an expert in bondage. On this occasion, Iasked herto share her top tips forgetting started in BDSM with her 15 best positions .
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Rest assured, she wasn’t bound hand and foot to answer my questions. She was willing! What’s that? We’re allowed to laugh a little, aren’t we?
XL: Hello, and thank you foraccepting this interview about bondage. To begin with,could youintroduce yourselfand tell us how you became aspecialist in this field?
Sophia: Hello, I’m delighted to be taking part in this interview. My name is Sophia and I’ve been passionate about the art of bondage for many years. My path in this field started out as a simple curiosity, which turned into a real passion over time. I’ve explored different techniques, taken part in workshops, and above all, I’ve practiced a lot with willing partners, which has enabled me to acquire a certain expertise.
XL : That’s fascinating. But let’s get to the heart of the matter. Let’s talk about positions.Can you share with us the 15 mostpopularbondage positions?
Sophia: Absolutely. Positions in bondage vary according to individual preferences and the creativity of practitioners. So here’s my selection of the 15 most popular positions, with feedback from my own experience and that of my partners:
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The lotus tied
This position involves keeping the legs crossed in the lotus position while tying them down. It’s a very aesthetic position that allows great immobility, but requires good flexibility.
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The hogtie
The hogtie involves tying the ankles and wrists behind the back, forcing the body into a curved position. It’s a fairly intense position that can be very stimulating for both partners.
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Quartering
Yes, the name can be a bit scary! But fear not. In this position, arms and legs are spread wide, often attached to bars or other supports, exposing the body in a vulnerable way. It’s an ideal position for playing with the sensation of constraint and domination.
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The butterfly
Arms are tied behind the back, hands joined at shoulder blade level, while legs are held apart. This position offers great accessibility and varied stimulation of the erogenous zones. Personally, I love it.
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Shibari
I think this is the method most familiar to the general public, those with a generally vanilla sexuality. This form of Japanese bondage involves intricate, aesthetically pleasing patterns created with ropes. Positions vary, but they often highlight the beauty of the body and create a deep connection between partners. It’s very sensual and sexy.
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The suspension in bondage
In this practice, the body is lifted off the ground by ropes, creating a sensation of lightness and a new dimension of constraint. It’s an intense experience that demands great expertise and attention to safety. It’s not the easiest, but it sure is good!
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The chair position
The subject is strapped to a chair, arms behind the back and legs spread and supported. It’s a comfortable position that allows the dominant partner to easily control the submissive’s movements.
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X-shaped bondage
Arms and legs are tied in an X shape, creating a visually captivating image and offering a sensation of total restraint. It’s a versatile position that allows for a variety of play and stimulation. It’s often found in dungeons. It’s impressive and practical.
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The shibari suspension position
This variant of suspension in bondage combines shibari techniques with the sensation of suspension, creating a unique and immersive sensory experience. It’s always interesting to try out variations, as even a slightly different position changes all your sensations. It’s just great.
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The cocoon
The subject is wrapped in ropes or strips of fabric, creating a feeling of enclosure and security. It’s a very intimate position that can foster a deep emotional connection between partners. This is a relationship of dependence, of direct submission, as your partner depends on you.
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Mummification inbondage
In this practice, the body is wrapped tightly in strips of fabric or plastic, restricting movement and sensation. It’s an intense experience that can be both exciting and soothing. It’s all about letting go.
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Aerial suspension
In this advanced position, your partner is suspended in the air by ropes, offering a sensation of total buoyancy and vulnerability. This is an extreme experience requiring expertise and meticulous preparation. It’s not for beginners.
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The inverted lotus
In this variant of the lotus position, the legs are held in the air, offering an unobstructed view of the subject’s private parts and intense stimulation. It’s very exciting to be at your partner’s mercy in this position. I often practice it.
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Bondage with accessories
Using accessories such as handcuffs, blindfolds or gags can add an extra dimension to bondage, limiting the senses and increasing the feeling of vulnerability. It’s like salt in a dish – it’s good without it, but better with it!
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Head down
In this position, the head is positioned downwards, creating a sensation of abandonment and total submission. It can be an emotionally and physically intense position.
XL: Thanks for your feed back ! It may give my readers some ideas. By the way, do you have any tips to share on how to get started ?
Sophia: For beginners, I’d recommend starting slowly and exploring gradually. Don’t put pressure on yourself to achieve complex positions right from the start. Start with simple techniques, get to know your partner’s preferences and limits, and build mutual trust before exploring more advanced territory.
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes and take the time to learn and grow together in your bondage practice. The key is to remain open, communicative and respectful throughout your journey.
Take the time to discuss your limits, desires and fears, and don’t hesitate to consult resources or attend workshops to deepen your knowledge. Above all, have fun and explore safely!
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XL: Excellent advice. Thank you again for this enriching interview, Sophia. It was a pleasure chatting with you.
Sophia: The pleasure was mutual. Thank you very much for this opportunity. If you have any further questions in the future, please don’t hesitate to contact me.
XL: I certainly will. Thanks again and see you soon!
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