You have a little fetish and it makes you feel guilty because you wonder if others share the same obsession. Well, yes, it‘s quite possible! Here are 9 sexual fetishes that are much more common than you might think.

First and fore most, we need to get our facts straight, so that we’re sure we’re talking about the same thing and understand each other. Define what a fetish is, and whether it can pose a problem in society; find out where it comes from and live with it; in short… If you didn’t dare ask the question to those around you for fear of judgment, you might find a sympathetic ear and a sympathetic shoulder here. Because curbing your urges can not only lead to sexual dissatisfaction, it can also be a hindrance to enjoying a good sex life as a couple.

So before we get into the 9 sexual fetishes that are far more common than you might think, let’s review the basics. Go.

Definition of a fetish

In the field of psychology, fetishism is sexual arousal that occurs in response to an atypically sexual object or body part. Sexual fetishes are much more common in men than in women.

To illustrate, if we wanted to translate the origin of fetish literally, we’d speak of “artificial and magical mania”. For the cultural note, since this word comes from the Latin “facticius” (artificial), the Portuguese “fetiço” (magic) and the French “fétiche” (mania). In any case, in today’s society, fetishists tend to be singled out for prejudice. But don’t despair: with the advent of the Internet, society is becoming increasingly accepting of certain practices.

It’s also important to point out that, even if many fetishes are lived out in a hidden way, most of the time they don’t pose any psychological problems for the devotee.

What are the probable causes?

If you were hoping for a clear answer, I’m afraid you’re going to be disappointed. In fact, sexologists and psychologists agree that there is no common cause for the origins of fetishes. However, they also agree that the sources come to life in childhood, since these strange passions can be seen as early as this period, well before the first sexual experience.

More sadly, some sexual fetishes may stem from inappropriate sexual behavior in childhood, either through sexual abuse or trauma generated around their sexuality. In such cases, it is essential to deal with any negative consequences that may arise from these unfortunate experiences, with the help of a professional psychologist.

Is it right or wrong to have fetishes?

Well, that depends on your fetish, I’d say. There are sexual fetishes that only concern the person themselves and others that can be violent and illegal, like crush fetish for example. Obviously, I don’t condone this kind of action. Crushing live animals is punishable by law and has nothing to do with excitement for me.

A sexual fetish is not considered a psychological disorder. Despite this, a fetishist can have problems because of the shame or implications his or her sexual fetish may have. This is how the fetish can become a source of anguish, causing the person to suffer, often through the judgment of those around him or her. So much so that, on many occasions, fetishism can resemble a psychological pathology.

So as long as it only affects you, or your partner, no problem. But if your fetish turns into a paraphilic disorder over which you have no control, then you need to seek psychological help. This is vital because a fetishist ends up having certain repercussions, especially emotionally, as he or she can’t have meaningful sexual relations with other people. And this can get out of hand.

9 sexual fetishes more common than you think

Fortunately, some sexual fetishes can be easily controlled and shared with your partner. What’s more, society is increasingly tolerant of some of these fetishes, which are more common than you might think, and are shared by a good many devotees. The role of the Internet should also be highlighted here, making it easier for fetishists to meet through social networks, websites and blogs.

1 – Sado masochism

Thanks to popular fiction, fashion and art, S&M has been on the rise in recent years. In the past, it was mostly practised by the upper classes, but nowadays, everyone’s trying it out. And understandably so. What could be more exciting than a well-placed spanking? Personally, I never say no. As long as the limits have been established before the session. For safety reasons, the subject should always be discussed beforehand. And aftercare is a must, to see what each partner liked and didn’t like.

2-Role-playing

It’s not just old couples who indulge in role-playing to boost their libido and have an orgasm. The truth is, there’s no age limit on role-playing, and no longevity requirement. What’s more, there are a multitude of them, from the simple secretary to the pony play. Thanks to this sexual fetish, it’s easier to unleash your fantasies and build up your excitement. So if you’ve got a vivid imagination, role-playing is for you.

3 – Podophilia,thefootfetish.

Yes, podo, not pedo. Sexual fantasies about feet are very common. On the plus side, the fetishist loves your feet and wants to pamper them. I love it when someone massages my feet, so a podophile is perfect for that. And here too there are variations on what turns them on, whether it’s simply touching them, or licking them, or having a foot job for example. Nowadays, this fetish is completely accepted by our society, so we might as well make the most of it.

4 – Erotic lingerie

Of all the types of fetish, this is the one that goes unnoticed, as well as being one of the most common. Sexy underwear becomes a fetish when someone needs to be present in a sex scene to participate in relationships. This includes stockings, pantyhose and panties (dirty or clean).

5 – Sensation games

Awakening your senses with different stimuli is part of sexual fetishism. All the sensations you experience are designed to bring you pleasure. You can play with different materials or temperatures. This can be done blindfolded or with hands tied, for example. I’m thinking of Sploshing here, because you can offer many sensations with food. In short, use your imagination and you’ll come up with something.

6 – Bein control

We’re talking here about controlling your partner’s orgasm. This is a rarer sexual fetish because it requires a real will to dominate and enormous pleasure in subduing the other. Basically, you bring the other to the brink of orgasm and stop just short of it. Very, very frustrating to have tried ..

7-Bondage

Another obvious domination and submission game, often classified as sadomasochism. In the bondage fetish, people try to bind their partner to emphasize domination. Unlike sado, this must not harm the other. This sexual fetish is also fairly well accepted by our society.

8 – The psychological game

Some people are turned on by psychological sex games. It’s mind control that appeals here. There can also be humiliation, threats and insults. No problem if your partner is willing. But if not, it can be legally reprehensible.

9 – Voyeurism

There are good and bad practices in this category. If you’re into candaulism, no problem, since every participant is a volunteer. But if you put a camera in a public toilet, that’s bad. But only if they agree. In any case, this sexual fetish is very common in our society (and was long before).

So much for our little (non-exhaustive) list of the most common sexual fetishes. You’ve probably seen others, and perhaps yours isn’t listed here. But for all that, it shows that “normality” is evolving and that our society is becoming more open about sexuality.

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