What do you do when your other half says “not tonight…”? It’s a phrase some people hear all too often, and one that’s not always well accepted. A false excuse for one party, a feeling of rejection for the other… what’s really going on? And how can you transform yourself into a sex goddess?
According to a Yale study, one in two women suffers from sexual dysfunction (lack of desire, vaginal dryness or inability to reach orgasm), and experts say it’s caused by everything from stress to insomnia to the contraceptive pill.
” Female sexual dysfunction is much harder to detect than a visibly flaccid organ,” explains Michael Krychman, MD, medical director of sexual medicine at Hoag Hospital in California. “We’re just beginning to understand the biology and neurochemistry involved.” There is a drug, Flibanserin, on the US market to treat low sexual desire in women.
But not all experts agree that these drugs are a panacea. “If there are problems in the relationship, taking a pill won’t solve the problem,” explains Stephanie Buehler,
Communication first
Dr. Krychman believes there are several things a man can do to help. The first thing, he says, is to sit down and talk to your wife about what’s going on. “Most men want to be supportive, but don’t know the facts,” Dr. Krychman explains. “Ask her how she feels emotionally and physically. Once she knows you want to help, she’ll be more inclined to talk about what she’s going through.” When she does, try these tips to get her back on track in the bedroom.
1 – Feed her desire
A recent study in theInternational Journal of Impotence Research found that women who followed the Mediterranean diet (rich in whole grains, legumes and olive oil) had increased libido and sexual function. In fact, any food that’s good for your heart will increase blood flow to every part of your body.
2 – Lubrication
Vaginal dryness is common in women over 40 and is also a side effect of certain medications, but there is a simple solution: water-based lubricants. It seems self-evident, but many people haven’t tried them.
3 – Seek professional help
If she’s not talking about the problem, it’s time to call a professional. A sexual health specialist can act as a facilitator and initiate dialogue. Lack of sexuality is also one of the most serious signs of marital discord. Or check out Jouissance Club‘s Instagram profile…
And if your wife still isn’t a sex goddess, you can always try live cam to change your daily routine a little!
