BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Submission, Sado-Masochism), although still surrounded by stereotypes or often misunderstood, continues to arouse curiosity in many people. And like all sexual practices, it incorporates fantasies that have become commonplace and are among the most popular sexual desires. However, their realization requires particular attention to safety and consent. Whether you’re a novice or an experienced practitioner of eroticism, where control games and the liberation of the senses are intertwined, it’s vital to understand how to approach this practice to guarantee a good sexual experience. By reading this article, you’ll discover the most popular BDSM fantasies and some tips on how to practice them safely and within everyone’s limits.
The most common BDSM fantasies
Fantasies are an inherent part of sexuality. They can take on a variety of dimensions, and even go beyond mere fantasies about BDSM. Among the most common are tying, pegging, nursing (medical role-playing) and sex with a stranger.
Tying games
Tying up is a favorite among erotica enthusiasts. Being tied up and feeling entirely at your partner’s mercy is an intense fantasy for many BDSM enthusiasts. This feeling of being dominated arouses your desire. In other words, you lose some or all of your control. Before embarking on this mode of hardcore BDSM, a bondage kit is recommended for beginners. Ropes, handcuffs and spreader bars can also be used to immobilize and create a feeling of helplessness.
Pegging
Pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman wears a dildo into which she puts a dildo in order to sodomize you. In fact, she wears this dildo and usually pegs you doggy-style. This penetrating woman concept is designed to give you frequent prostate pleasure. Pegging is also about letting yourself be dominated, or letting the woman take control. The point here is to reverse the roles and positions (the penetrator being penetrated in turn) where the woman expresses the masculine principle. In this way, you as a man can discover totally new physical sensations. What’s more, some belts feature a small pocket where you can insert a small vibrator.
Nursing (Medical role-playing game)
Nursing or medical role-playing is a fantasy associated with BDSM. This type of play consists in specially setting up a space as a medical setting for erotic exploration. During this game, you can use equipment to enhance pleasure or add a touch of realism to your erotic play. These include thermometers, suppositories, scalpels, stethoscopes and many other instruments commonly used in medical settings. This game includes the infliction of pain, which becomes a source of intense pleasure for the submissive. Also, your costumes should be in keeping with the theme, such as white coats and surgical masks.
Sex with a stranger
Sex with a stranger is another increasingly popular BDSM fantasy. In this practice, the excitement of an unfamiliar partner, seduction and unattached passion can give you an electrifying sexual experience. It relies on the adrenalin of the unknown and the pleasure of power and submission. Kissing, caressing in an orgy and positions you wouldn’t think possible with a stranger can spice up this erotic moment. The appeal lies in exploring hidden limits and desires with someone you know nothing about.
How can you realize your BDSM fantasies safely?
Whether through ropes or caresses, BDSM allows you to enjoy an unlimited number of games for your sexual imaginations. However, safety remains at the heart of this practice, so that this freedom rhymes with responsibility. This means respecting each other’s limits. Thanks to this thoughtful, consensual approach, BDSM is growing in popularity.
Consent
Whether you’re in a relationship or at a party, you should always ask your partner for consent before indulging your BDSM fantasies. Nobody wants to be spanked, sodomized or tied up without prior consent. By acting without consent, you run the risk of embracing or spoiling that good moment of pleasure. The most important thing here is to communicate clearly and respect a refusal if one is expressed.
Know your limits
If you prefer the idea of being submissive and are open to new experiences related to BDSM fantasies, make sure you communicate your limits to your partner. For example, you enjoy performing cunnilingus on a woman, but would prefer, for the time being, that she not be a fountain woman. You want to be tied up, but only in the presence of someone you know well and trust completely. For this reason, many BDSM enthusiasts define a safeword, a specific word other than “no” or “stop” that, when spoken, means you must end the game.
Finding the right accessories
Many pornographic films feature dungeons, cages, crosses, gynecological tables and accessories of all kinds. If you’re a beginner, we recommend you avoid specialized tools that are often overpriced. You can go to a shop or consult specialized websites to buy a whip, a martinet, leashes, handcuffs, anal hooks and many others. In addition to these areas, DIY stores and supermarkets offer an alternative for finding rings, dog collars, gags or dildos.
Choosing the right place
Many BDSM practices can be performed at home. However, for more intense experiences, we recommend visiting specialized venues. Shibari, for example, requires the intervention of an expert, as this technique can be dangerous if not mastered. Several websites dedicated to BDSM feature information on clubs and private parties where you can meet enthusiasts. It’s also possible to register on swingers’ platforms where many members practice hard sex and with whom you can exchange ideas before organizing a BDSM role-play session.
All in all, remember that BDSM is a rich sexual practice with a wide range of fantasies, enabling enthusiasts to take advantage of a wide range of possibilities to spice up their sex life while cultivating a relationship of trust. Whether you’re drawn to role-playing, bondage or domination, the important thing is that every erotic experience is a safe and rewarding one.
